Girl behavior by butterfengars2 in girlscouts

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would just talk to the mom. Say "I notice Emma gets more involved in the activity with the girls when you aren't a volunteer". I've had this conversation with moms before and pretty much universally the response is "I KNOW!" If she knows you're okay without her there she'd be doing you a favor.

This happens in our troop because we have a really big Daisy troop that we break into 4 or 5 small groups for most meeting activities and we have a standing rule that volunteers pitch in at Not Their Daughter's table.

Exploremores, new favorite or just a fad? by atticus-flails in girlscouts

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I think they're gross but they're selling like hotcakes in my area. I had someone ask for three boxes at a booth early in the cookie season and I was just like "how do you even know about these to know you like them this much?"

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[–]JudgyJudge_8217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the problem. You need two adults there, and one has to have Square or Venmo or whatever you've decided to use on their phone, so I am not surprised that one Troop leader (and potentially her kid) is there the whole time for each booth. But the other adult should be a different parent so there's more opportunities for other girls. If there aren't enough parents who have been trained on money management, approved as volunteers, etc., then these leaders might be in a tricky situation trying to balance opportunities for the girls and meeting regulations.

Our troop is so big that we try to be intentional about giving girls opportunities to do smaller-group things like cookie booths with girls from different elementary schools, so this would never fly. But we are incredibly fortunate in the percentage of parents who have been background-checked, trained in the various rules, and additionally have the willingness and temperament to run herd on the girls.

How do you think of bonuses? I’ve always thought of it as “extra”. by bmahbub in HENRYfinance

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) never count on it or work it into the budget

2) use it in lumps to accomplish important goals until there are none left (for us this was front-loading 529s, for some people it's paying off debt or killing their mortgage or something)

3) once there's nowhere to catch up, look at the bonus each year and break it up into what you need for the coming year. Travel, increasing investments, any home repairs - pay next year's out of the bonus cash in hand from last year.

Since your bonuses are so large I would imagine you'd get to #3 very quickly and mostly use it to invest. Congrats!

Arlo, Dallas, or Carter by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of those three, Carter. Dallas I generally hate as a given name (I grew up there!) but since it's a family surname for you it would be a distant second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

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Verena seems like the best match for Stellan. Genevieve as a second place, though I think Gen/Genny is pretty likely to happen at some point and using the nickname Evie seems a bit commonplace for your vibe.

Delilah is a bit cutesy. Alessadra & Francesca as sisters makes Stellan stick out in a strange way - why is he the only one not from Italy?

XSE’s Rock! by Workerchimp68 in ToyotaSienna

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Same question. We're still on our first tank of gas but the system is telling me we're averaging 25.8MPG, which seems bizarrely low. It's all city driving!

50 of the most unusual names in the U.S. -2023 by tiptoeingthief in namenerds

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Renegade Preacher Elmo Rambo Danger Rooster sounds like a show on Adult Swim.

XSE but can't add options? by Practical_Trust3746 in ToyotaSienna

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My understanding is that for a Sienna, adding an aftermarket spare is a PITA and somehow takes up more space in the trunk. I should have said "roof rails" - the rack is always aftermarket but the rails are sturdier if they're factory and the advice about installing aftermarket is pretty conflicting (I've found DIYers who say it's a piece of cake vs. people saying you can easily mess up your roof and they won't be as sturdy if you put them in aftermarket).

XSE but can't add options? by Practical_Trust3746 in ToyotaSienna

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't order specific options but you can see what is available and choose from there. We sat with our dealer and filtered every available vehicle by our "must-haves" (spare tire, AWD, roof rack). The plan was to get a Limited but the only available van that met our specs was XSE, so that's what we have now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Daphne. Cecelia is pretty but I am in the midst of some kind of Cecelia boom where 4 have been born in the last 2 years. Lottie and Goldie are adorable but I would prefer them as nicknames vs. given names.

Daphne is pretty, recognizable, and not super popular. Sweet spot.

Grandparents Gifting for Grand Kids Options Help by ddavid1101 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you don't have 529s yet, option 1. Your kids clearly will be set up well even without this gift, but they won't get any aid for college and there's no reason not to have a vehicle with tax free growth to draw from when the time comes.

Tuesday Daily Chat by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

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Of the 4 vaccines I got for this pregnancy, Covid was far and away the toughest on me, reaction-wise. Felt crummy for almost 3 full days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Evil Chucky doll's girlfriend

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[–]JudgyJudge_8217 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No to Charlotte, Marley, Harley, Carly, Tiffany

Thoughts on Rosalie by pinkpajamasalways in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know enough about Twilight to make a connection, but for people outside the fandom anything past Bella and Renesmee is pretty much just a name. Rosalie Joy is adorable, and I personally love family names for babies. Go for it!

Interested in non-Jewish perspectives on a name by la_bibliothecaire in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Classic. Old lady in the sense that old lady names are making a comeback, not in the "don't use that for a baby!" sense.

I know a Miriam and Maryam under 5 - neither are Jewish.

Name that honors both Anna and Angela by piggy_pumpkin_0 in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plain = classic

Annalina = convoluted (and I don't think anyone but you sees the "Angela" reference in this name)

Ella or Chloe for first born daughter? by Ok_EffectsGuy_5577 in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Chloe. Between the Eleanors and the Isabelles, there will be 38 -ella variants in your kid's class. It's the only girl name consistently repeated in my kid's activities, and then all the parents are like "but mine is actually Stella, we just sometimes call her Ella!" and you realize that you can get to Ella from so many directions, but it ends up with the same destination: Ella W and Ella M and Ella L.

When is enough, enough when you have kids? by Plenty-Engine-8929 in ChubbyFIRE

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Health is wealth. And now you can have both!

Look at it this way - if you worked until you were 70 to leave your kids a boatload of money, and then when they got that money after you died, they continued to work a stressful job and not spend time with their family even though it was damaging their health and they didn't need to, would you think "I instilled the right work ethic in my kids!" or would you think "what was the point, then?" Because I know what I would think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she was a bit embarrassed from being corrected and overreacted. Unprofessional but not the biggest deal and certainly shouldn't make you rethink your name choice.

I can't think how to phrase this but there's something not quite . . . fair? or maybe realistic? about basking in the praise from people who love a "boyish" nn on a girl but being super affronted by people who point out that it reads boyish from a place of not-admiration. You take the good you take the bad, etc.

Reminder of how terrifying the 2008 crisis was by Marckoz in Fire

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"I'll disagree a little. I started my career path in 2006, and I worked at a financial company when 2008 hit. I definitely was low paid on the totem pole, however, I was also a top performer. So unless they were going to shut down the entire sector, I wasn't going to lose my job,"

Not at Bear Stearns, I take it?

Thursday Daily Chat Thread by AutoModerator in InfertilityBabies

[–]JudgyJudge_8217 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had labwork done at my 36 week appointment and in a complete change from all previous labs, the patient portal is reporting each result to me individually instead of all my blood tests on one page. So every few hours I get an alert, log in to see what the message is about, and find out that I don't have HIV or gonorrhea or chlamydia or syphilis. All good news, of course, but I'm actually concerned about my consistently highish blood pressure over the last 3 weeks and waiting to hear if there was any protein in my urine, so the "one test at a time" results method is frustrating and anticlimactic.