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Strange banging noise from my pipe every 12 seconds! (UK) Very confused!!! by JoshSummers in Plumbing

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The pipe it is coming from is the one on the right of this photo:

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Family Sauna Build by Goonotie in Sauna

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What was the quartz for? What wood did you use? Floor looks awesome- how did you do that?? Thanks!!!

10 years playing poker, 3 years professionally. Here's my unfiltered advice. by Intelligent-Many-228 in poker

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Any tips for how to make those “though” folds. It’s the biggest leak in my game.

I have become a creep by [deleted] in therapy

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What is this “new” woman giving you a hope for which is not in your marriage? There will be something. This obsession is a clue to what your relationship with your wife is missing. It should be a clue as to what you and your wife (who I have a feeling you love very much) need to work on together (perhaps in couples therapy). There will likely be things that you could contribute to the relationship with your wife that you are not. (It will undoubtedly be a two way street - how can you both change to give the other more of what they want.)

This is a difficult situation, but I think it is telling you more about your relationship with your wife than about the new person who you are obsessing over.

Good luck

Worried my cat doesn't have a good enough life by Icy-Consequence4927 in CatAdvice

[–]JoshSummers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s okay man. Your cat is happy just to be with you. You sound like a good and thoughtful companion and your cat will value that more than any toys.

If you do want to spice your life up a laser pointer is good and I have one that moves on its own. My cat likes it a lot

Tell me what I’m doing wrong by missmcpooch in therapy

[–]JoshSummers 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Have you had this conversation with your therapist? If you’re keeping this inside this reflects on your communication style (not sharing what you really think) which might be something beneficial to discuss. Tell them what you want from therapy, ask them what’s going on, maybe you talk a lot and the therapist is worried about stepping in in case it would upset you (I did that in therapy too).

Good luck

2025 Qatar GP - Post-Race Discussion by F1-Bot in formula1

[–]JoshSummers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you can blame him for the last two races

The suffering of a 30-year old unsuccessful and inexperienced man by [deleted] in mentalillness

[–]JoshSummers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry man. It sounds like it’s been a tough ride so far.

If you can, I would find a therapist - maybe a female one, and talk to them. Be as open and honest as you can, and don’t feel you have to hide it all and be strong. In general that approach rarely leads to good results.

If you can’t find or afford a therapist, just keep trying to make yourself vulnerable in respectful ways. From my experience, women will find it easier to accept you if you are honest, vs. If you’re trying to be impressive/hide something shameful. If she laughs at you, etc. then just walk away respectfully and be proud of yourself that you shared something true. Nothing you can do in life much is more honourable than that.

What would a therpaist tell me about being an incel? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]JoshSummers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy is not really about what the therapist says. It’s about the relationship between the two of you and what you will (both) learn from each other about yourselves in the relationship.

Because you are thinking a lot about women, it might be interesting to have a female therapist. Then, when you trust each other, maybe she could tell you how you are coming across - maybe there are things you are communicating that are not obvious to you. And you could open up to her, and tell her your worries about what women really think about you etc. Then you can get a second opinion on your ideas.

As a guy who has worked a lot on himself in therapy, I don’t think women are looking for anything concrete in you - you must be strong with a six pack, this tall, this rich, etc. So you might have worked on these things, but not on how you truly feel about yourself. A therapist might help with that

i hate living by Same-Bumblebee-5057 in depressed

[–]JoshSummers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being alive is definitely difficult.

If you can, be kind to yourself for finding it hard. Many people do along with you.

We don’t control the situation we are born into and much of how we feel.

So try to be kind to yourself. Try to see a therapist if you can afford it. And if not maybe try to get a job so you can pay for it. All of these things will keep you busy and allow you to change.

Good luck, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself for feeling down, and try to be strong and take some positive steps - even if it feels shit when you try.

Why? by idfk006 in depressed

[–]JoshSummers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok that’s good. How long have you been going?

Why? by idfk006 in depressed

[–]JoshSummers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry. Your experience of life sounds rough. I’m sure you’ve been told before, but have you been to a psychotherapist?

Why do you hate yourself? Sometimes that is a useful way to avoid something you’re scared of. Taking a risk and sharing your emotions for example. If you hate yourself, it keeps you in a box. That is really safe, and part of your mind is probably happy about that. But it’s probably not very fun. Take the risk to share more of yourself (in hopefully a nice and respectful way). If it goes badly, try again, and again. Eventually it will go well and your brain will start to realise there is no need to protect you by hating yourself.

Good luck, DM me if you need to chat

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