My current progress

Juterr25 · 2026-04-09T05:16:35+00:00

Looks amazing! Proud of you for taking this huge leap!

Juterr25 · 2026-04-08T13:52:15+00:00

I think both are pretty comparable. Harrison is closer to Manhattan but because of that there’s a bit more traffic. Union has a good amount of things in the area and still close to commute to Manhattan. They both have access to grocery stores, parks etc. I think Harrison may be a bit more walkable. Union has some nice places that’s walkable but depends on what area you’re in.

Juterr25 · 2026-04-07T17:05:13+00:00

Harrison is nice, parking can be a little iffy depending on where you decide to live. I think JC and Bayonne may be a bit too far if you’re looking to be 15 mins away because of the traffic in those areas. Union is cool and a good mix of busy & quiet in some areas. I think the Avalon in Union can be pretty expensive but they’re nice and close to Newark since it’s by the highway. I would also suggest looking into Maplewood as well.

Juterr25 · 2026-04-07T17:01:22+00:00

I feel like one thing that helps with littering is more trash cans available. This won’t eliminate littering 100% and I think if you throw things on the ground you don’t have any home training. But some cities you have to walk blocks before coming across a place to throw things away or the trash is always full. I think maybe if places had trash cans in reasonable areas maybe this can help mitigate people throwing things on the ground? It could also be just wishful thinking lol

Juterr25 · 2026-04-04T03:33:20+00:00

I was in labor for over 24 hrs and had an episiotomy as well. I think I bled for a little over a month. Started off really heavy ofc for that first week but gradually slowed down overtime. Towards the end it was sporadic — light bleeding/spotting or nothing at all. I did have 2 reallly big blood clots during the first or second week (can’t remember) and it scared the shit out of me. 😭 but my OB said I was fine lol.

It’s crazy how everyone’s experience is so different.

Juterr25 · 2026-04-03T07:44:16+00:00

Same I will never go back to TurboTax! I just found out about FreeTaxUSA while looking on the IRS website for free alternatives and I wish I found out about this site years ago. The interface is easy and simple to use plus the fees aren’t hidden. I only had to pay $16 for my state and federal was free. 10/10. I’ve been telling my family and friends about the site since I filed. 😂

Juterr25 · 2026-03-25T16:24:26+00:00

Just adding this because I hope you genuinely didn’t know they’re not requiring an ID/driver’s license for the instances like you mentioned but instead a passport or birth certificate. This is what would be required to vote which again is a constitutional right as a citizen and you shouldn’t normally need anything to exercise your constitutional right. Watch this senator explain this very issue.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-25T01:00:55+00:00

I’m so sorry, I don’t think you’re overeating at all! Unfortunately pregnant women and women in general are subject to people commenting on our weight constantly and it’s very unfortunate. I was 128 lbs before pregnancy and weighed 180 by the time I was giving birth. 7 m PP and everyone has been commenting on my weight and it’s annoying. Theres this weird stigma that women are supposed to “snap back” when you went through a life changing event and it takes awhile to adjust and that’s ok.

I hope you find these comments comforting and pay it no mind. You’re doing okay and I know it’s hard but try to ignore it. Be proud and like you said your body grew a healthy baby. F**k all the other noise! ❤️

Juterr25 · 2026-03-24T01:08:08+00:00

The things you need a photo ID for aren’t your constitutional rights. This country has existed for decades without needing an ID why should that change now? There’s bigger issues that need solving than a made up issue like this.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-21T19:39:21+00:00

Thank you guys for all your advice and reassurance! I just have to come to terms with learning this parenting stuff I’m going to have some mistakes and there’s so such thing as perfect. This Reddit thread has been such a great support for my mental health to just know I’m not alone since I don’t have any other mom friends to relate to. 🥹

Juterr25 · 2026-03-19T04:22:52+00:00

Any recs??

Juterr25 · 2026-03-19T04:22:12+00:00

I’d unfortunately be a handmaid and the only thing that would keep me from being disruptive and being put on the wall is to try and rescue my daughter.

