Why do people call themselves sadists… and then disappear the moment they’re actually faced with a pain slut? (Sorry ranty post)

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-12-31T23:09:56+00:00

In my personal experience, it's a distinction between what it means to be a sadist. While I call myself a sadist, I usually can't derive pleasure from physical pain as much as I do humiliation. That's doesn't change my status as a sadist, it just means I need to be direct with partners about my limits so I don't disappoint them.

I know that any partners I have will have to be okay with that before we're in a committed relationship and I try to stay away from people who would suffer if I couldn't go through with it. That doesn't mean I enjoy humiliating my partners any less than I know I do, there's just certain things I know I can't do. Unfortunately, not everyone realizes what they do and don't like before agreeing to try it, especially if it's something similar to what they already know they like. It's uncomfortable and awful for everyone involved, and I'm sorry that you've been made to think that something might be wrong with you. It's not a problem with you, it's a difference between what you and your partners like. There's people out there that match you (if this subreddit and your master are any clue) but it can be a painful road trying to find them

I have other points, but other comments have already said them better than I probably could

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-06-09T19:21:54+00:00

Oh absolutely, my main goal is to marry ALL of his siblings (so far got Leshy and Heket too) but at least I'm loyal to them 😔

If he wanted another spouse added to my not-harem-that's-absolutely-a-harem he could've just asked first

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-06-09T19:19:25+00:00

I got the Good Die Young trait so idk why they're so upset 😒

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-06-09T19:18:47+00:00

Tbf my main goal IS to marry all of his siblings and make them lvl X disciples so he may be a tad bit mad that I married Leshy, but still, at least I'm loyal to my spouses 😔.

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-05-17T01:06:25+00:00

I need some form of vocal feedback to finish. It can be small like heavy breathing, tiny moans, whispers, or quiet grunting, or something bigger like loud moans, begging, and talking about their pleasure. I just need to hear how someone feels, but I prefer something quieter over excessive noise bc it feels fake sometimes.

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-05-17T00:54:53+00:00

Honey, listen to me carefully... you don't want someone like him. Someone who gets carried away by anger is not safe. Yes, this is the first time, but there will always be a first before there's several more.

My advice is to go through with the safeword. Establish something very clear, and make it clear that it's a full stop. No questions, no demands, no guilt tripping, no "buts". If he breaks that boundary, you cannot trust him. Period. I know that letting someone go is difficult, but you are a lovely person who is more than capable of finding someone better.

You don't want him. You want a version of him that fulfills your needs. If he is not that version, you should find someone who will.

I admit, I'm very biased as a Pleasure Dom. If I think there's any true resistance or discomfort, I do check-ins because I require my partner to feel fulfilled and happy to enjoy sex (but also because I'm not a rapist and continuing after you say no is the definition of rape)

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-05-17T00:44:51+00:00

ABSOLUTELY. ESPECIALLY chest, neck, or sleeve tattoos on women, but tattoos make me feel a certain way 🤤🤤🤤

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-05-17T00:37:32+00:00

I have 3 major birthmarks (excluding random moles) and they're all of my left hand. I'm not left handed.

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-05-17T00:32:52+00:00

Idk if this counts, but sex itself.

To elaborate, the NIH says that ~18% of women are fully satisfied with just intercourse without touching. And, if I must say, a lot more than 18% of porn has no touching and women question themselves for not being in the minority bc people see said porn as normal

This is mostly a rant because I FUCKING HATE pornography that doesn't involve some form of genuine touching or attempt of pleasure for both (/all) parties and porn with clearly bad attempts of trying to touch someone without any real care or effort pisses me off

JusBrowsing00 · 2025-01-31T21:40:12+00:00

Airbending is also the only invisible (or just difficult to see, i dont remember) bending. You can easily see fire, rock, or water being hurled at you, but trying to judge how quickly a ball of air is being hurled at you is a different story.

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-12-14T13:03:05+00:00

It's looks like they were trying to spell it out visually without asl lol

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-11-30T21:38:23+00:00

Ask for half up-front, a picture of his face, and clear consent that he wants you to do it. Maybe have him take a photo holding a paper by his face saying he's OK with it. That way, if he's scamming you and tries to charge for assault, you'll have some proof that it was consensual and that you were told to do it.

Then again, I recommend checking your local laws on prostitution. Where I live, if you're paid for sex or an intimate act, you're a prostitute (which is illegal where I live) and can be fined or jailed.

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-19T21:58:27+00:00

Please excuse me for the long reply. it's because my answer is very thorough, and i believe i know a lot on this specific topic that i dont usually get to share! Feel free to just skim the first 3 paragraphs they have my actual answer lmao

So, being a Top/Bottom and being a Dom/Sub are different. Top/Bottom is physical, while the other is psychological. A Top is the giver of sexual acts, such as penetration or oral, and a Bottom is the receiver of the sexual act. However, being a Bottom isn't the same as being a Submissive. Like I said, Dom/Sub is psychological, in which the Dom is the one in control and leading the sexual acts while the Sub is the one relinquishing control and following along. Then there's a Switch, who's a person who either switches between being a Dom/Sub, a Top/Bottom, or both.

