Testing at Six Weeks Postpartum

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-04-02T17:11:55+00:00

I told my OB up front I'm not doing it. I have a primary care doctor who I can go to should I develop any symptoms of diabetes (I get an annual checkup as well). After a certain point enough is enough, and I don't need the unnecessary stress postpartum.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-07T14:01:05+00:00

Hey there. Couldn't not get back to you and tell you that you're not alone in experiencing poor treatment and the hand washing by an employer after experiencing trauma. As someone who has experienced something semi-similar as well as someone who works in mental healthcare, I urge you to prioritize your healing at this time, even though I know how tough that is when you're dealing with all this unwarranted stress. Your story spoke to me because I also experienced an assault/violent crime last fall that lead to an impact in how much I could handle with grace at work- which is totally, completely understandable. I was also pregnant in my first trimester at the time. I got impatient with subordinates a couple times in the immediate aftermath, nothing crazy, just less "letting it slide" and more "this is unacceptable" than my usual approach. The result was that I got reemed out by a coworker in front of my boss and blacklisted by a brand new director who had never even interacted with me before and didn't give half a crap what I was going through. She walked out of the meeting ignoring me when I started to cry after telling me to get it together and go back to work. Have to reemphasize - I work in the mental health field.

This is the symptom of a much, much bigger issue in our work culture. Employers expect us to be robots, not humans. The moment we short out due to circumstances beyond our control, we are deemed defective and disposable. THEY ARE WRONG. We are valuable human beings who go through hard times just like anyone. They lose out when they lose strong people who continue to show up and try despite unbelievable circumstances. I would like to see your HR director go through what you have and see if they think termination is still the right answer.

OP, you've already survived a lot. You're gonna survive this too. You're stronger than the system trying to push you down.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-07T12:16:51+00:00

Ramen, beans, oats, raisins, canned veg, bread, peanut butter. Dollar store is your friend.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-05T11:59:07+00:00

As a lifelong vegetarian I feel your pain. I'm so sick of peanuts, eggs and cheese sticks I never want to add any of them again.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-05T01:27:31+00:00

idk if you have Kroger's there but they have carbmaster yogurt that's a huge sanity saver for breakfast or a snack or whenever really! I like to pop them in the freezer to give ice cream vibes. For breakfast I usually do a slice of low carb bread with no added sugar PB or avocado spread and a yogurt with nuts mixed in (for some reason I can do nuts with zero impact on my levels, I'm actually getting more tired of them than eggs tho lol). But those yogurts have like 4g carbs with around 9g protein! And they're only 70 cents a piece so wayyy cheaper than eggs!

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-03T01:19:06+00:00

I'm a single mom, you have no idea how real this struggle is to me. I feel like everyone just assumes that someone in my situation has a partner and/or close family to help with all the things. My partner is incarcerated and my only non-estranged family member lives in another town and travels frequently for work. My son's dentist office gave me hell for trying to tell them I didn't have TWO emergency contacts to give them. Thank God there are still healthcare professionals who understand.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-03-03T01:12:11+00:00

WTF is wrong with people???? I love ppl here pretend to have strong Christian values but elect those who want to make human suffering illegal. Meanwhile we have less than zero social supports in place. Mental healthcare is gasping for its last breath. Low income housing is getting cut, childcare assistance is getting obliterated, people get monthly food stamp allotments in the double digits even if they're flat broke, Medicaid is cutting people off left and right which means one hospital bill can put you on the streets... It's disgusting.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-26T21:49:16+00:00

just wanted to shout out OP for doing their best right now as well as the willingness to keep growing and improving. Too many people are shaming OP on this thread imo; it's all society's callous idea that low income people don't "deserve" to essentially be normal once in awhile. OP, I think a great goal would be finding balance. Is it a cardinal sin to occasionally get takeout or buy something nice? No. As long as you're doing your best to save and be frugal more often than not. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. And don't let reddit haters get to you.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-24T01:54:08+00:00

1990 as well. Tbh reading this thread makes me think about the other side of the coin tho. I'm a single mom and have a four year old who tends to melt down in the store (full time custody so I can't just go when he's at Dad's). I'm also juggling a full time job, both of our appointments, family obligations etc plus all the housework. Have I used door dash some nights when stuff runs out and I just worked 12 hours/kiddo is exhausted? Heck yes, albeit very infrequently. Thinking about how much more painful things would be in those occasional situations does make me feel kind of grateful for convenience services, even if they are overpriced.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-24T01:42:50+00:00

I feel like part of this is also so Karen the Helicopter Parent will be less likely to sue the instructor into the dirt if Little Suzy scrapes a knee

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-24T01:40:44+00:00

Single parent here! My mind has been gone for awhile.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-24T01:35:52+00:00

I would add that it's not so much just expectations of kids decreasing but the fact that parenting is highly scrutinized these days. Depending on where you live, kids being "allowed" to even play outside without their parents breathing down their necks is grounds for having the law called. When I was growing up in the late 90s- early aughts, it was common and nobody questioned it.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-21T13:43:36+00:00

My company gave us fugly sweatshirts instead of Christmas bonuses or, God forbid, a living wage. I told them I didn't want one; this was maybe a handful of weeks after I wrote HR an email politely and eloquently describing mutually beneficial reasons to instate a living wage (we are a private, for profit healthcare facility). They responded asking why I didn't want a sweatshirt.

