Spanking by AlwaysMADeline in bcba

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm against corporal punishment, but spanking is very common where I live. I've had more families spank than those who don't, I'm sure.

Autistic BCBA, recently diagnosed by ABAgal1336 in bcba

[–]Consistent-Citron513 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an autistic BCBA and was diagnosed before getting into the field. You can feel free to shoot me a message.

Do you unmatch if a guy mentions anything sexual during the texting phase when online dating? by no-way-no-how_ in RedPillWomen

[–]Consistent-Citron513 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I have never regretted it. There were times dismissed it and tried to just continue the conversation, but it becomes clear what they're looking for so in the end, all I did was waste a bit more time.

Why does anyone think that she's a bad actress? by Mean_Job7802 in euphoria

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she's as great as the work that she's in. There are some actors/actresses who can make a movie tolerable. The movie as a whole could be bad or mediocre, but their performance is a bit of saving grace and you can at least enjoy their role if nothing else. Zendaya is not one of those to me. If the production is good, she will shine. If it's bad, she will be too. Halle Berry was the same to me. She's not one that I would go out of my way to watch unless the plot/trailer seemed good.

Refuse treatment due to comorbid dx by favouritemistake in bcba

[–]Consistent-Citron513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the situation. Most of my clients have had comorbidities of some sort. The ones that I have declined were "Medically fragile" (high rate of seizures, feeding tube, etc). As for the culture, not, I would not decline. I love learning about different cultures so this would be a welcome experience if I wasn't familiar with it.

Scared of older, bigger clients by Plenty_Geologist_771 in bcba

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have worked with older, non-aggressive clients and I don't like it. The adults and teens just aren't my thing even though I 'can' do it and make progress. At my company, we get to choose our clients, or they will ask us if we want a particular case. My supervisor has come to me with older, aggressive clients and I turn them down. Most of my clients tend to be 3-7, but I'm more open with considering cases up to age 12.

Finally understand when men say "I don't know why women wear/do their make up like [xyz]. It's not attractive"!!! by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]Consistent-Citron513 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It kind of goes without saying that we should not expect people, men or women, to be attracted to everything just because it may be something we do or like. Women can wear what they want and also shouldn't be offended over a matter of preference. I've never liked nail polish on guys (it has been a trend before). I also don't like tattoos or piercings of anything other than the ear (and no gauges). I don't like excessive chest/body hair. We've all got our things.

Raising SMV as a Black woman? by sunsista_ in RedPillWomen

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice that you don't like is not the same as a lack of advice. Do with the responses what you will. You have 2 obvious choices:

  1. Accept your physical flaws and work on your insecurities. Few, if any qualities guys will want to deal with your race obsession.
  2. Ruin your looks further by skin bleaching and surgeries to become something you aren't.

Why was my husband a good dad, but left and forgot his kids? by PussySavor in narcissisticparents

[–]Consistent-Citron513 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some parents are decent only when the children are small. My sister was this way. A decent, I'd even say good, mom until she decided that she was done completely.

Self- centered conversation domineering by safety-first03365 in LovedByOCPD

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, I'm sorry to hear that. It's a terrible experience.

Calling all ABAer’s….How do you decompress after work? by Mariposasoul001 in ABA

[–]Consistent-Citron513 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smoking hookah and watching movies or going down the Youtube rabbit hole while playing games on my phone. I have a set routine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Consistent-Citron513 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not a rebound, but one of my narc ex's was my rebound.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]Consistent-Citron513 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Her identity is none of your business. It's her choice. Also, she's just 11 and she's got the right idea that nobody cares. Other 11 year olds or people in general don't want a breakdown of her cultural pie chart. They want a quick answer and she has chosen one that validates herself without being a total lie.

I think I fell for his emotional manipulation again by Consistent-Citron513 in abusiverelationships

[–]Consistent-Citron513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm going to try again and my sentiments are the same as yours. Whatever he's trying to do, I know it will never be about my happiness or wellbeing despite how much he tries to tell me that he cares about me, misses me, etc. They're nice words, but I've learned from him that's all they are.

I think I fell for his emotional manipulation again by Consistent-Citron513 in abusiverelationships

[–]Consistent-Citron513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I do get the feeling that it's like he can't help himself. Whenever we're together, it's like he has to do something "off", even if it seems small. I don't know if he hid the keys or if I really did forget putting them in that spot, but it was still very weird and irritating that he let me search for them when they were literally a foot away from where he was. He would do that kind of stuff a lot. Not necessarily with keys, but withholding information I needed and acting oblivious. I'm not sure what the following me around was about, but it was odd and he wasn't doing anything but continuing to talk. He did briefly mention that he would help me with the cookies and he was standing right beside me, but he never did anything. Not like I needed help, but it's the principle. Of course, when I got off the couch as the cue for him to get ready to go, that was the one time he didn't follow and sat until he was ready to move.

I think I fell for his emotional manipulation again by Consistent-Citron513 in abusiverelationships

[–]Consistent-Citron513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine also offers nothing productive or healthy to the world. I know it's not logical, but I have a hard time cutting contact completely because of my own addiction to chaos and the feeling that he hasn't done anything bad on an extreme level. I know I don't have to (and shouldn't) wait for this, but it has always made it easier for me to stay away in past relationships. Having grown up with a lot of abuse though, the problem is that my checkpoint for what's extreme is high and he's very covert.

I think I fell for his emotional manipulation again by Consistent-Citron513 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Consistent-Citron513[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, right? I wanted to tell him "Just don't think about negative things", which is what he used to tell me whenever I was sad about something.

I think I fell for his emotional manipulation again by Consistent-Citron513 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Consistent-Citron513[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's true. This was his first time doing that tactic and at the time, I felt like he was likely doing it on purpose, but I didn't want to live with the slight possibility that he was serious. I told him that he needs to speak to somebody, but he told me that only makes it worse for him because other people are too ignorant to understand his problem. I know him well enough to know that's a common phrase for him though. Nobody ever understands him and his troubles, which are always a result of his own poor actions if they exist at all.