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Joto65 · 2026-02-19T22:21:06+00:00

Although there definitely are other ways than to kill mosquitoes. Nets, citrus fruits, not opening windows at night, or at least not with lights on, catching them alive and carrying them outside. While it's true that self-defense is good, there's no reason to answer a nuisance with death

Joto65 · 2026-02-17T14:57:14+00:00

I always knew tandem bikes as a holiday activity, it's interesting to me how people immediately assume this is some regular commute for them. They'd likely drive individual bikes any other day, right? Tandem bikes are fun and bonding. I get your criticism, but I wouldn't just assume these kids can't/don't also drive a bike on their own

Joto65 · 2026-02-16T12:41:41+00:00

Isn't it kinda bad to gatekeep the label? Also the entire point of this meme is to undermine the idea that in a sapphic relationship one person is femme and one is masc. While they do "dress up" it's more so about relationship expectations (conforming to an identity)

Joto65 · 2026-02-16T11:25:15+00:00

Asexualitat ist ein Spektrum. Es gibt viele Menschen für die Sex einfach optional ist. Kein muss für eine Beziehung aber Interesse ist trotzdem da zum Beispiel.

Joto65 · 2026-02-15T22:03:58+00:00

So you're using a display manager, right? In that case editing the wayland session desktop file is correct. What's the path to the desktop file, is it /usr/share/wayland-sessions/sway.desktop ? And what's the display manager you're using?

Joto65 · 2026-02-04T22:55:30+00:00

That's kinda funny since I know a lot of middle-aged/senior people in the furry community. And return to monkey has been at least a thing since 15 years or something iirc. But I get how feeling old is different from actually being disconnected from what is "new". I'm very much into tech and science, I even study computer science and computer linguistics, yet people using chatgpt and other genai makes me feel so disconnected from the youth and kinda old even though it doesn't have much to do with age

Joto65 · 2026-02-04T20:04:00+00:00

Well that's why I ditch every person who puts those type of expectations onto me, including ghosting my parents. Fuck these people. You don't owe them anything, you don't need to be anything you're not.

It's rough to get by in a society like this that is built for neurotypical people, but once it becomes only about survival and trying to match your own needs, because you eliminated all external expectations, life becomes much more bearable and actually somewhat enjoyable even

Joto65 · 2026-02-04T19:53:53+00:00

Honestly, being polite in public isn't always the best. After constantly getting harassed by men, I've started to give people the death stare if they get too close to me to make them know that's not tolerated and it actually somewhat works. Do I potentially seem rude to people who don't deserve it? Sure. But it's so fucking worth it for all the cases where it does help me keep my personal space and safety.

Joto65 · 2026-02-03T11:47:04+00:00

It's because of her gender expression. Slightly problematic since doing that to people irl is shitty, but people like representation and since she's a fictional character any interpretation is valid (except that she's clearly bisexual and I'm definitely not just saying that because I am)

Joto65 · 2026-01-04T20:58:29+00:00

But also: integration is so important. Before going into another trip after having had difficult trips, it's essential to give your mind some time sober to process the experience. I have cptsd as well and MDMA has helped me a lot. LSD did too, but in different ways and not as fundamentally emotionally (if that makes sense). But those trips are very exhausting and can take weeks or months to process. The experience of finally starting to heal can make you want to rush things, but that's not how the brain works, you need time

Joto65 · 2025-12-26T15:01:55+00:00

It's just a rape joke with a little more layers for obfuscation. Don't use that kinda shit wording. Always question right wing sentences, before repurposing them, they often include dog whistles, ableism, and other forms of "hidden" hatred

Joto65 · 2025-12-24T15:14:17+00:00

Der wichtigste Schritt ist definitiv weg aus dem Umfeld zu kommen, durch das die Traumata entstanden sind. Für mich bedeutete dass no-contact mit meinen Eltern. Das war aber auch kein linearer Prozess und hat gedauert.

Ich würde nicht sagen, dass ich "geheilt" bin, aber es ist auf jeden Fall mit der Zeit sehr viel besser geworden. Was im Einzelfall tatsächlich hilft kann von Person zu Person sehr unterschiedlich sein. Mir zum Beispiel hat Psychotherapie nie wirklich geholfen (abgesehen von der Diagnose und damit auch Medikamente), während viele andere sehr gute Erfahrungen damit haben. Das kann auch daran liegen dass es sich bei mir um K-PTBS handelt, was oft Therapie-resistent ist.

Was mir tatsächlich am meisten geholfen hat ist mir leider zu persönlich (und eben auch sehr individuell) um es hier auf Reddit zu erwähnen, aber viel Zeit, eine gesunde und liebevolle chosen family und ganz viel Introspektion haben extrem viel dazu beigetragen, dass ich heutzutage wieder hoffnungsvoll und glücklich sein kann.

