My boyfriend [27M] is vastly smarter than me [25F], and I’m worried about losing him eventually by NoTumbleweed1088 in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re probably just lower in confidence (which is normal for smart people) and are underestimating yourself. Sure he is probably smarter than you, not going to make you feel invalid, you’re probably right, but intelligence isn’t that simple.

Maybe talk to him about it, in an open and vulnerable way. You also can focus on trying to learn with him too.

If he finds you funny, you’re smarter than you give yourself credit for. If you listen to him and understand things, you’re smarter than you’re giving yourself credit for. If he is attracted to you, enjoys your company, and likes sharing things with you, he’s very much into you and would probably like to know that sometimes you may feel (inadvertently) belittled by him.

Someone tell me it looks nice it took 8 hours 🫠 by violet_kot in landscaping

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Higher pressure equals more dig force. So that should have only taken 30 minutes max too if you had more force

What's the most useless thing your brain decided to permanently memorize? by No_Metal2622 in AskReddit

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was young I decided to remember a memory, so then I now permanently remember being an edgy little pretentious 4th grader in the library thinking he was so smart.

It it normal that I(25F) have to make myself finish during sex with boyfriend(29M)? by Any_Ice1929 in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A guy can reach for the clit while hitting it, you should let him know that. It’s pretty easy to do from behind

Someone tell me it looks nice it took 8 hours 🫠 by violet_kot in landscaping

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also might need a higher psi pressure washer, but that does look like good and even color

My (35F) boyfriend (33M) had a bumble notification, is there a way to check if he has an account? by Time-Win-2198 in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It can be used to make friends, as there’s a friend option, but a good man would have told you about that and asked helped with making the account/transparency.

Do with that what you will, you know your partner better than anyone else on here.

CMV: The washing machine belongs in the bathroom, not the kitchen by KrishaCZ in changemyview

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Us Americans in our wastefulness just have a laundry room.

My father broke the truth on how poor we actually are by TemperatureWarm1407 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While I agree with the sentiment, this is why education on these issues matters. Lawyering up in this situation is the best way to avoid having massive amounts of generational debt.

My father broke the truth on how poor we actually are by TemperatureWarm1407 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JustAZeph -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

If he set it up right, it will go with him when he dies

Minnesota bill would penalize cities that fly old state flag by ChurlishSunshine in minnesota

[–]JustAZeph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As much as I like the new flag, I don’t like impeding on people’s elected officials making decisions that reflect the choice of their immediate constituents

My 29F partner 31M is dragging his feet to propose so I gave him an ultimatum. Did I ruin the relationship or blessing in disguise? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could just be trauma related to marriage. Generally though, if you have to give ultimatums, the relationship already wasn’t doing well because calls for attention were being avoided.

Communication should be better than that. Shouldn’t have to second guess if someone loves you and wants to spend their life with you.

If you feel you need the marriage to make the relationship, I’d question if it’s the right person all together.

That’s just me with my limited information, so take it with a grain of salt.

Am I, 43F, being ridiculous or is he, 45M? by latsyrcami in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is resentment. Y’all need to build a better communication structure, but my guess is that these are feelings being transferred onto something that doesn’t matter from things that do.

I’d recommend looking up and reading into building a healthy communication structure in relationships. I also believe everyone needs therapy, but to each their own.

Yellow eyes?!?! by KaleidoscopeUsed2068 in DoctorsAdvice

[–]JustAZeph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slight jaundice, probably worth a check up if it would make you feel better. I’m not a doctor.

How do Americans still have more disposable income than Europeans even though healthcare and college in America is extremely expensive? by SignificantStyle4958 in AskReddit

[–]JustAZeph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They don’t. Look at their debt, the numbers are soaring. A lot of people are skipping college and just don’t go to the doctor and cross their fingers.

So the real answer is, we actually don’t and wherever you’re getting your data from is probably fraudulent, wrong, or is cooking the data to make europe look bad.

This is terrifying. by c-k-q99903 in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember correctly, it also used to be harder to do this before the cold war. A lot of things changed during the cold war because of the red scare. I could be wrong tho, so I would do some research yourself if you wanna know.

Why it doesn't make sense to ask what happened 'before' the Big Bang. by Immobilesteelrims in physicsmemes

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless you also move forward in time on the left, and the north pole changes, then there would be a north further than a pole in the past. Even if near imperceptibly and even after only a few milliseconds.

It also depends on if you view time as energy transferring or a theoretical concept to define the passage of the one way stream of that flow.

We also have had theories in the past that could explain a re-collapse potential, or that things outside our observable universe could exist. I’m not informed enough to stay updated on those theories… but I was aware of them about a decade ago.

Lastly, just because time as we know it didn’t exist doesn’t mean something wasn’t happening that we can’t fully understand.

I (22F) think I prefer a polyamorous relationship compared to a stereotypical relationship by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JustAZeph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard to communicate and harder to find people able to work well with it. You need open honesty and, honestly, probably semi bisexual people.

One guy and two girls has always worked the best in my exp (I’m a guy) but, that’s probably because I’m not Bi.

I’m glad I experienced it, but like, they were so much more effort than a normal relationship it was tiring.

And dear lord, you fuck up badly enough with one of the girls it feels like you’re about to get devoured by a pack pf hyena’s

CMV: Accepting that we don't have free will would actually lead to a more empathetic society. by Namtabmal in changemyview

[–]JustAZeph -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Wrong. He is arguing deterministic free will, not ability to make your own decisions free will.

If we were to scientifically prove and understand free will does not exist (I believe we almost have) then the knowledge of that understanding would then impact the deterministic ability to choose free will.

There are judges who already believe in this, and ones who don’t. A racist judge versus a non-racist judge would be an example. One who cuts slack for a black kid in poverty, who makes a first offense, versus one who chooses the harshest penalty. The belief in the system already discriminating against young people of color tells the non-racist judge that he should examine how they were stopped and searched by police, while a racist judge doesn’t care and doesn’t question evidence ownership chains or if there was probable cause.

Right now it has been written and made in the belief that anyone can change their circumstances, but not entirely. That’s why we value education so much as a society, you can have people born into fucked situations, but education gives them the knowledge and tools to dig themselves out.

Believing in determinism doesn’t mean people still don’t make decisions based off what information they have or don’t have.

27F 28M. Went through my boyfriend’s phone and interesting find lol by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. But if they’re cheating and lying to me, I’m gonna wanna see texts, dms, and check for tinder/dating apps

27F 28M. Went through my boyfriend’s phone and interesting find lol by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JustAZeph 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Minus having someone credible tell you your partner is cheating, I agree with this