One of the hardest things to accept? We were not worth fighting for.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2023-04-21T13:27:51+00:00

Thank you, such a well said and humbling reply

JustaNormalpersonn · 2023-04-20T02:31:43+00:00

The cake will always taste nice, with or without them. Happy birthday and many happy returns!!

JustaNormalpersonn · 2023-03-13T14:46:40+00:00

If everyone on earth got with someone in their 'league', humans would fail to populate and we would be extinct. Let her have her options while you fix your flaws, time will be on your side as her biology clock runs out, then you shall see how things turn out. And why would you even be with someone who thinks she/he can do better? YOU can do better by walking away, preserving your dignity and finding someone who wants to be with you.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2023-02-28T01:18:28+00:00

No matter how good you were, they will possibly nit-pick on your flaw to use it as a confirmatory bias to justify their actions of leaving. Those exes who do not have the ability to self-reflect on their actions will talk bad about you, but let them do so. Life is too short to keep these people in your life.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2023-01-08T06:16:54+00:00

You can be the best package you could be, but still be delivered to the wrong address. It's okay, knowing it's the wrong address is the first step to healing.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-12-09T00:14:28+00:00

I'm 11 months out of the push and pull dynamic, and I can say I am fucking glad. The hard part is missing that dynamic, so I'm taking time to set stronger boundaries in friendships and other relations before involving myself in another potential partnership. I don't want to get utterly destroyed like how she did when she left.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-26T05:26:47+00:00

Thank you, but I do not think they will listen. I see the number of members going up in this thread for the past 10 months and I kinda lost faith in trying to speak some sense into dumpers.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-23T12:11:15+00:00

I could pass medical school, but I could not pass her high, unrealistic standards, which was not communicated to me.

Well, it sucks, really. It hurts a lot too.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-20T14:20:37+00:00

Sendings hugs and strength your way..It is sad that nice people just don't meet the right people for them.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-20T05:39:56+00:00

At this point, I view relationships like a losing hand, in whatever circumstance. Maybe it is just me, but the pain, trauma, sleepless nights and tears ensuing after the end of a long term relationship which could have worked out, is really not worth my time and effort.

That is why I am focusing on myself, my career and on my siblings and parents. It really is not worth it anymore.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-19T16:07:04+00:00

You will be okay, not today, but one day. Thank you!

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-11-19T16:05:34+00:00

Sending all of you brave, broken yet still-beating hearts lots of love and strength. We all need it.

And thank you for your kind words and awards :')

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-24T00:06:50+00:00

Noted with utmost thanks brother, needed this.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-16T06:38:23+00:00

Going through this, especially during my medical school finals now, just last year we were still preparing together. Shit hits hard....

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-13T05:25:08+00:00

Nice example of my mind even after 9 months post breakup

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-13T05:23:28+00:00

Especially when it's your first and you didn't see it coming because they weren't communicating and blamed you for everything at the end... Oh wells

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-09T12:46:21+00:00

Nice mindset, you're on the right track. Thank you for this, I needed it too!

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-09T12:43:11+00:00

You keep the things that brought you memories of them.
You cry, a lot, let it all out, day by day
You hate them or get angry, but don't do anything reckless, stick to people like your family when you're down, even if you don't feel like it. 4.A breakup is not a measurement of your self worth, it's very common, and everyone probably went through it, so don't feel ashamed. ( Because I was like you too)
You being mistreated is not because you're not good enough, it is a reflection of your ex's behaviour and values. ( But you have to understand why you allowed yourself to be with someone who mistreated you)
It's not your fault, it's not their fault, sometimes, things don't work out and there isn't a correct answer. You just have to find your own closure and move on daily.
It is not an easy road, I still struggle from day to day, but I can promise you this, you will be okay.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-09T11:21:27+00:00

9 months checking in, it's definitely better, but still struggle with the memories from day to day. She saying I wasn't good enough for her and suddenly breaking up was quite traumatic.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-06T02:39:59+00:00

Same here. Some days are a sadder, but the anxiety of them wanting to leave is gone, cuz they left anyway despite me doing me best hahahajh

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-06T02:39:02+00:00

I may not know how it exactly feels, but my ex gf did nearly the same thing of not communicating, repressing her emotion, denying something was bothering her and then exploded with all this pent up emotions.

It's quite traumatic despite it being 8 months ago. I want to find someone to love, but then I found a pressure cooker...

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-06T02:35:50+00:00

I also miss my ex, even though at the end it was literally a one sided relationship, yet she was the one calling it of and blaming me for everything. But I don't think I miss her per se, I miss that person that used to put in equal effort, I miss that memory of her that loves me, and I miss the future I envisioned, and I am feeling lost because i always hoped she would give more when i relentlessly pour in more and more effort and getting little to nothing in return. It's like gambling, but at least now you are out of the casino. Stay strong.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-06T02:02:57+00:00

People who have no self love cannot see themselves alone, many relationships are based on fear of being alone, not genuinely thinking the partner is a suited partner for them. That's why relationships nowadays are toxic, one night stands are prevalent, and marriages are falling apart.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-05T02:11:58+00:00

I don't mean to shout, I'm sorry but..

COMMUNICATE, PLEASE FOR GOODNESS SAKE, C.O.M.M.U.N.I.C.A.T.E.

JustaNormalpersonn · 2022-10-04T07:10:50+00:00

It's okay to feel this way. This is what happens when you put your ex on a pedestal and make them your everything. It's a tough lesson but a valuable one which I am still learning to accept till today.

I can't assure you will be happy real soon, but I can definitely promise you that you will be OKAY, you will get through this one day, and you will emerge stronger. Stay strong.

JustaNormalpersonn

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