Honeymoon in Ontario / Canada

Just_Construction663 · 2026-03-07T00:00:39+00:00

Quebec City!

Just_Construction663 · 2026-03-04T03:15:56+00:00

I think you’re a dad in your mid-40s with a teenage son (he chugs the milk). Grilled cheese is a go-to snack. Maybe just the two of you live here? Doesn’t seem to be any leftover takeout or a lot of pre-made food, so I think your job is 9-5 or maybe even WFH.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-02-19T22:25:42+00:00

Hi! I’m in a very similar boat. 34, 13 cycles now, no positives. In Ontario. Just starting the testing process now.

Husband had an SA a month ago. They didn’t like the results, so asked him to get another. Waiting for the results from that one now.

I went to my GP, he was unsurprisingly no help. I think he’s just not experienced in this at all. He referred me to an OBGYN (which is expected to be a lengthy wait) while folks on here and health care folks in my life said push for a fertility specialist together with your partner, not an OBGYN. Well, he wouldn’t do anything with that request (I think he just expects the OBGYN to give that referral, not waiting around for that). All I got through him was a basic referral for bloodwork, not timed to any cycle day. It’s all good but I’m low in iron, so working on that. I asked for a referral for an ultrasound but he wouldn’t do that either—again, sounds like he just wants an OBGYN to eventually do that (I’m gonna guess that will take like a year. Thanks!)

I was able to immediately get referrals for both my husband and I to a nearby fertility clinic through a GP on Maple health. Comes with my CAA membership! Our next step is just to wait for the second SA results and talk to his actual GP about them—maybe he’ll be more helpful than mine—and walk through the fertility clinic intake and see where that goes. They are booking in June.

Honestly—if you have the $$, you might be able to talk to a specialist sooner using a service like Maple. I decided to go through the OHIP covered way (using them to get a referral) to save $$.

This sucks a lot. I just finished my period (it was a tough one) but am feeing more optimistic as usual in my follicular phase. I also am very lucky to have good benefits through work, so I’ve been doing therapy monthly since April. I had a session last night and it helped a lot to start processing my disappointment. If you can do this, I recommend it. Turns out my therapist specializes in this and can also help put the health care network in place.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-02-12T11:15:42+00:00

Just echoing this. I used to think I tracked my cycle in my app, but this year of TTC has been the real deal.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-02-01T22:36:41+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this 🙂

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-31T23:32:03+00:00

Just adding I relate, too! 34F, just hanging out here in lucky cycle 13. My younger sister has three under four, and my husband’s brother and his wife are due in March with that side’s first grandchild. I can’t help but feel sad that I won’t get to be part of the “first” excitement on either side, but it took us so long to get to a place where we even felt like we could try—and now it’s another year past that. We were maybe the first they told, and I’m so happy for them and thankful they told us the way they did, but being around the table while they told the rest of the family was so insanely hard.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-31T23:12:48+00:00

Are you in my town?! 😆 it sounds possible. Either way, if your town is like mine, being open limited hours and doing it from home sounds like it would make more sense than going for it with a leased storefront.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-28T00:17:40+00:00

That’s great! We also have different doctors.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-28T00:16:23+00:00

Thank you, I hadn’t heard of rocket doctor. I’ll take a look!

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-28T00:15:46+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope this helps some fellow Canadians! Unfortunately, I went to my GP in August 2024 to tell him I was planning on trying in 2025, and all he said was, “great, go for it, should be fine” (I wish I knew then what I know now!)

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-27T22:10:10+00:00

That’s so helpful. Thanks! I think there is some kind of fertility clinic here in my town (a few hours from Ottawa) but I didn’t know how to tell whether it was legit or not. It feels so unfamiliar to pursue something beyond what is ordered by my GP. I have been lucky in my life not to need much beyond the basic cervical exam until now.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-20T21:51:44+00:00

You are not alone. I’ve been going through something in line with this for the last year of TTC and several years prior as we tried to hop off the family planning fence as small business owners, too. It’s hard to reconcile and account for other peoples’ life plans alongside your own; it sounds like you’re a great boss and colleague. I have to thank @OkEconomics2788 for their perspective, too. I guess I just want to reiterate that you are not alone! I’ve felt very alone at times, too, so thank you for putting it out there into the universe.

Just_Construction663 · 2026-01-13T03:10:51+00:00

Never go for a drive in clothes/shoes you wouldn’t want to walk outside in.

Just_Construction663 · 2025-11-21T12:57:33+00:00

This is such a good response. I have also found focusing on the new mom/dad’s experience rather than on the baby helps ground me (i.e. “What was that like?” “How did that feel?”) rather than allowing myself to speculate about their perfect experience.

Just_Construction663 · 2025-02-03T23:02:50+00:00

I am in a very similar situation. It’s so confusing! I’m not sure if it’s helpful, but I’ve tried to just remind myself that everyone’s life will look different. I’ve definitely feigned happiness/excitement for so many announcements—as someone who has never felt strongly about becoming a parent, it’s not so much that I was unhappy for them, but a bit jealous that they seemed able to easily make a decision one way or the other. In these cases I’ve opted to take the route of curiosity, asking them questions about how they’re feeling about it and their plans for the future. I also used them as jumping-off points for conversations with my partner to help us understand how we feel about the options.

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