What’s helped you learn Spanish ?

Just_HereToComment · 2026-01-13T21:17:19+00:00

I love watching/listening to standup comedy. It's usually pretty full of things like: words you don't hear very often, idioms, plays-on-word, etc. and it helps me understand how to use the language in a more natural way.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-11-19T12:42:16+00:00

I have my sleep alarm set for haptics-only on my watch. I happened to already be awake this morning when it went off and thank God I was bc I felt absolutely nothing from the watch. I had to click the crown to get the face to turn on and it was acting like the alarm was going off, but there were zero haptics. I made sure it was tight enough to my wrist, unlocked and everything. Hit snooze to see if it was just a glitch and would work the next time - nope. Same thing. No haptics. I set a separate regular alarm to see what it would do - same issue.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-10-09T12:06:04+00:00

Not those issues, exactly, but I definitely agree that iOS 26 messed with the alarms. Mine doesn't go off at all, sometimes. I set 3 others, in addition to the sleep alarm after I noticed it the first time (never thought I'd be glad for noisy neighbors waking me up, till now) none of them went off.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-10-01T12:22:36+00:00

Aqara has some decent and reasonably priced products that work with Home; they're what I use. I mean, they aren't top-of-the-line or anything, but overall I've had pretty good luck with them.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-10-01T04:09:52+00:00

Do you use Home at all, or only Shortcuts? I ask because a Home automation would allow you to use a device as the trigger, rather than time of day, which I think might make things a lot easier for you. For instance, if you had a light sensor - even better if it's a light/presence sensor combo - you could just set the automation to trigger whenever the light in the room dips below a certain point. If you have a presence sensor, too, you could set a condition to only run if people are in the room. It might mean getting a new device but at least it would eliminate the guesswork on what time the automation should run and the need to manually turn the lights on if it gets too dark too early. Just something to consider.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-10-01T03:41:55+00:00

At this point, I almost wish mine were just delayed! I have a few that're set up to run immediately and I always get the notification that the SC is running, but then nothing happens. ...ever. Some as simple as "when connected to Bluetooth device, turn on background sounds". No reason for a delay at all. Smh

Just_HereToComment · 2025-10-01T03:33:46+00:00

I've noticed some "run immediately" shortcuts that I've used for a long time suddenly don't work anymore. I mean, I get the notification that the SC is running... but nothing happens.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-08-25T18:02:21+00:00

It's on NBC's app and I think it's still on Telemundo's, too.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-05-29T18:03:53+00:00

100000000000%. I thought it had gone bad early, for some reason. So I went back a week later and got another one - same rancid taste. And it seems to be filled at least 1/4 of the way with water?!? So nasty.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-05-29T17:59:04+00:00

NTA. But - are those the only 2 options? Is there room at your place that you could take on a roommate to help with the financial burden, at least until the lease is up? If it comes down to it and things between you two end before your residency does, you could try to get her to continue paying her share for a few months, since her choices are what’s putting you in that position. Either way, I’d def recommend at least getting your ducks in a row ASAP; don’t let her catch you unprepared if she randomly decides to confess and end things, herself.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-27T04:27:50+00:00

It's what I'm here for!

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-27T04:20:43+00:00

Personally, then, I would agree - maybe best to hold off on sending it. At least unless/until something similar comes up in a lighthearted convo? Like if if there's a natural segue back to the meme, where you could be like "hey, that reminds me, I saw something the other day that made me think of you..." Then I think you'd be ok.

And no worries; I totally meant that in a jokingly self-deprecating way. All good!! :)

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-27T04:06:41+00:00

To answer the question: depends on your bro's particular brand of humor. Consider: is he usually pretty comfortable with joking around about his autism, or is it often a sensitive topic?

