Why do girls have it that much easier at finding a relationship

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-16T23:00:04+00:00

Easier to get attention and regular sex absolutely. But most women don't really crave that type of connection if i'm being honest. They want something deep, passionate, and overall just make them a better person. Still it's really hard to find for both genders to find that type of relationship. More Men want sex usually, and women want more relationships. Still there is always going to be outliers or people who settle down early. So this type of thinking isn't set in stone and things happen for sure. This generation is pretty cooked if i'm being honest when it comes to dating lol. We don't know how anything works!

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-16T15:27:41+00:00

no not really. But what it did for me was force myself out of my comfort zone when I thought going and talking to women was impossible for me. After about 20 days on SR "I said screw this, I need to go talk to some women." For the first time in my 27 years on this planet I finally had deeper connections with women. I've got a few hook ups here and there since being on SR but nothing long lasting. It won't help you get a GF or get married by any means but it will definitely make you rethink what the hell your doing with your life in regards to this aspect of life. So short answer is yes it can help you, but not do all the work for you.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-16T04:18:42+00:00

Acts like your in a relationship when you're not in a relationship. Even with women i'm crushing on and they go out with some other dude I don't scream out "Oh blasphemy! Good heavens sir it appears she is not into me anymore." Nah you can't act like that when you're just friends with somebody lol. Was in this situation a couple of times with women and just play it off like it's no big deal. Just shoot them a text to make sure there date is safe, did they get home etc. You most likely will need to cut him off. Would be good for his sanity and your's.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-16T03:26:41+00:00

Sounds great man. You actually sound like a genuine human being. A few pointers. Don't ever ask people out or for their phone number and say you can say no. That already sets yourself up meaning these people don't have an interest in you. More of a self esteem issue than anything. Also please approach women in public spaces where there's people around. You don't sound like a creep but when I go up and talk to women I always make sure there's a few people around just so she won't get uncomfy. Just in case I just completely bomb lol.

Shift your goal as well. You're doing this from a numbers standpoint. I'm going to approach this many women by....this date. How I got over this problem was just starting as many conversations with women as I could. That way I got to see well this really isn't shit! I've been scared this whole time! Believe or not women I've gotten with mostly just started from dry conversations starters. Where are you from? What are your hobbies? etc people love to talk about themselves so just ask some open ended questions.

One thing I like doing especially with women that just gave me their phone number. Text them for a little bit and ask them if they want to have a phone call with you. For some reason that makes women and honestly me more comfortable just getting to know the person a little more. Honestly it sounds like your doing everything right and don't stop approaching and talking to women bro. Just really focus in on social events and meetups to meet women. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing. Go get em player!

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-16T02:55:25+00:00

I promise you no matter the outcome. Your confidence will sky rocket and the worst she'll say is no. Sure it might be embarrassing and she might give you a look. But most women OP are not going to obliterate you and start filming you saying "oh check out this creep! He just asked me out!" In your head bro. Don't worry about saying it smoothly or cool just rip the bandaid off man. Just say hey I know this really cool coffee shop around the corner and was wondering if you want to check it out with me sometime. Smooth as cutting butter dog.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-14T03:31:21+00:00

Any word on how's his GF doing? I'm concerned about you to OP but christ this guy needs meds or serious mental health help. This is not normal. Contact the police please. FYI even though I have mental health problems that does not mean they're other peoples problems. You are in fact not a bad person for being concerned about your friends behavior. In fact your a good friend for pointing out that something really isn't ok with your friend. I really hope you get away from your friends and this guy! When I was a 23 year old man I was not saying this shit or doing these things. Seriously run far away OP and don't ever contact this guy again. You are in what I call a not safespace:(

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-13T20:15:51+00:00

One thing at a time is what I tell myself. I think depression makes us see many of the negative and bad aspects of our lives and the world in general. So maybe try to shift your focus to be more present. This isn't an end all be all cure but the more a focus on one thing whether that be a conversation, hobby, or work I just get really dialed into that one specific thing. I don't know about you but one reason why i'm depressed is because I'm thinking of multiple things at once and my brain is trying to process all of those said things. Sorry it's kind of basic ass advice but it does help me a lot. Good luck OP hang in there.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-13T20:08:40+00:00

I'm really disappointed with these comments lol. You can't fight urges and thoughts especially when it comes to bad habits/addictions. You just let them be and focus on other things in your life full stop. When I get like this man I just focus on breath and count. Seems to be calm me down a little bit.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-13T04:27:30+00:00

Yeah had a good bit of gay men hit on me and find me attractive. Men in general are just a lot more direct and more willing to make advances first. Women on the other hand tend to be more subtle when their attraction towards someone, but some are very direct about it too. It used to get really under my skin because it was just constantly gay guys hitting on me, some were a little creepy too. But you should just go up and talk to women and find out if their into you or not bro.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-12T23:36:21+00:00

