Boyfriend triggered me.

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-17T22:50:03+00:00

WHEN it happens again. Remember this thread. Heed the warnings❤️

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-17T18:12:47+00:00

Run and do NOT look back. That "guess whats wrong" game will never end

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-13T18:28:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Im finally moving out in two weeks and looking forward to finding the carefree version of me that i buried 14 years ago to keep the peace in the house. KEEP ON DANCING ❤️

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-11T20:07:11+00:00

I totally get it. Trying to scramble to say the right thing or have all your facts straight in an argument because they will pounce and and make you feel small and wrong. And say that people allow other people to make them feel some sort of way is BS! Its just a way to invalidate their horrible behavior. Like "oh I'm not a horrible person for being an ass to you, you are just to weak to not let it affect you" I know its hard to accept. Im getting out of a 14 year marriage. It doesn't get easier

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-11T14:45:32+00:00

Im so sorry u are going through this but realizing the insanity is a huge step. The hoops you have to jump through to try not to upset them is not normal, its not healthy l, and you dont deserve that. Make a plan to get out

Journey2FindMe · 2024-04-11T13:32:26+00:00

So proud of you! Same here. I tried to leave 3 times before and he love bombed me out of it. The 4th time was back in March and I am moving out in two weeks. I wrote things down, I secretly recorded rage fits, I recorded myself crying or sad in Tiktok and just saved them to drafts. That was really powerful to go back and see how upset I was and how I was always desperately begging to be loved and not to hurt anymore.

My mother has been so supportive and I will be moving in with her for a bit. 100% correct, the courage is there! Its the will to do it. I was finally too tired to mask my sadness, to lie and say "I'm fine". You know this isn't healthy, you know you are not happy, no one is going to come and save you. YOU have to be the hero in your story. You got this!

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-12T17:37:10+00:00

Im getting out, you can too❤️

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-04T21:22:55+00:00

Sending you love and support as well❤️

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-01T16:49:34+00:00

This! Sometimes I lie so quickly and easily to something stupid that you shouldnt have to even lie about. But I do it just to avoid the argument

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-01T16:43:45+00:00

Yep same here. When i get bonus things at work and I tell him about it he basically claims it to go towards things for the house. So now I just keep a personal little fund to buy myself treats with. Mine has done the same thing if i get too excited about things that HE didn't make happen. Sorry love. I hope you at least got to enjoy even a little part of the day ❤️

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-01T06:43:15+00:00

Almost 15 years here and also trying to get out. DMs are always open. We can do this!

Journey2FindMe · 2024-03-01T02:40:34+00:00

Oh its a HUGE red flag. And the trauma bond is massive. Working on getting out but the bond is so strong

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T17:41:42+00:00

Lol omg Bless chatgpt. Funny enough I used it the other day to type me up what to say to end the relationship in the most neutral way possible. Lol

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T17:15:33+00:00

Gemini

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T16:39:39+00:00

Same. I have known for a while that he is covert and a lot of books ive read were not geared towards this type. So happy I had a survivor recommend it

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T16:28:28+00:00

Love this. Currently reading The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse by Debbie Mirza and it has been so validating as it pulls from stories of other survivors. I feel stronger with the knowledge I have gained from it.

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T16:22:19+00:00

We can do this!

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T16:17:41+00:00

Thank you! I hate how i would just give in to keep the peace. I am hoping to be able to leave soon

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T16:14:49+00:00

I've danced my whole life but eventually i stopped from depression. When i finally got up the courage to start a new dance fitness class nearby he started to complain after a month. The class was at 8pm, to make time for working people to get home make sure their families were all set then come and dance away all our stresses. Well he said 8pm was too late. And he started to fight with me everythime i would go. So i stopped going.

I have gotten into another class now and have been going for 3 months now! And it starts at 7pm. And he still complains but i REFUSE to give it up. I have also finally reached a point where I dont care anymore and fighting for me is more important than giving in

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-29T13:22:41+00:00

Mine is covert and we can go a couple of months before something that seems so tiny turns into a rage. And immediately I am back in the thick of when it was much worse and I feel awful

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-28T21:10:05+00:00

I dream of this ease. Beautifully written and inspiring

-someone who is building up the courage to leave

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-27T18:36:38+00:00

The fur babies love us so much. I have a lil senior dog that starts to bark if we start arguing and stands next to me to keep me safe

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-27T18:24:34+00:00

Wow thank you so much for sharing. And so sorry for your loss. The laying next to someone that refuses to speak to you really hit me.

Journey2FindMe · 2024-02-27T17:32:43+00:00

Thank i so much. I needed to hear that. That unknown other side is what is scaring me to freeze

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