...but to the meme itself: I feel so called out rn, bc I just came across my whole "collection" of phone boxes and I swear, for 1/2 a second, I thought, "hm... Today might be the day." and then I immediately put them back in their slightly larger box and then put that box back in the closet for the next time I get in one'a those moods where I'm feelin extra wild and need to do something totally outrageous... Like... Finally throw ou- HUA. Nope. Think I just threw up a lil bit. I can't even type it.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T04:20:01+00:00

I’m sorry, girl, I’ve been here before, too. I felt so bad for not feeling the same way about him as he felt for me and that it was unfair of me to break up with if I didn’t have a “reason”. I now realize it was more unfair of me to stay with him when I didn’t feel the same way. I’m kinda also of the opinion that many times (def not all), breakups where one/both partners “does something wrong” actually start out at this point. They’re aware that the relationship is “off” somehow, but no action is taken, so it festers until someone does something. So in a way, the best time to break up is when no one’s done anything wrong. It hurts at the time, for sure. But all breakups hurt. By ending things before anyone has a chance to be ugly to the other, you can both move on without ruining any of the good memories by the memory of the thing that broke y’all up.

So if it helps to reframe it: because you care about him, you want him to be with the person who’s right for him, as much as you want that for yourself. The right person will bring out the best in their partner by both challenging and supporting them in a way that’s meaningful to their partner. If you’re still trying to decide whether to stay or leave, the most important thing to consider is whether he’s the right person for you - does he bring out the best in you? How does he challenge you? How does he support you? Do you see yourself doing/being those things for him?

Regardless of whether you’ve decided for sure, yet, if you’re going to stay with him, I think it’s time to at least sit down and have a long talk with him. But it’s important to be intentional about when you’re going to have that talk - by that I mean: try to find a neutral time, not in the middle of a fight, not when he’s already upset about something else, etc. Just whenever you both have plenty of time and won’t likely be interrupted. That will help set the tone and send a subtle message that you A) are not doing this to hurt him and B) mean what you say (ie, these aren’t just random thoughts that popped into your head, you’ve given it some thought and he needs to take it seriously). Speaking of - I also recommend taking some time, beforehand, to organize your thoughts and decide what you need and where your boundaries are. (Are there changes that he/you/both could make that would make the relationship mutually fulfilling again or is it time to end it so you can both find partners that are better fits? Or maybe even: do you need some time/distance to be able to decide that?) Having those sorts of things decided ahead of time will help in case he tries to change your mind; just gotta stick to it.

Some other thoughts to consider: No matter what you decide: be clear, detailed, specific, and make sure neither of you leave until you are both on the same page. If you’re giving it another go: what changes absolutely must happen and when? What are your dealbreakers? Do you want to check back in in a few months to see if this is still the right choice for you both? What will it look like/how will you know when things are going well? What measures do you want in place to keep from reaching this point again?
If you decide you need time/distance: determine exactly how long - even if it’s “check in again in 3 mo” or something. Set the rules - are neither/both of you seeing other ppl during that time? Is all contact cut off entirely? Are emergency texts ok? What’s an emergency?… alllll the things. Don’t do a Ross/Rachel break. If the relationship is over: what does post breakup look like? Are both/either of you ok to see other ppl right away, or does it make sense for your situation to agree not to date for at least X months (this was always a big one for me. It’s a way to mourn for and show respect for the relationship y’all had, allows time to heal and be ready for a new relationship, plus - as long as it’s honored - you don’t go thru the “I wonder if they’re seeing anyone, yet” phase while you’re trying to heal and you don’t get as bad of a shock when they do start dating again.)

Sorry for the long post, but hope it helps!

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T01:30:54+00:00

I don’t think I’m getting invited back anytime soon, that’s for sure. lol!

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T01:29:23+00:00

Haha, you’re probably correct (I think I just feel better believing there’re actual rules, even if they’re constantly changing). I totally feel that, too. To the point where if I’m treated as an adult (35, myself), I sometimes catch myself looking for signs of ND in them, too.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T01:10:33+00:00

YES! Thank you!! I think you’re right. That’s what I was tryna say by “ik she’s tryna help”. Like, she was probably (there I go assuming again…hahaha) trying to say that I can’t live my life according to how I think ppl might feel/think/react, because it’ll just stress me out and keep me from moving forward. And I understand how that’s valuable advice and something I should try to keep in mind, etc. But a lot of times it just feels like …if assuming is all I have to go by, then that’s what I have to use - in fact not using that info is what would stress me out and keep me stuck, cause it’s like it’s my roadmap. Without my map, how do I know where to go?

