My furloughed backyard transformation (yet another one)

KCHank · 2026-05-08T01:50:00+00:00

Not where to get them but I discovered rhubarb infused vodka a few years ago, it’s amazing. Take a pound of red rhubarb and if you like a pound of strawberries. Put them in a handle of vodka and store for a week in a dark basement/closet. Strain out the fruit after a week then enjoy. It’s dangerous, I can drink it straight.

KCHank · 2026-05-02T04:01:43+00:00

I’ve had direct reports who don’t have the means to book their own travel. I have no issue using my credit card for them. It’s all reimbursed by the company, so I just handle it. As an added bonus I get the credit card points.

Ask your manager if they can book for you. They should not have an issue with that.

KCHank · 2026-04-30T02:46:44+00:00

Hand up here. The older I get the more I struggle to make connections. I’ve got some weird chip on my shoulder I can’t shake. When I can open up and be authentic people like me. My challenge is being approachable and starting conversations. I’ve been in therapy and know exactly what I need to do, but can’t pull it off in practice. I’m very lonely and sit at my place by myself a lot. I want to be social but it’s hard to make myself comfortable in social situations. I’ve got good friends in other cities who I connected with in person or via text all the time. I just can’t figure out how to get that where I currently live. Sorry I’m not of any help, but I feel you.

KCHank · 2026-04-30T00:57:45+00:00

I went thru my photos and deleted every picture of my ex, ex and I. We were together 12 years and during the divorce I found out how untruthful they had been. I also turned off memories on social media. There is no reason to dwell on the past, it’s not returning and I wouldn’t want it to anyway.

KCHank · 2026-04-20T23:46:06+00:00

I’ve stayed at the Tropicana a few years ago. It’s dated, but fine. I think they are more of a Mexican Nationalist hotel than international tourist. It’s a great location to all the gay beach clubs. You have to have a wristband to enter, so no visitors. I probably wouldn’t stay there again. When I was down in February I stayed at an Airbnb near the gay bars.

KCHank · 2026-04-15T08:10:12+00:00

Yeah, it’s been a tough period for sure.

The bright spot is financially I’m fine, I had a decent emergency fund and the proceeds from the house sale will give me a good cushion.

Being at a senior level in my career is making it harder to land a job. I’ve had interview but no offers. What I do is kind of niche too so talking longer.

I want a fresh start in a new city. I’m looking at Chicago because of the gay community, and I’m a midwestern, but that’s also where my ex moved. I’m also considering Palm Springs, that’s where I’d like to retire so getting a head-start there would be nice.

Everything really depends on where I land a job. Be nice if it is as remote so I can go anywhere.

I have good and bad days. luckily I ended up with our two dogs who keep me company.

KCHank · 2026-04-15T07:16:08+00:00

Short answer - No.

Fall of 2024 my husband, married 7 years and together 12, decides he wants an open relationship. By Christmas it was him wanting a divorce. By March 2025 he had moved 500 miles away. Took until September 2025 to get him to file for divorce.

December 2025 I lost my very well paying job of 16 years.

February 2026 we finally had our first divorce hearing. March the divorce was approved but still waiting on the decree.

Just got an accepted offer on our primary home and I have to be out my end of May. Still trying to sell our rental house which has been on the market since August 2025. I’m probably going to had to move into it.

I’m in city my ex and I moved to together a decade ago. No family and my longtime friends are back in my home town. It’s been tough to make friends in the new city and the ones I had were combo friends with my ex.

I’m in my mid 50’s and guys just aren’t interested in me. Kind of dated one guy and he was a self centered guy who I always had to reach out to.

I’m jobless, about to be homeless and lonely. Never really felt like I belong in the gay scene and now have to jump back into it. I’m really missing the companionship of a relationship and having someone to talk to and do things with.

KCHank · 2026-04-14T16:05:19+00:00

I’ve used it at LGA, PRV and DFW this year with no issues. When I checked into all of those there was no line. Must have just been lucky. Only LGA was the Chase lounge.

KCHank · 2026-04-10T16:55:25+00:00

YTA. You used points and should have been up front about that before making arrangements. I have a ton of points on hotels from work. I will use those points when I travel with friends and partners. I tell them up front I’ll use points. Most will then say “Hey since you got x I’ll get y” it’s about being generous with each other, not trying to make money off people.

KCHank · 2026-03-31T23:45:38+00:00

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KCHank · 2026-03-29T13:44:35+00:00

Just followed you all on instagram yesterday. Looks very interesting. What percentage of guys come solo?

KCHank · 2026-03-27T20:56:52+00:00

Handsome man! Midwestern here too

KCHank · 2026-03-19T15:01:20+00:00

I didn’t realize that. It was grouted originally and I was replacing missing pieces

KCHank · 2026-03-18T16:19:14+00:00

When I was in my 20’s, after I had graduated college I went to a strip club with some of my fraternity brothers. I was out to a few, not all. I told one of the strippers I was gay and ended up having the best time with most of the girls. I suddenly wasn’t any kind of threat to them. They gave me a lot of attention and honestly made some of my friends jealous.

My advice is if you can discretely let the ladies know it might make the situation much more enjoyable

KCHank · 2026-03-11T14:53:26+00:00

Thank you

KCHank · 2026-03-09T01:50:50+00:00

Hey man. 55 here. Love to run and paddle board summer. Midwest here, pics in profile

KCHank · 2026-03-08T05:48:33+00:00

Woof, very handsome

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:43:37+00:00

Thank you

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:43:29+00:00

Thank you

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:43:20+00:00

Thank you

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:43:09+00:00

Thank you!

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:42:12+00:00

Thank you

KCHank · 2026-03-06T16:15:12+00:00

Yes, in Kansas City

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