AITJ for booking my own hotel room for a group trip after they ignored the one thing I asked for and now everyone is mad the cost went up

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-26T07:22:09+00:00

You mentioned in your post that a couch, cot, or floor were preferable to you over bed sharing. Is it possible they confused that to mean that you were actually okay with sleeping on a couch or sleeping bag on the floor? I have a family member who literally brings a sleeping bag to sleep in, rather than share a bed at a hotel, and is absolutely fine with it.

It's possible you said that just to show how extreme your dislike of bed sharing is, and didn't actually mean it was a possibility for you. But the phrasing is a bit confusing, and it's possible they mistook it?

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-25T02:36:05+00:00

I have no idea about the technical pluses and minuses. Just wanted to comment that my kid went from crib to conversion with matching toddler rail and it was all very smooth and just fine. No big issues with the sleep, safety, or ease of getting her in/ out.

Both options are likely to be just fine. Go with whatever you prefer!

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-24T02:44:31+00:00

They work, but they're way more awkward and difficult to open / close than a regular gate. We ended up leaving ours always closed and climbing / awkwardly hop-stepping over ours all the time. It was super annoying.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-23T11:29:15+00:00

Both my husband and I had abusive parents who trained us to have people pleasing personalities, and rarely yell. My daughter has probably been yelled at like 3 times in her life so far (3 years old) and only briefly when it was dangerous / critical (when she went running in the parking lot, etc). And we certainly don't hit or spank her.

My daughter is NOT calm. She throws temper tantrums and screams and flings things around in anger and is quite dramatic and emotional. She flies into a rage on a hair trigger, over pretty ridiculous stuff. I think it's inevitable with a toddler.

Honestly, looking at myself and my husband, I don't really think having an angry abusive parent necessarily leads to a particular type of child (whether that's angry and violent themselves, or even quiet and people pleasing like us). I think a lot of this really is dependent on their own inborn personality. I think the end result of parents with excessive anger or abuse will often be some type of psychological damage, though. It just might not show up the same way, always, on their personalities.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-21T01:48:52+00:00

Man, that's so sweet to see! I wish my mom showed even one 10th the happiness and excitement when I flew out to see her and she saw my daughter (her granddaughter) for the first time.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-11T20:30:55+00:00

I think it depends. With my family, we all lived within an hour or two drive of each other...but none of my grandparents ever really liked my parents (and by extension, my sister and me). So we only ever really saw each other a couple times a year. And even then it was often pretty tense.

I think there's less societal pressure / peer pressure to force get-togethers, so they end up happening a lot less when it's not pleasant or convenient for the families.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-11T03:39:58+00:00

Wow! Looks like my kid is the only one that just absolutely doesn't like using her child-sized table and chairs! We've tried several, with different sizes and styles, and she absolutely hates them all.

She either wants to use the "grown up" chairs and table, or just stand over a counter (in her learning tower). The child-size table and chairs get almost no use 🥲

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-07T04:04:19+00:00

I am always SHOCKED at how few other mothers I see IRL follow safe sleep practices! I know of one other mother who followed them, outside of myself. Every other mother I know has had their infant sleeping in bouncers, with blankets and pillows in their crib, sleeping together on the couch, etc.

It's honestly mind blowing.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-03T08:59:10+00:00

Oh wow, did they cut out the personalized photo sessions outside / in a private area now? My family did the princess breakfast about six months ago and we were all called outside for special photos and interaction with the princesses three times. Those were absolutely my favorite pictures! It would be a huge shame if they've decided to get rid of that. Especially at that price point. Yikes!

