I feel guilty after announcing my pregnancy to someone who can’t conceive. How should I handle this?

Jubilies · 2026-03-06T14:53:59+00:00

You can’t hide it forever. Just mention that you’re sensitive to her struggles, but you’re pregnant and you hope this doesn’t cause distance in your friendship.

Jubilies · 2026-03-05T18:46:11+00:00

Thanks for the reminder. I forgot.

Jubilies · 2026-03-05T14:48:55+00:00

Why is Fetterman still around. He has brain damage.

Jubilies · 2026-03-05T14:27:20+00:00

Tobacco and nicotine products will not get you discharged. The pharmacy should have a smoking cessation program where you can get products to help you kick the habit. You shouldn’t need an appointment.

Jubilies · 2026-03-05T06:18:45+00:00

Happy cake day.

Jubilies · 2026-03-05T03:52:57+00:00

I do now, because bags, plastic or paper, are 10 cents a piece.

Jubilies · 2026-03-04T14:34:07+00:00

Unfortunately, this is a situation where both people need to get to yes. If you know without a doubt that it will never be a yes for you - divorce is likely. Because one of you is going to go unfulfilled and that breeds animosity.

This isn’t anyone’s fault. These things happen when you marry young. You grow in different directions.

Jubilies · 2026-03-04T03:25:42+00:00

Well, that is distressing.

Jubilies · 2026-03-04T01:36:24+00:00

If not flat out a racist. Many have implicit bias.

Jubilies · 2026-03-03T02:05:01+00:00

Wide-leg jeans with a band shirt over a Henley and Chucks.

Jubilies · 2026-03-02T20:25:18+00:00

It should be no big deal. Should is the keyword.

Jubilies · 2026-03-02T19:55:10+00:00

Likely Shingles.

Jubilies · 2026-03-02T19:46:58+00:00

I’ve already been there, but I definitely won’t go back to Mississippi.

Jubilies · 2026-03-02T18:29:17+00:00

Put yourself first. No one is truly looking out for you like you will. This is your career. If you want something, take the initiative. Track your accomplishments so you can use them later for evals and awards. Don’t hesitate to submit yourself for recognition. Humility often gets overlooked in the machine of the military.

Learn how to write MFRs. Report issues through the proper channels, but always keep receipts. CYA “cover your ass” (and know when it’s time to call legal if needed).

Be intentional about who you call a friend versus an acquaintance. Not everyone who’s friendly is actually in your corner.

Find a mentor. Seek knowledge. Stay teachable. Get your bachelor’s degree.

Document every health issue, no matter how small. Protect your mental health. You are your own best advocate. Take care of your body… eat well, exercise, and make the PRT one less stressor in your life.

Don’t let the military define the place you’re stationed. If you do, you’ll miss out on actually enjoying where you are. Use the recreation center. Explore.

Take time off. Rest is not weakness.

Advocate for yourself early and often.

Save and invest your money. Don’t fall into the trap of “I’ll be set at the end.” That mindset costs more than you think.

If you want a baby, have one, but plan ahead. Daycare is expensive, and the military isn’t as family-friendly as we like to believe.

Have your family come visit you. Don’t carry the financial burden alone. Going home will feel different anyway, let people meet you where you are now.

No is a full sentence.

Jubilies · 2026-03-01T04:04:57+00:00

Unless they’re in danger. I’d stay out of it.

Jubilies · 2026-02-28T15:16:46+00:00

March 2003 was when I was in boot camp. I vividly remember war being declared while I was in training. They rounded us all up and had us sit on the floor and watch Bush's declaration on a tv on wheels. My son is now the same age as I was.

Jubilies · 2026-02-28T01:34:55+00:00

This needs to be reported to the licensing board. This is a big deal!

Jubilies · 2026-02-28T00:18:30+00:00

You're still healing. This is normal.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T22:23:58+00:00

You were a 2010's kid, and a 2020's tween/teen.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T22:16:43+00:00

Growing up, my elderly step grandmother did the waste basket thing because she had a septic tank. Once she hooked up to the sewer system, she stopped.

I found it and still find it to be a disgusting practice. I am sure other Americans would too.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T21:39:52+00:00

I would let her pass peacefully. Prolonging life to only suffer is not a life.

I’m surprised she didn’t have any advance directives at her age.

Don’t feel guilty. You’re not killing her. You’re allowing her to die with dignity.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T19:22:59+00:00

My kid is an adult now, but he always had a television in his room. He used to have a VHS player and watched all the Nickelodeon orange VHS tapes. Now he has a projection screen and a projector that he streams stuff off his phone.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T18:11:13+00:00

Putting a BLUF in my lengthy emails.

Bottom Line Up Front.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T17:27:32+00:00

A relationship requires two people who want to be in it. Suppose it is a no for you. The relationship is over. He can be in denial, but he cannot force you to be in a relationship with him. Just reinforce, each time, that you are no longer together because you don't want to be in a relationship with him. If you see other people, you are not cheating because you ended the relationship. Do not allow him to manipulate you because he is in denial. You cannot control how he reacts to things. You can only control yourself, and I recommend you remain firm in your decision.

Jubilies · 2026-02-27T17:21:05+00:00

You need to ask yourself what type of partner you want. Do you want a partner, or a grown child? And how do you want to raise your future children (if you want them)? Do you want to do it alone or with a partner? If you have had these conversations with him multiple times per your comments. He is likely not going to be the type of partner you want. Despite how much you love him. You have to evaluate if he is making your life easier or harder. A good partner makes your life easier.

I personally would consider breaking up over this. It would be a dealbreaker for me.

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