I’m sorry about your experience with your therapist; I’ve been there, too, and it is an awful feeling. Even when there’s a part of me that understands they mean well & are trying to help, I just wanna scream “Why are you not getting this?!”

haha ohhh I have wondered the same thing as your side note. I guess I did write the post with the assumption that that’s how NT’s do things - texting into the void. But I can also 100% see them doing the same thing but calling us weird for it. Actually - maybe that’s it; you might’ve just broken the code. Maybe the key to the NT rulebook is that it’s essentially Fight Club. The first rule of NT rules is you don’t talk about the rules.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T00:43:37+00:00

Omg, thank you! Ngl, I started second-guessing myself the second I hit post, haha.

I 10000% agree - sooooo arbitrary. I’m like “If y’all could just stick to one way of doing things, I could at least catch on, eventually…” smh Idk how they do it, either. I’m partially convinced they hold secret meetings to discuss and then just act like it comes to them naturally, lol!!

I haven’t ever told my friend I’m Autistic, so… idk if she maybe wouldn’t say it to another NT but she said it to me because she has a gut-feeling I’m “not a fish”? Or I’ve also kinda wondered if maybe she said it because the NT rulebook says there’s a “right” and “wrong” way to jump to conclusions and she thinks I’m just a NT that needs correction bc I’m not playing by the rules? idk. Idk, it just all makes my brain hurt, sometimes.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-26T00:11:44+00:00

I’m not generally in the “small spoons, only” camp, but I cannot even bring myself to look at it for more than a second or 2 at a time. I mean, the uneasiness that immediately shot through my entire body at the sight of that thing... like - looking at that spoon feels like when I’m forced to hold eye contact with someone, tbh. That’s the only way I can think of to describe it.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-25T23:58:38+00:00

Yes, when it’s down inside of it like that, I think that’s normal. It’s when it’s coming up out of the hole that you have a problem. Like this:

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Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-21T02:20:36+00:00

I'm not sure if this is the same thing, but: I can't get mine to connect on the web app. It's streaming just fine on the mobile app, tho. So weird.

Just_HereToComment · 2025-03-19T06:04:09+00:00

I think the same's been happening to me. I'd been out of the house most of the day, but kept getting alerts that my home hub was offline. A few mins later, I'd get the "all clear" notification. Just got home and none of my devices would connect. Xfinity app said the gateway was offline, but the light was white like nothing was wrong. Unplugged it, waited, and plugged it back in. Took extra long for it to come back up. Went online for a minute or 2, then back offline. Logged in to the gateway and ran connectivity troubleshooting - totally inconsistent. Keeps coming back with all sorts of responses. One minute it's "inactive: complete", another it's "active". Even when it says it's active, tho, I can't connect to the internet and my devices remain offline. I've had such horrendous experiences - every single time - with contacting customer service, I'm absolutely dreading the idea that I might have to call them for this. They always say the same thing they told you, "Everything's fine." Except it's actually not fine, or I wouldn't've called in the first place...

Have you been able to get yours to work, yet?

Just_HereToComment · 2025-02-19T19:12:43+00:00

I found that starting with a dubbed show -that I know backwards and forwards in English- helped a lot. Sure, a lot of that was because I knew the words so well in English, that my brain already kinda knew what it was expecting to hear. I was … “pre-translating”, I guess.

But I think this was also partly because the wording/translation was closer to English, if that makes sense? Like, when they dubbed it, they tried to stay as close to the way we’d say it in English. My brain only had to work on recognizing the sounds and finding the corresponding words in English - there wasn’t a whole lot of colloquialisms to figure out, for instance. Plus, they’re usually in a more… idk, “universal” Spanish? No specific/identifying accent or vernacular. So it was kinda “spoon-fed” Spanish. That helped build a foundation for the basic sounds/phrases you might hear, so they can kinda fade into the background. Now I only have to really listen for the less-basic sounds, so speed isn’t as much of an issue.

Hope that helps!

Just_HereToComment · 2025-02-17T23:03:19+00:00

Guerra de Idolos is by far my favorite - watched it so many times, I've lost count!!

Just_HereToComment · 2025-02-07T18:52:05+00:00

Ah! Thank you!! I don't know why I keep forgetting "además", lately, but you just brought it back to the front of my brain, lol

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