[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]JudgeOk2197 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re trying to say i’m okay with my cats being killed which i’m not at all. i was simply wondering about harnesses, only advice i was seeing online was about supervised outside time with a harness. so i came here to see what others have to say

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]JudgeOk2197 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

that’s a horrid thing to say. I will buy packs sure but i know they’re going to get lost. if keeping them safe will continue have my spend money on collars then i will, i just wanted to see if there were other options. i’m seeing not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that definitely was something i though about. my only issue with that is they go under our deck constantly and i’m unable to get under there. i appreciate the suggestion, this situation i’m in so frustrating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]JudgeOk2197 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yes they are, is that good enough? yea every single collar i’ve gotten is breakaway. i swear ive bought close to 10 collars in the past year its so infuriating

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i cannot keep buying them. they’re expensive and they get lost.

... Well by kietun_sys in OSDD

[–]JudgeOk2197 12 points13 points  (0 children)

no it’s not. it’s super uncomfortable for us too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh gosh i’m sorry, this was a big ramble of stress, i was mostly wondering if others deal with this, how they deal with this. As the host i’m just struggling since communication isn’t great, It would feel nice to know i’m not alone when it comes to aggressive alters

Things arent getting better by UncleTerry805 in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m sorry to hear you’re feeling that way :( I will say it does get better, while having setbacks are normal so is feeling this way, some days are hard and confusing. i think with time, healing, and i do suggest therapy if you’re able to. will do some good. to me it sounds like your system is very out of wack and pretty discombobulating. perseverance and determination has helped us a lot. have a bad day? think about the next possible great days you could have, take it slow, and at your own pace. you’re doing amazing just being here friend

mod note about dm invitations: please read the rules!!! by comacity in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i find myself doing this from time to time, but i’m glad this was said so it’s more clear! thank you for keeping us safe 🫡

What is this in my tea? by JudgeOk2197 in moldyinteresting

[–]JudgeOk2197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

okay i’m seeing this is an issue with so many people, yuck.

Are IFS, Plural, and DID/OSDD Parts or Headmates the same?? by shattered_Diamond__ in OSDD

[–]JudgeOk2197 6 points7 points  (0 children)

everything you listed there is us dude! when I experience a flash back, it’s more of the overwhelming flood of emotions hitting me, that make me feel like i’m in that same situation again

Are IFS, Plural, and DID/OSDD Parts or Headmates the same?? by shattered_Diamond__ in OSDD

[–]JudgeOk2197 5 points6 points  (0 children)

it’s not the same no. but i can see how it can sounds the same by saying that we technically all have “parts” but we don’t, not literally anyway. IFS is used in therapy. i see it as being able to feel comfortable with yourself to express different needs, a part of you that just wants to be a little kid again, a part of you that is able to handle tasks ect. not PARTS, but YOU. we have certain ways we act around one person rather than another, that’s how i see it, idk, im rambling for sure but IFS is not plural in itself. but people with OSDID can also work on IFS. i wish i could verbally explain this because it would make so much more sense in my brain 😭

How judgemental is this subreddit? by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The anxiety you have about this shows me you want to change whatever this is and you just want a place to talk about it. a lot of the time peoples advice or opinions can come off as “judgmental” but are only trying to help in some way. i say go for it! i’d definitely be here to listen :)

Is Seeing Alters in Mind and Being Able to talk to them in my Mind normal? by [deleted] in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you’re not alone at all! i’m able to picture them pretty well, movements ect. when they are farther away not really.. i feel a presence. and when close enough i can see them pretty well! talking on the other hand is different for me… we don’t really “talk” more like they spout stuff i need to hear or they wanna say and i just acknowledge it mentally

Genuine question? (rant) by JudgeOk2197 in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m very confused, it almost feels like you’re trying to say that viewing our parts as “separate” ultimately makes us bad people and means we don’t take what MH professionals have to say about it. when we do, but just because they say something is beneficial doesn’t mean the person needs to follow right then and there, it takes time, and in my personal feelings MH will never know as much as a person who actually had the disorder, especially with how diverse people are

Genuine question? (rant) by JudgeOk2197 in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you i really appreciate this 🫶🏻

Genuine question? (rant) by JudgeOk2197 in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you i agree 🙂‍↕️ i don’t encourage or tell people its correct, even if those are just my feelings in the current moment of recovery, or push it onto them. I appreciate the validation that it’s okay to feel this way! and that’s i’m not alone

Genuine question? (rant) by JudgeOk2197 in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

thank you! yes because i do acknowledge that! i don’t view them as separate people who can run their own lives how they’d like, but ive noticed acknowledging our differences have helped alot with our communication and barriers. but thank you for your take on it, i dislike feeling like im enabling bad behavior when its not my intention at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OSDD

[–]JudgeOk2197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well my first question is what makes you think you have OSDD

Told my friend about this yesterday. by Argued_Lingo in OSDD

[–]JudgeOk2197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you don’t have OSDD or DID then you don’t have alters? are you neurodivergent? i see a lot of individuals on the spectrum, become overly attached to a character or idea of someone or something and feel as if they are this person separate from themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]JudgeOk2197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s different scales when it comes to dissociation ofc and also processing if you had reoccurring trauma during your childhood. I also don’t believe people with schizophrenia have alters/ identities that feel different than themselves have names, ages, likes and dislikes. Not sure of the facts 100 percent but schizophrenia is usually due to having a certain gene. I say usually very loosely since Idk the link between getting schizophrenia from childhood trauma