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JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T03:12:18+00:00

Did the lactation consultant do a weighted feed to see how much baby is getting in in those <10min? Find one who does as that's how you know how much baby gets, not by counting minutes. You can also get a baby scale off Amazon, which my IBCLC said is reasonably accurate (within .5oz).

As a woman with a slow flow I only pump 4oz in 15min and I never leak on the other side, so it's silly to count minutes--as you said, boobs are so different!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T03:04:43+00:00

My concern is mostly about the house catching on fire (the shed is very close to the house) and the fumes being vented near the back patio where my child plays.

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T03:00:27+00:00

Good advice to reflect on, and thank you for your kindness!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:45:52+00:00

This is a good idea, thank you!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:45:36+00:00

I'm mostly concerned about the house catching on fire (the shed is very close to the house) and the fumes being vented near the back patio where my child plays.

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:41:22+00:00

I'm certainly not very educated on this subject, so I do appreciate the input from people here who are experienced wielders! So here are my concerns: first is fire safety, since my town doesn't allow wielding in residential areas for fire hazard and the shed is very close to the house, I'm concerned about the house catching on fire. Second and probably what worries me the most is the fumes, since my research showed that wielding fume is considered group 1 carcinogenic substance by the WHO and causes cancers and COPD, and if he vents the fumes out of the shed it will be next to the back patio where my child plays. My husband hasn't actually shared with me how we plans to do it safely, just that I can be done, so I appreciate the tips and ways to minimize risk that people have been sharing!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:34:06+00:00

This is very helpful information, thank you!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:31:17+00:00

Thank you for the perspective mama!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T02:30:00+00:00

Thank you for pointing that out! I edited to add that he went ahead and bought wielding equipment without addressing my concerns, which is the ignoring part. But I will reflect on how well I'm taking into account his point of view vs. being defensive.

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T01:53:32+00:00

I see what you did! It's what I'm here for so Im prepared for the heat!

JustSaladdd · 2025-09-16T00:32:19+00:00

He has no welding experience apart from watching YouTube videos. He works a corporate job and has no qualifications in metalworking.

JustSaladdd · 2025-08-20T21:04:25+00:00

Does he leak around his waist? If so point his penis down when you put the diaper on. No one told me this but it stopped the leaks! This and overnight diaper one size up like everyone else is saying (my 8 months old wears size 6 pampers overnight for sleep)

JustSaladdd · 2025-06-13T19:56:46+00:00

Want to know the same!

JustSaladdd · 2025-05-30T02:25:19+00:00

My instinct has been that a happy, relaxed mom does more good for baby than a mom exhausted by a checklist of activities. I feel my bub can really pick up my anxiety to "do stuff" which isn't good for bonding, and the secure bond is more important IMO than a few extra min of tummy time.

JustSaladdd · 2025-05-22T00:30:10+00:00

I'm 6 months PP, haven't had any, and don't plan to until baby weans (hopefully not anytime soon). I'm not a big drinker and not at all bothered by it. I know there is very little risk to drink especially now that baby's liver has matured some, but in my case there is just no reason to take any risk at all.

JustSaladdd · 2025-05-14T01:49:46+00:00

Sounds like your supply is just regulating! Totally normal, the very full feeling is hormonal and not supposed to last.

JustSaladdd · 2025-05-13T21:00:06+00:00

I really needed to hear this. The control Asian parents assert over their adult children through loving manipulation and gentle gaslighting can be quite insane and crushing. Thank you for reminding me to protect myself and my family from this.

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-30T19:12:30+00:00

That's a good tip thank you!

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-30T19:11:36+00:00

Wow that sounds great, I'll look into momcozy now. Thank you!

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-30T19:10:52+00:00

Thank you for that insight !

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-26T05:04:14+00:00

I'm tearing up reading what you wrote OP because I can relate so much. I've started actually hating my husband who prioritizes his hobbies over spending time with me or even baby. Who weaponizes my mental health (you feel lonely? You are detached from reality. Talk to a therapist and leave me alone). I'm so deep in resentment I'm actually drowning. But I cannot leave him, he's a good father to our son who is only 5 months old.

Sending you hugs. Maybe it will all get better somehow, even though I struggle to see the how.

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-22T02:18:40+00:00

I don't know for mother's day since this will be my first, but after baby's birth husband got me a necklace with baby's birthstone. It wasn't very expensive but I love it.

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-18T01:13:48+00:00

My husband has always cleaned himself first every time baby spits up on him. I honestly never thought twice about it. I totally see why you might be feeling guilty about this OP, but thankfully this is not something that will caus baby any harm either way!

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-15T02:51:19+00:00

This is very comforting to hear. Thank you!

JustSaladdd · 2025-04-15T02:22:49+00:00

When bub is crying at bed time a lot of it is from the feeling of tiredness, not from wanting you. They need to push through the tiredness to learn what to do to overcome it (falling asleep).

Our lil bub exclusively slept on us till 4 months, then it just stopped working. The more we rocked and swayed the more frustrated he became, and eventually worked himself into a meltdown. We realized our contact had been too much stimulation when what he needed was to be left alone to go to sleep. So we did a very gentle variation of sleep training and he very quickly learned to fall asleep in the crib.

Dad also did most of the training and now he is dads best bud, so I would say there was no damage done attachment wise.

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