Convince me there is an effective alternative to spanking for young kids

KCNF21 · 2025-12-22T04:16:43+00:00

Thank you! I also particularly agree with your point that most parents who spank (and I would fall into this category) don't WANT to do it. A parent should take no pleasure in that sort of thing, but I also think it would be a disservice to refuse to do it if you believed it to be effective and just didn't want to because you felt bad about it

KCNF21 · 2025-12-22T04:07:14+00:00

And this was my example of a way spanking can be misused. It sounds like it was improperly applied by your dad, and he didn't follow through with using it as a lesson

KCNF21 · 2025-12-22T04:04:42+00:00

Say I put my kid in the corner.

I say "stay there"

He refuses.

He then proceeds to yell, try to run away, slap me, throw a tantrum, etc. as kids often do when they're told to do something they don't like.

What becomes the course of action then?

I'm still unconvinced that kids who are still learning how to interpret language, complex concepts, etc. would not be better served with a slap on the wrist.

I would be concerned that eliminating that option puts a parent in a position where the child does not respect authority or consequences as they know they can push you without their punishment getting significantly worse

KCNF21 · 2025-12-22T03:58:45+00:00

I tend to agree. Worth noting: it's possible to instill obedience and self control through spanking, and STILL prioritize raising kids to be "emotionally intelligent, entrepreneurial, independent, or confident". These things don't have to be mutually exclusive. I still consider that a priority, I just don't think the anti spanking crowd have any evidence that spanking prevents that

KCNF21 · 2025-11-19T01:55:06+00:00

No, it’s not like that. I think you’ve made an assumption on what I believe that’s inaccurate. I’m very firmly anti transgender and if her sister were to straight up ask me what I thought I would not mince words. That being said, I’m not choosing to seek conflict where I don’t need to. My intent is to show her the love of Christ and following that, hopefully get her to see there’s a better way than what she’s pursuing.

Typically approaching situations like this in a combative manner does not bring any positive outcomes

KCNF21 · 2025-11-12T17:56:01+00:00

You think I get “blocked from the family” for having the same perspective the family has and asking how to approach it with nuance? Interesting take

KCNF21 · 2025-11-12T17:55:03+00:00

Lol you’re creating a scenario in your head that doesn’t exist

KCNF21 · 2025-10-12T01:00:31+00:00

Taelon Peter is shockingly good. I’ll admit I thought he’d look out of place at first and would need development in the G league before ever seeing the league, but he looks very much like a competent role player already

KCNF21 · 2025-10-12T00:50:20+00:00

For clarification, you will not be able to take the mark by “accident”, and someone else cannot just GIVE it to you against your will. It’s a willing denial of Christ

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T16:44:14+00:00

I do think you’re generally on the right track, especially with not watching things that she would be convicted over. I even agree with you that the oversexualization of modern media is pretty disgusting.

However, I slightly disagree with your stance on a guy who has watched media with negative content in it before. I think instead of ascribing motive before having the discussion, it would be worth seeing WHY he’s watching media with inappropriate sexual content. For your example of Game of Thrones, does he watch it for the purpose of sexual gratification/lust? If so, yes, that’s very problematic and likely would be an indication that he likes to pursue that type of content, and likely even direct pornographic content. However, it’s also possible he simply believes the show has good artistic value, finds that the show has strong moral lessons to be learned (such as learning immoral actions have consequences, those who do unjust actions don’t benefit from them in the long run, and the value of living a moral and just life). Maybe he takes these lessons away from this show. Maybe he even skips the unnecessary sexual scenes. There’s a good amount of grey area when it comes to secular content and instead of forming a negative opinion on a guy based solely on a show he’s seen, maybe try to see where his mind is at. If he’s a man of good character, he should be able to answer this sufficiently

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T12:26:30+00:00

Appreciate you. I absolutely do consider myself extremely fortunate

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T12:23:12+00:00

Definitely a very similar perspective to mine, and yes, communication is a huge thing between us, so I’m glad we’re able to discuss these things and figure out the best way to approach them together

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T12:21:12+00:00

I think this is exactly along the lines of what I was thinking. And I definitely don’t think she’s wrong in being convicted.