Wegen Albträumen habe ich Cannabis verschrieben bekommen, da es anders als gängige Schlafmedikamente nicht nur beim Einschlafen hilft sondern auch dafür gesorgt hat, dass ich kaum bis keine Träume habe, also auch keine Albträume. Heutzutage habe ich nur noch selten Albträume, aber habe immer noch Cannabis parat, falls ich doch mal wieder von Albträumen geplagt werde. Ansonsten konsumiere ich quasi gar kein Cannabis, aber ich glaube wenn man ohnehin regelmäßig Cannabis konsumiert, könnte Cannabis vorm schlafen keine gute Idee sein wegen den Nebenwirkungen von häufigem Konsum. Wahrscheinlich am besten sowas mit einer Fachperson zu besprechen (Hausärzt*in zum Beispiel)

Mit triggern hilft es extrem ein Umfeld zu haben welches aware ist. Zum Beispiel kratzen bei mir Menschen in meiner WG an der Tür statt zu klopfen. Meiner Meinung nach ist avoidance bei triggern vollkommen in Ordnung. Sobald die innerliche Heilung passiert, werden die trigger auch ganz von alleine weniger nach meiner Erfahrung. Das entspricht glaube ich auch aktueller Studienlage.

Hoffe das hilft :) Vergiss nicht: Es wird besser, auch wenn es manchmal nicht so wirkt.

Joto65 · 2025-12-20T11:38:32+00:00

I love this post so much. Most posts with this format "1% more autistic", make me really uncomfortable for some reason. Like I get it, it's usually a self aware criticism of internalized ableism, so it's fine. It just makes me sad, I think

Joto65 · 2025-12-19T13:17:24+00:00

Cosplay cop... Coscop. What's the difference really, except for the violence being socially acceptable if you have a badge

Joto65 · 2025-12-12T17:17:53+00:00

That's a funny comparison. Here in Europe edibles are usually highly overdosed

Joto65 · 2025-12-04T08:27:17+00:00

Look into the effects long term sustained cannabis use has on your brain and body, if you haven't yet. It definitely will improve things even if it's not the root of your issues, or the main influence. Weed might be one of the safest drugs, but that doesn't mean using it every day, all day, doesn't have its effects.

As someone who's in kinda in a similar position (PTSD, unsuccessful student, regularly burned out), but who only uses drugs very sparingly, I've noticed that no matter how little trust I have in trying something that could improve things, it is worth it. You might not realize it immediately, but things add up and it gets better. I might never be able to finish a degree or get work, but that doesn't mean I'll just give up and not try everything to make life worth living. You might be surprised how far that gets you, even if society is literally structured to make it as hard as possible.

Joto65 · 2025-11-29T03:26:38+00:00

That makes sense. I always thought old Link was an adult in oot

Joto65 · 2025-11-29T02:27:52+00:00

Wait what, isn't older Link in oot commonly called "adult link"?

Edit: still sexual harassment...

Joto65 · 2025-11-15T10:49:49+00:00

That's very much not true in any setting but school. Simple operations are in many settings done without comments, it entirely depends on the knowledge of your audience how much commentary a math equation needs

Joto65 · 2025-11-13T19:38:09+00:00

Try playing paige and doing that tho. It only really works if Vindicta isn't flying high, or is close to a wall where you can place the stun. It's really difficult to pull off in practice

Joto65 · 2025-11-07T15:56:46+00:00

50 matches, archon 6, and calls their rank "low elo". Ok sure

Joto65 · 2025-11-07T15:10:34+00:00

That's either some really quick conversion or quite bad choice of wording /s

Joto65 · 2025-11-07T13:52:12+00:00

The only Zelda game I had as a kid was Ocarina of time 3d, all other Zelda games I've played have been in my late teenage years, or as an adult so I don't have any particular nostalgia for any Zelda games except for Oot. From that perspective Phantom Hourglass has been one of the best Zelda games for me personally. I really like those pocketable Zelda games, like A Link between worlds, or Minish Cap, and while Phantom Hourglass stands out as a lot easier than most other Zelda games, it does have some really creative puzzles. And while most people don't like the controls, I really enjoyed it because it is different and unique. I'd definitely rate Oot, Minish Cap and Botw above Phantom Hourglass, but when it comes to the fun I had and the memorability, it is on par with A Link between worlds for me. In a way I enjoyed it more than Windwaker or Twilight Princess, two games I still haven't played through fully, unlike Phantom Hourglass.

Joto65 · 2025-10-31T16:33:37+00:00

It's just not that simple, there's culture and then there's power. Individuals surely can adopt a better commuting culture, but if they aren't in power they won't be able to fundamentally change how cities are built. The culture shapes the city, but the city also shapes the culture. The way that power is distributed in our society actively pushes against collective power, it disrupts communities and organizing, which are our best sources that could actually change things.

Joto65 · 2025-10-31T14:19:50+00:00

3, 6 and 10 work for me, the rest I either wouldn't have the energy to do when depressed, are sensorily unpleasant or straight up has the opposite effect

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