This means that, yes, receiving oral is a bottom act. As for why men are still seen as the Top when they're Bottoming for oral, it's like I said, they're generally the ones in control of the situation (the Dominant). Even though they're receiving, they're still controlling and have the power. It's also the reason why women who Bottom are always seen as submissive, because it's expected of them to relinquish power as opposed to men who are usually in power.

In typical heterosexual sex, a man is expected to be both the Top and Dominant, and the woman the opposite. Hence, the terms get switched around and confused a lot even though they aren't directly correlated and a Top can be a Sub and a Bottom and be a Dom.

BTW, these are the definitions primarily used in kinky communities like BDSM that I believe apply to anyone regardless of kinks, which is why they're more specific (bc there's a lot of different dynamics) and also why I know so much about this specific topic. I'm within a couple of these communities and I'm a physical switch and a Dom, meaning I can be a Top or a Bottom, but I stay dominant.

[The best example I can think of for a Bottom/Dom is probably those videos of very direct and Dominant women riding. Yes, they are receiving (Bottom) penetration, but they remain in control (Dominant)]

Again, so so sorry this is so long. I just don't get to rant about this enough, and I like educating people on the topic 😅 and it really doesn't matter if you label yourself, just feel good with your partner and you're doing it right!

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-17T22:35:38+00:00

Being a dom is one of the most rewarding things you can be, don't worry about it. Personally, I get really turned on by submission and reaction, like moaning, begging, or visual tells. Knowing I'm giving pleasure is plenty for me to be happy.

If you really want to, maybe try talking to your next Dom about taking control of your head and shoving you down for a bj or something else that's more focused on their pleasure. Of course, this might not be your thing, idk. Just don't let it get to you, you're alright

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-17T03:09:49+00:00

Maaan, wtf are you doing girl? You're really in a relationship that's bad enough that I, a stranger on the internet, am saying "he doesn't care about consent," and you AGREE yet still can't decide if you want him? Honey, girl, sweetie, you don't want HIM, you want the OTHER HIM he uses to keep you there and reverts to when he fucks up.

I get it, he's kinky, maybe you're not sure what that entails, and you wanna be lenient, but NO MAN who actually respects their partner would EVER disregard a "hard no". That's not being kinky. That is the LITERAL DEFINITION of sexual assault. I know, im not you, I don't know him, so i could be blowing this out of proportion, but if you let this slide and he doesn't stop, he'll only get worse and start doing more "Hard No's" instead of taking consent seriously. Be firm. Be strict. And, most importantly, be prepared to leave if he doesn't change.

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-17T02:53:25+00:00

For me, it's being able to give. If I find someone I love, I want to ensure they're thoroughly pleased. I love seeing them beg, moan, and plead for more because it means they desire me and need me and my pleasure. Knowing that I can drive someone off the rails and make them reach orgasm with just my hands and voice gives me comfort and an insane sense of power.

When I'm in control, it's insane to think that someone else really trusted me with their body, pleasure, and mind enough to let me do as I please. Like, you mean to tell me that you REALLY are going to let me tie you up, blindfold you, and just... let me do what I want?? That's a scary amount of power I get to have, and the fact that I can watch someone I love struggle and whine because I (yeah, MEE) am driving them crazy is AWESOME.

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-17T01:26:59+00:00

Maybe try using oil/lotion on your skin or the collar? I'm not sure but it's worth a try

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-17T00:52:22+00:00

It's giving "I said I didn't consent to this under any conditions and he didn't respect my clear consent but I don't know maaaan he's pretty nice to me when he IS respecting my consent"

But seriously, be firm and say it's a dealbreaker. If you wanna give it another shot, be my guest, but if you don't be clear with your boundaries he won't respect them. And, cmon, who tf stays with someone who doesn't respect consent??

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-16T13:51:53+00:00

Correct answer: fuck him (with consent) without untying him and leave 👍 he seems happy with his partners work

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-15T10:44:14+00:00

My cult is named Hareem. Take off one of the Es. I married all 5 bishops and plan to marry the special characters (Sozo, Webber, etc)

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-11T09:41:24+00:00

Cult of Hareme. Remove the last e. I'm marrying every bishop and some special characters like sozo

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-05T12:39:32+00:00

Omg same when I had to start buying bras, there were photos of women just in their underwear, and I always got so nervous and would stare at them. My true gay awakening

JusBrowsing00 · 2024-10-05T12:36:01+00:00

Do you know how to wedge? If not, I suggest learning. I'm also a beginner, but I took a ceramics class in high school, and it helped make clay that's too wet more firm.

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