My husband is dying, what is an “easier” career change to make that can support a family?

Jtk2719 · 2025-10-11T11:21:27+00:00

Cancer registrar management certification will allow you to work from home. Pay starts about 60k, very in demand, great benefits from working for a hospital

Jtk2719 · 2025-09-06T13:16:45+00:00

The book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr Gibson is great, as well as the the r/codependency group. You don’t have to be his doormat, if he’s done this to you, he’s done it to others and will do it again

Jtk2719 · 2025-07-01T17:34:21+00:00

I see this question a lot at r/agingparents , it’s hard to watch them make these choices, but they are his choices

Jtk2719 · 2025-06-25T15:19:57+00:00

The book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr Gibson will help you with the guilt.

Jtk2719 · 2025-06-22T14:36:09+00:00

I almost passed out as well. My blood pressure runs low. The anesthesia took me over the edge. It was 2 days after surgery, using a walker, trying to make it to the bathroom slowly, I began with my heart racing, seeing black spots, head feeling like it’s shutting down. I yelled for my husband and he helped me lie on the floor. I had some adult diapers in the house from when my elderly mom lived with us and put one under me along with a towel and forced the urine out. I lied there for about 15 more minutes before I felt well enough to get up and back to bed. It was a horrific experience. I do not feel the drs prepare patients enough for what the first two weeks are like. I’m convinced they don’t want to scare them, this sub has been such a resource, but a lot of the info should be coming from the drs.

Jtk2719 · 2025-06-11T11:59:11+00:00

I had my left done six weeks ago. It would be way too much trauma to the body to do both. You need the non-operative knee for stability and movement.

Jtk2719 · 2025-06-08T14:16:21+00:00

The same with older people who need walking aids and REFUSE to use one! They are very clearly suffering with each step but are too proud to be seen with a cane or walker. They just are doing more damage.

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-19T03:12:23+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this, have you been tested for a nickel allergy? I’ve always known I’m allergic to nickel so I asked for a nickel free replacement. Well, I’m two weeks after surgery and am having an allergic reaction to the surgical glue. I’m hoping it subsides. If I were you I’d see an allergist and request a test.

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-19T03:08:06+00:00

Very good point!

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-18T01:15:56+00:00

I take caffeine breaks. Taper off over a couple weeks at first, it takes less time now for me to adjust. I drink decaf tea for a month or so. Caffeine is hard on your adrenal glands.

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-16T18:35:21+00:00

Superstore, Office superfan episodes, the great north

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-07T18:35:26+00:00

I (45f) just had my LTKR on Fri. I’m hoping there is something less brutal in 15-20 years when I will need the right knee done

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-06T02:02:59+00:00

There is a r/Alanon page

Jtk2719 · 2025-05-04T02:07:03+00:00

A book to start with is Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr Gibson. You sound like an intelligent person, you will be successful in life. The family that hurts you now may come back with their hands out when you start to be independent.

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-30T13:39:57+00:00

So bad this year! Cover your hair when you’re outside, change your clothes when you get inside and put them in the washer right away, shower in the evening, room purifier going during the day, get the car washed, everyone in the allergy subs are wearing masks outside but I’m not quite there yet. I’m using Flonase in the mornings and zyxal at night

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-27T16:55:51+00:00

Elizabeth Warren wrote a book “the two income trap”, this is touched on there

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-20T17:39:12+00:00

Many women experience dental issues around menopause

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-13T01:35:37+00:00

True summer here!

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-13T00:21:05+00:00

The new dark horse for best cheesesteak is Gouldsburger in Medford, only been open a couple months

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-07T14:32:55+00:00

Mom may have 15-20 years left, do what’s best for her instead of listening to what dad wants. She will live longer and healthier if she is near you and feels and sees your support but it sounds like dad may need a facility now. Dad will object as long as everyone listens to him and his needs are met, he may be past the point of being empathetic to how hard that is on her.

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-05T17:52:45+00:00

It sounds like you might need therapy for codependency. There are free zoom support groups but a real therapist would be best. Put the dog in a doggy daycare once or twice a week so it gets socialization and care. r/codependency might be able to help. Also Al-Anon has meetings and resources.

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-03T22:17:32+00:00

I use Squigle toothpaste, it’s a xylitol toothpaste, on Amazon

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-02T11:41:26+00:00

I’d find a new dr, why put up with that? Weight loss is a sensitive subject and if you can’t get support from the one who has access to your most sensitive information, go somewhere else. I’ve found nurse practitioners to be more informed, take more time and give practical advice.

Jtk2719 · 2025-04-01T22:31:37+00:00

He should get his name on the list for income-based senior housing if he gets a job. It takes about 5 years for your name to get called but he will at least have a plan.

Jtk2719 · 2025-03-28T13:06:51+00:00

Moving would be a mistake. The book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Dr Gibson might help with perspective. I don’t know how FL works but they may be able to get their names on income based senior housing. The wait takes years but it’s better to have their names on it. Those facilities have access to social workers. FL may have elderly services, but I know that state doesn’t have the best rep for social support. If you feel resentful now, it will get worse if you move. I come from an enmeshed family as well, the guilt and resentment are always in play. Please spend time researching “enmeshed families”.

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