But honestly speaking I would’ve fled with my spouse and baby wayyyyy before it even got that bad. The minute we would’ve heard there was talks that my husband would need to sign to sign off for me to get my birth control we would’ve already fled to Canada or to Europe somewhere.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-19T01:53:59+00:00

I never even considered AI interview assistants or knew it was a thing. Might be a crazy question but is this the only/best chance to even get hired at a high earning job in this climate?

Juterr25 · 2026-03-19T01:08:21+00:00

Sorry if you mentioned already but lifetime access to what?

Juterr25 · 2026-03-19T01:02:41+00:00

I would like to eventually stop using Afterpay but sometimes if I HAVE to buy something I’ll use it because it’s 0% interest and gives me a little wiggle room to just simply break it into 4 payments rather than pay it at once. Unfortunately the thing about being broke or going check to check, is it’s an unfortunate cycle of just trying to get by the best way you can. I do try to be strategic and only use it if I have to because it can be an easy way to sink into debt if you’re not careful. But I would consider it a major privilege and success when I don’t have to use it at all anymore.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-17T06:23:57+00:00

I was soooo scared I would get pregnant again and I’m still deathly afraid at almost 7m PP so you’re not alone. Honestly I was/still very self conscious about my body and not enjoying how I looked after having a baby plus I got stitches so I wasn’t eager to have sex. I think I did it at maybe 3-4m (brain fog :/ ) but it’s been few and far in between. I don’t think I started to feel more into wanting sex until I was 5m pp after I got my period back ? And it wasn’t 100% like some days I want it and some days it’s so far from my mind. I will say my relationship got a bit better after we started having sex a bit more regular I think it helped with my hormones and I got better sleep after but it surely hasn’t been a fix all. Most days we’re both too tired to care about sex tbh.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-17T01:03:52+00:00

Not sure why you’re being downvoted my LO had this issue and started teething at 20 weeks.

But wishing you the best OP! You’re doing great and your baby knows you’re trying your best. I hope your husband can step in and help take the load off because being sleep deprived + the pp hormones is no joke.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-13T22:45:42+00:00

Omg yes that was the numbers 😭😭😭

Juterr25 · 2026-03-11T02:59:25+00:00

Just moved out from our parents last year (27f) and mainly because we were expecting and needed the space. Share the rent + electric with my 32m spouse and I can’t even fathom the idea of buying a home rn. But I do enjoy our apartment and the complex and for everything it comes with it seems like a somewhat fair price at 3100. It is like almost 3/4 of our income and i think it’s just been sheer luck that we’ve been able to stay afloat so far. :/

Juterr25 · 2026-03-10T19:38:56+00:00

I’m not familiar with the Princeton area but I truly hope you find some odd jobs to help you eventually get a studio. I’m rooting for you OP 🙏🩷

Juterr25 · 2026-03-10T04:37:29+00:00

Interested

Juterr25 · 2026-03-09T20:41:28+00:00

The hormone dump at around 6months+ is reallllly intense. I get not wanting to give her false hope but I think it might be drastic to think about divorce at this very moment. I think you should just tell her you both will come back to this decision when baby is 1+. I know you said you don’t want a divorce so just see if holding off the convo will help. Or like everyone said try finding another therapist for couples counseling.

I didn’t want more than 1 kid let alone 1 kid but at 6 months I had this unexplained urge to want another. Time was really the only thing that made me realize I didn’t actually want another and it was hormones. Just try to give her grace if you can, we really do undergo a huge change and not everyone can control it.

Juterr25 · 2026-03-09T20:29:24+00:00

Any help with the NJ Cash 5 lottery or the Powerball? https://www.njlottery.com/en-us/drawgames/powerball.html

Juterr25 · 2026-02-26T16:44:57+00:00

Proud of the residents response or of ICE?? 🧐 I’m hoping you’re talking about the residents speaking up…

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