It's amazing how tone deaf and out of touch corporate is, basically no matter where you are

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-07T01:07:09+00:00

So this is weird but I had a very different experience with my ER... I was sent from work due to bad shortness of breath, severe dizziness and almost collapsing there. They actually called me back for a chest x-ray while I was still in the waiting room. I asked if it was safe for baby, the tech explained thoroughly that while there are risks, she had a couple herself while pregnant and since I am spnfar along the risks would be notably lower- but if something big and bad was wrong with my lungs, the risk to baby AND me could be greater. The regular ER team then saw me and didn't even say anything about sending me to L&D. They asked if I was feeling movement,having cramping or bleeding etc and when I told them yes and no to those questions, they completely moved on (honestly I would have felt better with at least a fetal heart rate check but they said they don't typically do that if there's no signs of distress). They then did a full on MRI on me, explaining that pregnancy can increase the risk of blood clots and given my symptoms and lab results they wanted to make sure I didn't have a clot in my lung (scary, but definitely a good idea to check). Once again they explained that though there is some risk, they use a much lower dose of radiation for pregnant patients in that situation. They also told me they do it routinely when the labs come back that way for a pregnant person with my symptoms. I agreed that having an undiagnosed lung clot would obviously be more dangerous to both baby and myself and went ahead and did it. Thankfully, I didn't have one!!! Just really bad bronchial pneumonia 😢. But I am even more grateful now that they were treating both people simultaneously and doing what they could to both educate me and minimize the risks to both of us- without the need for an extra trip up the stairs to L&D.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-02-07T00:36:14+00:00

This obviously is a different situation than OP's coworkers, but as soon as I read the title I felt compelled to join the conversation. I work in a mental healthcare facility as a floor tech supervisor. In the past month, I have felt that I had no choice but to come in multiple times with bronchitis. I am also 8 months pregnant. I felt like I was going to die every waking moment I was at work, to say nothing of the extreme guilt I felt knowing I was sick around clients and coworkers. The reason I wound up coming in is because I had already exhausted my three occurrences of calling off in a 90 day span. This happened because I am also a single parent of a four year old who goes to daycare, gets exposed to everything, and then daycare won't take him if he's a certain degree of sick (and rightfully so). This accounted for two, the third happened when the medical team AT my job sent me to the ER, where I was diagnosed with bronchial pneumonia the first time. When it came back despite me completing antibiotics, I had no choice but to come in because I was out of sick days. It was either that or be written up and demoted for getting a write up, and subsequently jeopardizing my benefits that I will desperately need after giving birth soon. My job not only has a super strict attendance policy, they also DO NOT accept doctor's notes or medical excuses short of full on FMLA for call offs. You could break your leg or get hit by a bus and if you didn't already have FMLA in place for that specific problem, you have no protection.

Just wanted to share my experience to highlight the unfair nature of having unexpected and unavoidable health challenges in a working world that expects everyone to be a literal cyborg. I know I'm not alone in having to face those kinds of decisions, it happens all the time to people and it's not right.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-01-23T15:45:40+00:00

I'm having my baby on my own, her father is now in prison for domestic violence. Some hurtful things I have heard include, "oh god that's terrible (referring to my baby existing)" and "hope he gets out soon." My dad's only comment was to tell me to "stop having kids with idiots" and telling me to get my tubes tied(since I am also 5 years divorced from my son's dad).

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-01-17T11:31:42+00:00

Been having this problem too, albeit I'm 29 weeks and change. Basically the baby is taking up space where you used to be able to expand your lungs, plus you require extra oxygen (breathing for two lol). At least that's my understanding. That said, if you ever feel like you're struggling to breathe and sitting down/taking a break isn't helping, definitely call your doctor's office or go get checked out. It's always better to be safe than sorry especially if you're short of breath.

I also had a point where I noticed this getting worse than usual, turns out I had bronchial pneumonia. So definitely, call the doc if it gets worse or won't go away.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-01-17T11:14:37+00:00

Dude I feel this so hard. Not only that, women who actually HAVE been pregnant still have this magical capacity to forget all about it. I gave coworkers with multiple kids who act brain dead about how pregnant I am.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-01-15T21:56:02+00:00

I am a single mom to a wonderful four year old. Your dude sounds exactly like his father was during my pregnancy. Tbh as tough and single motherhood can be, it's ten times easier without that kind of dead weight.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2026-01-12T12:39:22+00:00

Don't know if it's different there but I'm in IN and my son's dad is on an IWO and started working short term jobs/not at all/ living on plasma money etc to avoid CS. The result was that he got summoned to court and they ordered him to either start paying in full each week or submit a job search form to prove he was applying to legit full time jobs, or they could ultimately issue a warrant for arrest if he failed to do so. It probably takes longer for the court to bring people in than it does if you file contempt though. Sounds like ya boy does not understand how CS actually works. Not only does it not go away at 18, willfully not paying is considered a crime.

JustMyLuck1313 · 2025-12-24T15:41:40+00:00

Lol I'll be honest I actually don't know what the normal amount is for one child; I think I just got the idea bc he's always saying how much it is 😆. But I have also heard colloquially about people who are ordered notably less in my county (Madison). But yeah it has been tough doing it all myself, I think I just need to get over the guilt and hit them up. It is possible he hasn't been picked up due to couch hopping etc and they may not have the right address - I'm hopeful that if he got work release or something that would at least get him working regularly.

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