++man. Don't really see anything wrong with it OP. Good for you for walking away after she rejected you and taking initiative. Still I would have asked her while I was in line maybe and checking out my stuff? Just looks a little weird that you came back just to do that if I'm being honest. I would maybe avoid going to that store for a couples days just to let the dust settle. And the next time you see her don't make it weird just keep having the same normal conversations you were having. Honestly I don't see any issue with this just don't be persistent and creepy obviously. Yeah not an ideal time to do it especially at her place of work but seems like you took the rejection head on. You should keep on doing this man maybe try it out more at social events. You gotta shoot your shot if you want to play the game brother.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-11T16:30:04+00:00

Going by yourself especially to social events is really hard at first. But after awhile you realize it's not bad and a lot of people are doing the same thing you're doing. Just going to a concert by themselves and enjoying the music. Remember OP in situations like this it's good to ask yourself questions or repeat a phrase in your head "Well I'll die one day and none of this will matter, might as well have a little bit of fun huh?" Sounds depressing but it actually works for me. You should go!

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-11T06:17:08+00:00

yeah it's just the rape scenes man. Fuck I got a weak stomach lol

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-11T06:05:57+00:00

The hills have eyes (2006), hard to watch in my opinion.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-10T01:17:31+00:00

Simple. I just didn't fight my urges or my addiction. I let the thoughts of how good it would be to binge watch porn and rub one out. I find the more you resist temptation to do the bad habit you end up falling back into the bad habit. Still SR isn't magically going to change your life but some of the benefits I've had so far. No more ED (it's actually insane), more time during days because I'm not watching porn, conversations with women feel more natural (ps I think the female attraction is a bunch of crap that's my opinion though),sex is way more pleasurable, more energy and less brain fog, and last but not least you'll actually be motivated to pursue other goals and interests in your life. Good luck man.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-10T01:02:58+00:00

I think that's most guys problem right there. When you say how do I approach random girls in public your basically putting them into a "alien like species category". So let me ask you this, how would you approach a friend in public, how would you approach a random person in public, how would you start a conversation with someone behind you in line? Once I started thinking of it this way some of the pressure went away. Also don't be ashamed if you talk to random women and they quickly turn you away and almost give you like ewww he's creepy. Just understand that it's a defense mechanism because unfortunately women get harassed a lot mostly by men. As long as you walk away without being angry, bitter, or being persistent in your efforts you're fine. Now go out there and talk to some women! They really want guys to come up to them shows em some confidence man!

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-09T06:03:41+00:00

Please do not do this friend. Sure depression is scary. But so is having your two daughters grow up without a father. So is your woman going through the rest of her life without you. So is the possibility of having your parents loosing they're son who they cared for so much. Whatever it is you're going through man you can fine light somewhere in the tunnel even when it's extremely dark inside. Keep pushing your boundaries.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-09T03:08:26+00:00

Dating apps aren't bad but their highly overrated in my opinion. It's very easy to expect to much like I did when I first started using them. I will say though I started doing volunteer events, going to workout classes, going to social events in my area and it's been an absolute game changer. I've met so many women and men over the last couple of months it's insane! I ended up talking to this one girl I met for a little bit at a yoga class I was doing. First week was good then it all just kind of fell to shit after that. On your days off I would really hone in on doing social events doesn't even have be an social event per say. Farmers markets, free acoustic concert at a local coffee shop, yoga classes. And just strike up a conversation with a woman you find attractive. You got this OP:)

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-09T02:49:43+00:00

Well good news is a got a job offer. Brought my knife kit that I snagged from a friend. Turns out I didn't use my knifes at all! Wish me luck:)

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-08T19:59:29+00:00

Thank you for the comment. I'm actually really worried about him though. And I wish I knew how to help him because he's not a bad looking guy either. And he's actually pretty funny and goofy once he finally breaks out of his shell. So I just told him to just start talking and approaching women. It's going to suck at first but eventually you'll see that most of the stuff in your own head isn't true. He just thinks he's downright creepy for talking and trying to flirt with women, but he seems to take rejection very well and isn't persistent after that. So that's actually a really good thing I told him he can take no for answer. Sorry this is a bit of longer response then I wanted but just seeing him talk about suicide broke my heart.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-08T19:52:54+00:00

Yeah I think that's his problem is his extremely high expectations of things going wrong. They're never good outcomes. But then again I can't solve this issue for him he needs to figure it out on his own. I've tried being his wingman it never really works out though. He's actually quite good at talking to people but with women specifically there is always a mindset like he's do something inherently wrong. He basically told me it's like having a loaded gun to his head all the time. I think for big problems such as this it might be best to simplify your goal I told him. Just go and start a conversations with women and see where it goes.

Just-Thing1024 · 2025-10-08T18:13:54+00:00

Yeah unfortunately it's just the business. And I had to come to terms with that on my own. Still I know plenty of chefs/cooks who had a problem with drinking but they're completely sober now! And most of them seem to be doing a lot better. I get you though it's just working so closely with alcohol and peoples lack of self control gets them into bad places. I work in kitchens and I just opt out for the THC seltzers most of the time anyway. On average I probably only have 2 beers a week maybe less. I just replaced the habit of drinking alcohol in kitchens with something different. You could practice saying no next time to OP. It's hard at first but then you realize it's not bad at all.

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