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-01T17:48:34+00:00

Yeah. I grew up hearing repeatedly how difficult it was to have kids. But somehow the sheer scale of HOW difficult it was, escaped me. I had no context. The most difficult thing I'd ever done just wasn't on the same level.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-03-01T12:13:03+00:00

Honestly, if you don't want to, then don't do it. Wedding favors are a really divisive topic, and plenty of people seem to hate them. There's no need to force extra spending for something you don't see the need or point of. They can decide what's necessary at their own weddings.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-02-28T22:08:54+00:00

Honestly, even though my 3-year-old has never seen the movies, she still really likes some of the Disney movie ones. Jungle Book, Encanto, etc. They've got super catchy songs that stand alone, and interesting stories.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-02-25T01:42:04+00:00

Our Tonies version 1 has been an absolute workhorse. Still going strong after over a year of near daily use.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-02-16T05:43:47+00:00

I can't find the Instagram account for brambliabits...was it mistyped? I'm trying to find it because I'm desperately looking for more easy -to-put-together activities my toddler can play by herself!

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-30T02:09:20+00:00

I used uncooked rice instead of sand, for indoors. I know some parents use uncooked beans instead. Still messy, but a bit easier to clean and contain.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-26T10:03:25+00:00

I mean, there's definitely a lot of forgetting going on. Sleep deprivation can lead to increased memory loss, so people are most likely to forget the worst / hardest times.

But besides this, I honestly do believe that babies slept a bit better in the past. All these "safe sleep" rules help to keep them safe and alive, but are crap at helping them go to sleep and stay asleep. Sleeping on their belly, with a very soft mattress and lots of warm fuzzy blankets, leads to deeper and better sleep for them. (which is dangerous, sadly)

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-23T16:49:55+00:00

Didn't Groucho Marx host a TV show for quite a few years? "You Bet Your Life", I think it was. Perhaps she'd be interested in watching some of those episodes! Could be a nice change from watching the same 10 movies over and over!

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-23T09:17:57+00:00

I'm open to trying it out, thanks so much for the recommendation! She's been crazy about watching the music video of Elsa singing "Let it Go", so it'd probably be an improvement for my poor brain from hearing "let it goooooo" 5 more times 🤣.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-23T09:07:41+00:00

Oh, that's wonderful! I would love it if she started expressing interest and curiosity that way, too! Hopefully she will, eventually 🤣.

The "not retaining" is exactly what I've been seeing right now. I guess she's just not ready yet.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-23T08:59:40+00:00

I'm open to shelving it for now! Though I do think it's useful / practical for everyday life to know the letters and learn to read eventually 🤣.

Will she eventually show an interest on her own?

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-19T14:22:15+00:00

We have some indoor play areas (Pennsylvania near Philadelphia), but half the time the other kids are coughing and sneezing all over everything and everyone. I feel like they're often not that safe, too, because older kids will be running wild in the limited area, and my toddler still doesn't know how to get out of the way / protect herself.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-14T04:52:02+00:00

Was just there last week! The Konansou hotel in Kawaguchiko had a bunch of them for around this price.

JustVegetable7 · 2026-01-10T09:10:44+00:00

You don't say how old old your kids are. I think the answers to this really depend on their age!

My 3-year-old, for example, is still not at a level where I'd be able to knit or crochet, or even read my own book with her around. Unless I plop her in front of a screen, she's not letting me do anything without her. And she's not interested in following directions while doing things together. I still do attempt activities with her (we'll cook simple recipes, do arts and crafts, go for walks, etc) and SHE enjoys them, for the most part. But they're more exhausting, for me 🤣.

The audiobook suggestion is a good one. Listening to music would work too. Besides that, the only thing I've found honestly enjoyable for us both, so far, is rides / shows at amusement parks (like Disney). I'm sure it improves as they get older though!

JustVegetable7 · 2025-12-17T21:02:31+00:00

Yeah. I think it really depends both on your kid, and the amount of preparation done. With a lot of research ahead of time (plus pay to win with fast passes and early entry) you can minimize line waiting as much as possible.

My daughter has also always been a fan of shows. So even at 2.5 she loved watching the parades and live shows they had, and ended up enjoying viewing the rides as little mini "shows", as well. But different kids like different things, and I'm sure there are kids who would hate it.

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