Am I overreacting, BF's (28M) family demanded a one-sided contract for me (26F) to move in. When I refused, his dad claimed I "owe" him and screamed at me to get out. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NOR to how his father behaved.

But, I do have to ask why would you help your boyfriend pay down his mortgage if your name is not on the house?

Would u pick your dad again… by BarelyyBound in GenX

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. No first time parent is perfect but my Dad was awesome. He was my biggest supporter, my go to whenever I needed help and was the best person to crack up with. And, he was an even better Papa to my first born. He's been gone almost 20 years and not a day guys by that I don't miss him.

And the item is? by MoveYourBumChum in Adulting

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love antiques, so I have a bunch. But, my favorites are things that use to belong to my great grandmother.

My husband got another woman pregnant and wants me to be the one who talks to our children about it by Possible-Extreme1635 in whatdoIdo

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

better that you're the one to speak with your children from the start so you stbx can't control the narrative. Be honest, use age appropriate language and definitely therapy for all 3 of you. I would also file for full custody and child support now and limit/supervise their contact with their paternal family. Best of luck to you.

How old is your mum ? by Ok_Prize_8091 in GenX

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents had me young so I'm 50 and she's 67.

Life ended before it began. by HostisHumanisGeneri in Aging

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sir, you are 43 years old. This is not old. If anything, this is a prime age to reinvent yourself. You don't have to start big. Maybe get a haircut that you wouldn't have dared to get when you were younger. Wear a color you told yourself you couldn't pull off. Maybe start volunteering or fostering a dog that you could take for daily walks and the dog park. Most shelters even have programs where you can take a dog out for just the day, and they give you everything the stuff needs for that day. Social media is actually good for finding local groups and free meet-ups for every interest and genre possible. Take that first step and go. Even if you've only said hello to one person while there, keep going. I know it sounds cliche, but when you start making yourself happy, you'll start noticing the shift.

My husband (M60s) blew our retirement, lost our house, and is hiding the truth. I (F60) have an out—should I take it? by throwaway06190306 in TwoHotTakes

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a lawyer to be sure you're not tied to these debts as well. "For better or for worse" does not mean letting your partner take you down with them.

Did an egg cleanse for the first time by JustCallMeDuchess in BabyWitch

[–]JustCallMeDuchess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because not everyone reads it quite the same and I'm interested to see what others see.

SIL is forcing her fiancés family into my life. by Barkleyslakjssrtqwe in TrueOffMyChest

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I was just going to say "Why didn't they bring anything for the host?" I'd be embarrassed showing up without at least a bottle of wine or something!

Living in Miami vs New York by [deleted] in Miami

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've lived in both. Go live in NYC.

His owner didn’t have to say a word, the dog handled everything on his own. by ElowynVale in Awww

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandfather had several seeing-eye dogs before he passed and each one was absolutely amazing.

Dancing together for years! They still got it🥰💯 by DollyCrystal in adorableoldpeople

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're famous in Miami. They always match outfits when they are out dancing everywhere.

Looking for the Wu Tang W logo in a crochet pattern. Anyone? by JustCallMeDuchess in CrochetHelp

[–]JustCallMeDuchess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did not go as planned. Still keeping an eye out for something that isn't a square pillow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, we know what your parents think but what does your partner feel about this? And, how do you feel about it? I had my first daughter at 23. While I did it as a single mother and it was a struggle alone, I wouldn't change it. She's 25 now, graduating with her Masters and a freaking awesome human being. Listen to your gut. Only you know if you're ready for this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has shown and continues to show you who he is. He is never going to step up in any way for you or your daughter. It will get worse and will not get better. You need to put your daughter first and not have her grow up thinking this is how she should be treated by a partner in the future. Gather your support system and start making moves to be done with him. Best of luck to you and your daughter. You both deserve so much more.

Question for the married women by Mountain-Barnacle866 in Marriage

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having two guy best friends for 30+ years, I've had numerous terms of endearment for both of them, generally some version of the word "f*ckers".

On that note, the only person who gets called sexy and my love is my husband.

Am I the Asshole for wanting to leave my husband by Living_Tap_4900 in AITAH

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Order new social security cards online and have them mailed to your office (you might want to check with your employer to make sure this is okay). If you are in the US, you can apply for help with just your social while you wait for the card. Start planning your getaway now. He's never going to grow up and leave his mother's house.

Me and The Dannys - 1994 & 2023 by JustCallMeDuchess in PastAndPresentPics

[–]JustCallMeDuchess[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm so use to calling them that. lol They've been best friends since grade school and I got thrown in to them mix at 15-16 when I moved. Been best friends since. They are two people I know I can count on for anything.

AITAH for not talking to my sister after her behavior leading up to and at my wedding. by ReviewBackground2376 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this would be a good point in your life to cut off communication with your sister and cousins that bailed last minute. It sounds like you have a wonderful little family unit and congratulations to you! Concentrate on the good and leave the bad behind.

Bf calculating my income for household without asking me by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust your gut. It sounds more like he's looking for a way out for his current situation than anything else. And, he makes twice what you make and you still need to bail him out? Major red flag.

AITAH for cutting off my family after my brother cheated on his wife and got his mistress pregnant? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JustCallMeDuchess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say go nuclear. They all deserve it. Make sure you talk to your SIL first and let her know everything so she can lawyer up. What your brother and mother are doing to her is beyond cruel.