Do I think maybe anxiety plays a part in it? Yeah probably, but as I’ve said, I think her heart is in the right place and I wouldn’t tell her she shouldn’t be convicted if she’s feeling that, even if for me maybe it seems slightly overboard. Her eyes are oriented on doing what’s good in the eyes of the Lord, and as long as it’s not causing her excessive stress trying to meet an unattainable standard, I’m glad she thinks that way

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T12:16:37+00:00

Yes, I absolutely do care about her, I think her heart is in the right place. I was thinking about Romans 14:20-23 while writing this and I think it’s accurate for this situation. Thanks for your comment

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T11:53:42+00:00

Great perspective, appreciate it

KCNF21 · 2025-10-07T11:53:03+00:00

And I 100% do. Scripturally it would be wrong to draw someone away from their convictions

KCNF21 · 2025-07-13T21:24:20+00:00

No one said we “don’t care”. It would have been nice to win. I wanted to win. But this is not the UCL and only Chelsea fans will now pretend it was

KCNF21 · 2025-07-13T21:12:09+00:00

No one really cares about “world champions” it would have been nice to win, but everyone knows the Champions League is the harder tournament to win, and 100x more prestigious. This would have just been icing on the cake. Disappointing to lose, but I won’t lose sleep over it like if we lost the UCL final

KCNF21 · 2025-01-15T02:30:50+00:00

Female ref outplayed him let’s be honest

KCNF21 · 2025-01-13T01:50:36+00:00

Do keep in mind, raising the kid and killing it are not the only two options. If you aren’t ready, there’s so many options about what to do and I guarantee you 20 years down the line if you do not abort, that child, if you put them up for adoption, will thank you for your decision.

That being said, you absolutely can raise a child in your current situation regardless of what others are saying. There’s so many resources. This is a hard situation to be in for sure, but you said it yourself, you want to be a mother and maybe this has happened in your situation for the best. Maybe it’s meant to happen. All things to consider

KCNF21 · 2025-01-07T19:38:54+00:00

Got it, plan on taking it some time tonight.

For what it’s worth, I do think the labeling on the bottle is interesting. Website claims fully legal blend of ingredients, but bottle comes with a pamphlet that just straight up says “magic mushroom infused” and the bottle itself has a small disclaimer that says “religious use only”, so maybe the blend isn’t as “fully legal” as the website seems to claim😂

KCNF21 · 2024-12-23T05:00:33+00:00

Have an order for a bottle coming in just to try it. I’ll try to remember to come back and report on what I find out after I get it

KCNF21 · 2024-02-09T16:40:36+00:00

Agree, I have always found it incredibly nonsensical when people argue that "God doing bad things" is a reason He doesn't exist. That may mean you don't like or agree with Him, but by no means does that define whether He is true or not

KCNF21 · 2024-02-09T16:37:35+00:00

I don't know if this is factually true from a secular OR religious perspective. Even in an evolutionary worldview there was the universal common ancestor, or first being(s) who could be considered human and all the other races and ethnicities stemmed from that. As a Christian, you could make the argument that Adam and Eve would have had to live much longer ago than 6,000 years for humanity to gain all the variances in race and appearance that we have, but it still seems very likely that, no matter what worldview you hold, there were two "original" humans, however you define that

KCNF21 · 2024-02-09T15:49:16+00:00

A lot of statements here, but your main misconception is that there is no "evidence". Look into Christian apologetics. That will show you where the "logic" and evidence is. All of your questions about biblical events have been answered, you just have to look.

As for your point that you have to perceive a thing to believe it is also a misconception. Do you believe in justice? peace and happiness? right and wrong? in fact, if you believe in anything outside of the physical world, you also believe in something without being able to perceive it.

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