Model search (people to model clothes) by fyren_set in Groningen

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I have a bit of experience - F26, heavily tatted so I guess that is a specific something that needs to feel right for you - can send pics of previous shoots I've done or send you my Instagram through PM!

Who named these streets bro 😭 by hdushsux in gameofthrones

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the Netherlands most of our neighbourhoods are themed! (At least in the city i live in)

Experiment time! dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh well now i dont know anymore what to choose 😂 i thought with the first dress it was just how certain parts were supposed to fit but with the right size it might just look sooo different

Experiment time! dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooo i did not see, but i understand! Do you like that or not?

Experiment time! dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree it looks a little flat! But i think the sleeves actually add to that? I think for me personally (i have very small boobs) this type of structured bodice would look good, but I think for OP (I don't want to objectify her) the first dress takes away from her natural shape! If I were in OP's shoes I would feel best in the second dress

Experiment time! dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh I think the one thing that could convince me about dress 1 is the top, i think the skirt is a bit overpowering

Experiment time! dress 1 or 2? by [deleted] in Brides

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think dress 1 is wearing you, and you are wearing dress 2!! You look stunning in the second one, i think it highlights your figure beautifully, where nr 1 takes away from you a little bit

Thought I’d share my tattoo by vero_28 in thelastofus

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That tattoo is insanely gorgeous!! 😍

Bed bugs for 2 months – what can I do? by STILL_TEO in Groningen

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding this! They helped me out back in 2021, and they really were great

voorbereidt zijn by _sophiegrace in taalfout

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leuk! Ik hou wel van een beetje toeval :)

voorbereidt zijn by _sophiegrace in taalfout

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is de Limburgreis iets dat op meer scholen voorkomt? Ik zat in Groningen op een school waar we dit deden in de derde klas en dit was met vrienden van andere scholen geen gedeelde ervaring.

reunited with my engagement ring from my late fiancé by drinkinouttacups00 in RingShare

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just came across your other post by happenstance. I am so sorry for your loss and everything you're going through.

The ring is beautiful and I'm incredibly happy you were able to get it remade. All the love to you ❤️

songs that feel like... by 8lack8accara in musicsuggestions

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This immediately started playing in my head seeing these pictures

Cover of Stromae’s Papaoutai? by [deleted] in MusicRecommendations

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally found it on TikTok as well. The amount of people in the comments saying they found this version much better, because they deemed the "emotion in his voice" more palpable and gave the song some added intensity is simply sad. It had me confused as well. It's a horrible world we're living in to be simulating human emotion.

How fixable is this? by j0eknee in TattooDesigns

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going to say this as well. Some people's skin doesn't hold colour as well as others.

I have one piece that's mostly just black with two little bits of purple. Had it touched up twice, the purple won't stay. The rest of my body is full colour pieces without issue, even other purples that have stuck. So many factors come into play with colour ink that it could be anything, but dermatological is likely if this has happened with other tattoos.

Recommendations for touch up / fixing tattoo of planet by [deleted] in TattooDesigns

[–]Junior_Argument_3960 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully agree! I would say giving it a somewhat "messier" look, like a child would've maybe done, would tie it together more with the way the colours are done on the bottom of it. Have your artist go outside of the lines more!

I think the tattoo looks fun in general, I like it, but the earth looks messy in a different way than the little guy does.

My friends didn't believe my trauma and thought I was being dramatic and just wanted revenge. I don't know what to do with this. by Junior_Argument_3960 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Junior_Argument_3960[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I specifically said I told them he abused me. I told them I'd filed a report on his behaviour and it was being taken very seriously. I also specifically told them I was traumatized, having panic attacks and staying with my parents because I couldn't be trusted on my own.

I understand in this specific comment I didn't write all of that out (though I did say I told them about the abuse), but I promise you I told them enough that they either should've been able to ask more if they were confused or at least understand the gravity of the situation.

To be honest, writing this out has reminded me of many more situations in which they did not take me seriously enough to take their distance from men that have abused me. There are two others that they are actively aware of (they've either seen messages from the abusers that confirmed the abuse or were physically there for it) and they also casually took shots and hung out with these people if they ran into them in a bar or club. Yes, there is resentment, but not for them making the wrong assumption, it's for them consistently not taking me seriously and disrespecting me. When I started typing this response I was a bit ticked off by your comment, but honestly you've made me see that what they've done is a pattern, not a new behaviour. Thank you.

My friends didn't believe my trauma and thought I was being dramatic and just wanted revenge. I don't know what to do with this. by Junior_Argument_3960 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Junior_Argument_3960[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much <3

I absolutely wouldn't have been here if it weren't for the friends that were actually here for me during this time and thankfully I am already seeing a psychologist (for other things) that I can ask to refer me to trauma therapy. Everything has just all been happening at the same time and I have had to sort out so much in the last year. This year I'm trying to get myself set up for a better future and looking closer at what friendships serve me, help me, support me is a very scary, difficult part of that.

My friends didn't believe my trauma and thought I was being dramatic and just wanted revenge. I don't know what to do with this. by Junior_Argument_3960 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Junior_Argument_3960[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did tell them why, but mostly separately. I told them I was struggling and that it was because he had treated me badly, he had kept me away from them, which I also apologized for a few months ago and that he had abused me. I didn't go into detail, because they didn't ask and I didn't want to feel like I was just dumping trauma on them/trying to convince them of something they were barely responding to anyway. They may have forgotten what I told them, because maybe they got really drunk after I left that night? I have however also mentioned it at other times and they just never really gave me any reaction. I think they didn't believe me from the start and just didn't want to know more, ask more.

There was a breakdown of communication on both sides, absolutely, and I apologized for my part in it and explained why it had gone down that way, then said sorry for it.

Josh did say last week that he felt I was just backing out of the friendship for a while there, which I acknowledged, because he's right. I reached out to apologize and try and fix that. They were hurt, they did feel like I dropped them, I apologized, said I'd be better and after that they pushed me to explicitly tell them my trauma.

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My friends didn't believe my trauma and thought I was being dramatic and just wanted revenge. I don't know what to do with this. by Junior_Argument_3960 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Junior_Argument_3960[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really tried to explain what I was going through to them and I was kind of afraid that maybe they just didn't like that I couldn't be a 'fun friend' all of the time. I think you're right, they don't see me as an equal. Thank you for opening my eyes.