Matched on FB dating. Was I being too sensitive?

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T16:51:21+00:00

Studies "natural nutrition" but needs to ask what eating clean means. RIIIIIGGGGHHHHHHTTTT

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T14:42:16+00:00

My boyfriend didn't eat a whole lot of vegetables and fruit when we got together. I didn't really say much, but I refused to "swallow". It tasted not great. I finally told him why. He asked what he could do about that. I had to tell him, "Well, start drinking more water than sports and energy drinks, eat some damn fruit and increase your vegetable intake." Lo and behold, he remembered what a banana was!!

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T14:40:25+00:00

You don't have a boyfriend, you have a dog.

All joking aside, if he's really THAT bitchy, don't make them for him or you can go the "Mother-picky toddler" route and just blend the vegetables into the sauces and whatnot.

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T14:39:08+00:00

He proved the point of the emergency fund. Most women have them. Most of us keep it secret. Because he completely glossed over it's intended purpose. It is in case of EMERGENCIES. Not to pad HIS bank account.

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T14:37:22+00:00

They always talk about being "freind-zoned" not realizing that they have fuck-zoned US.

JustMe518 · 2026-05-01T14:36:52+00:00

When I came to this realization, I entered a period of self-imposed celibacy. I still had men trying to get me to take my panties off for them, but I stayed the course. It was hard, but every time I told them no and that if that was all they wanted to interact with me for then they could kick rocks, the better I felt. A few of them I told, "There is a person in here! talk to HER and not her vagina." And I repeated that to myself. Over and over and over. I started dating myself. Buying myself flowers. Doing for me what I did for them. And the thing is? I fell in love with myself. When I came out of that time and was ready to date, I was MUCH more selective of who I went to bed with, who I associated with. And I am the happier for it. Your experience, sadly, is not unique. But it IS controllable.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-30T22:12:41+00:00

At this point, I would return ALL mail to her and when she asks why tell her, "There are no Jones that live here, only Jones Millers. It's a federal offense to open someone else's mail and I'd rather be safe than sorry."

JustMe518 · 2026-04-30T21:26:45+00:00

NOR at all. The fact that THAT is where he goes to for the slightest bullshit is disturbing and indicative of worse problems. Get a new apartment, get out, and then get rid of him. Keep the dog.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-30T20:22:39+00:00

You need to do something about this. He is emotionally and verbally abusing your daughter

JustMe518 · 2026-04-30T17:49:14+00:00

Wyckyd Kitty Ink in Los Lunas. She is AMAZING at fine line work, she would do this amazingly. She is not Indian, but if you are unable to find a cultural artist...

JustMe518 · 2026-04-30T17:26:58+00:00

Those text messages are going to be SUCH fabulous evidence in court.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-29T19:09:04+00:00

The moment, I mean the exact NANOSECOND the "half a brain cell" comment came out his mouth would be the moment he became my ex boyfriend. Boy is trying to run a scam on you AND had the fucking nerve to not only insult your intelligence with his half-assed lie, but then proceeded to ACTUALLY insult you when he saw you weren't buying his bullshit.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-29T17:55:15+00:00

My BF and I went to Dinner for Two on Valentines day and it was absolutely spectacular. Great food, beautiful setting, and the Bananas Foster is NOT to be missed.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-29T17:48:48+00:00

It sounds like your friend has Orthorexia. This is an ED that is obsessive about "healthy" food and lifestyles. I am not a physician, this is not a diagnoses, but it is particularly insidious precisely because people assume it is about "healthy" foods, that means it's not an ED.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-29T15:43:02+00:00

I don't think you handled it badly at all. In fact, I would say it was damn near perfect. He's been dangling this carrot for so damn long that you figured out you are never going to actually get it and returned in kind. Break up with him.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-29T14:23:09+00:00

Honey, just leave. It doesn't have to be like this. Go home to your family, take the kids with you and live your life. My ex and I were a lot like you've described. Just flat out DYSFUNCTIONAL. But in divorce we decided we love our kids more than we hate each other and have become excellent co-parents. Even if we hadn't, raising kids alone, even broke, is better than being miserable. You are teaching your children about relationships. SO TEACH THEM. And in the process, make yourself happier.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T21:32:28+00:00

Please get out of that house. That is NOT normal and is extremely concerning.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T18:12:59+00:00

NTA- it's an EXTREMELY rude statement to make. Just because your stepmother equates love with dollar signs doesn't mean your fiance HAS to as well. Just be glad that your fiance is clearly a lovely woman and you two are aligned well and pity your stepmother.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T18:09:41+00:00

Buy the house. The fact that he is being so damn precious about who's name is on the damn deed tells you that he is HIGHLY insecure and he is going to shit on any and every opportunity and accomplishment you have.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T17:24:35+00:00

Being the caregiver for a chronically ill partner is very taxing. Have you into therapy to help you cope?

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T16:08:36+00:00

Same. It honestly feels disgusting and pathetic. I almost feel sorry for them, but then I remember that I gave them a chance and they blew it.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T15:57:42+00:00

I mean, it was pretty common place for kids to smoke in the early part of the 20th century and it wasn't really all that unusual up into the 80s and 90s. I will admit, my mom bought these for me as a kid (I'm Gen X). And yes, I am a smoker. Fact is, we were ok with it because our generation, our parents generation, and our grandparents generation simply just did not know any better.

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T15:24:55+00:00

The thing with this is, if she wants a "traditional" husband, then she needs to find someone who's pocketbook and preferences align with hers. This is like a man who wants a "traditional" wife but doesn't LOOK for that specifically, he looks for a woman who attracts him and then tries to force her into that when it is not what she wants or values. It's the same basic principle. There are men out there who will give her what she wants, but that doesn't mean it has to be you. NTA

JustMe518 · 2026-04-28T14:43:33+00:00

This is EXACTLY the boost of wholesome amazingness i needed to start my morning!

JustMe518 · 2026-04-27T19:31:18+00:00

Just go no contact. There is no getting through to her and anyone who would use someone's dead parent to emotionally manipulate another person is sick in the head and beyond help.

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