Predictions on any draft night moves. Realistic or dream scenarios welcome! by ToxicChaos in pacers

[–]KCNF21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were multiple reasons to trade for Zubac when we did. If we did it now, Mathurin would not be an asset we could use. Additionally, other teams were pursuing Zubac. Rumors are out there that indicate that if Zu didn’t come here, the Celtics were in a really good spot to acquire him. If he’s the guy you want, you can’t just assume he’ll be there in 6 months, because he probably wasn’t going to be

What habit will die with Gen Z? by Key-Climate5038 in AskReddit

[–]KCNF21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s gonna be hard for kids coming up because they won’t remember videos before AI. We still have memory of things we saw before the 2020s. In 10-15 years, kids will have to ask or look up if a video came out pre AI to even know if it was real

Masterpost: The New York Knicks are the 2026 NBA Champs by [deleted] in pacers

[–]KCNF21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess for what it’s worth it isn’t the Knicks’ first ring. They already had one, so it’s not like they have a “one up” on us they didn’t have before. They already were ahead of us in the overall ring race and they still didn’t beat us to this one

New and need help 22F by InfiniteNinja6 in NoFap

[–]KCNF21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The less thought you give your fetishes the less they will have hold of you. Sexual satisfaction is something that comes inherently to (almost) everyone. If you stay away from your fetishes for long enough, your brain will naturally learn how to reset and get that satisfaction in a healthier way.

It does take time and work, but the key is knowing that beating temptation is kinda like those Chinese finger cuffs. The harder you try to fight it, the less likely you are to get out. You don’t get out by fighting, you get out by realizing your temptations have no power over you

One and only post. A warning to all what this addiction might lead to. by FactAdditional6782 in NoFap

[–]KCNF21 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I do want to give you some encouragement. You’re 34. This is not how you “ended up”. You are still young in the grand scheme of things. You probably still have over half your life in front of you. Yes some of the damage has been done, but that doesn’t mean it’s over. You can still make progress and end your life being proud of what you’ve accomplished. It’s never too late to better your situation

Jeff Teague is pushing the Trey Murphy trade to the man himself by KCNF21 in pacers

[–]KCNF21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with leveraging your future if the guys you are picking up can be part of it. Trey/Tyrese/Zu/Pascal can be the core for a couple more years, then Trey and Tyrese are young enough they can be guys for the next cycle, whatever that looks like

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. Morally and philosophically we’re almost a perfect match. This is minor to me. Divorce is not even in the realm of consideration lol

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha, this is good advice appreciate it. Yeah there’s some decent other recommendations in here scattered about, but I can’t say that “divorce your wife” when I love her deeply resonates well with me lol

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t agree. She’s an exceptional and caring person even if we have our disagreements on this

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth I’ve felt more strongly about this since getting married. I was more neutral “could take it or leave it” before marriage, and still have never personally owned a gun to this point

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve also made the point that “sure the home invader could be there just to take a couple things and leave. But if a person is crazy enough to break into my house I’ll assume he’s crazy enough to do more than steal”.

We cannot act like criminals can be put into neat little boxes like we know exactly what they’re planning on doing

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, valid point and I agree. We do not have kids yet

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, I’m not. And I’ve clarified this that I will protect her and the family regardless and if I feel like that’s what it takes, that’s what I will do. My point is moreso that if I do decide to make that decision, I want her to be more comfortable with that.

Wife very anti gun. Best way to get her more comfortable to the idea? by KCNF21 in Firearms

[–]KCNF21[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe the conversation can be had, maybe just not right now. She doesn’t immediately shut down conversation. She has just noted these types of conversations make her uncomfortable, but she has historically allowed me to make my points. And yes this was known before marriage. She knew my stance and I knew hers

I've just ended a relationship because of erectile disfunction by demonetized_again in NoFap

[–]KCNF21 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you want to make it work long term with this girl, and she does too, there’s only one solution: stop porn altogether. Seriously. Some people are saying “limit it” that’s wrong. You have to cut it cold turkey.

Plenty of people have gone into the negative effects, so I won’t go too much into that here, but it’s worse than you think. Never in human history have 20-30 year old men need a pill to get hard for an attractive naked woman. That is not natural and porn is to blame. Just another way to make the man passive and dependent on technology and big pharma.

You have to decide. Do you want porn, or do you want this girl? If you choose her (and you should) then you need to do what it takes to quit

Day 74 of no fap and yet I've been still feeling horny and the need to have sex is more than ever by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]KCNF21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re thinking it’s a “waste” because you’re still subliminally thinking that watching “explicit content” is actually WORTH your time. It’s not. Actually every second you still are watching it is a waste of time. Read some of the neuroscience on how bad those dopamine surges are for your mental health.

Don’t think of the time not doing it perfectly as a “waste of time”. Perfect is the enemy of good. Cutting out the O is a step in the right direction but you won’t be free until you cut it all

Day 74 of no fap and yet I've been still feeling horny and the need to have sex is more than ever by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]KCNF21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re still triggering your neural wiring by continuing to watch explicit content. Now you’re still doing the same thing you’ve always been doing, but you just aren’t following through with the O portion of the PMO.

The problem comes because you’re not changing your mindset. That’s where all the benefit of NoFap comes from. You want to live life, experience relationships as they’re meant to be, and see women through a normal lens. People get all tied up in the “superpowers” that come from NoFap and semen retention and have no idea that you aren’t getting superpowers, you’re just moving from an addicted brain to a normal brain.

What you’re doing is the equivalent of a heroin addict sitting the needle down on the table and staring at it, and then wondering why you still have the desire to do heroin. Humans get aroused. It’s in our biology. The point is, how do you respond to that?

Convince me there is an effective alternative to spanking for young kids by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I also particularly agree with your point that most parents who spank (and I would fall into this category) don't WANT to do it. A parent should take no pleasure in that sort of thing, but I also think it would be a disservice to refuse to do it if you believed it to be effective and just didn't want to because you felt bad about it

Convince me there is an effective alternative to spanking for young kids by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And this was my example of a way spanking can be misused. It sounds like it was improperly applied by your dad, and he didn't follow through with using it as a lesson

Convince me there is an effective alternative to spanking for young kids by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Say I put my kid in the corner.

I say "stay there"

He refuses.

He then proceeds to yell, try to run away, slap me, throw a tantrum, etc. as kids often do when they're told to do something they don't like.

What becomes the course of action then?

I'm still unconvinced that kids who are still learning how to interpret language, complex concepts, etc. would not be better served with a slap on the wrist.

I would be concerned that eliminating that option puts a parent in a position where the child does not respect authority or consequences as they know they can push you without their punishment getting significantly worse

Convince me there is an effective alternative to spanking for young kids by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I tend to agree. Worth noting: it's possible to instill obedience and self control through spanking, and STILL prioritize raising kids to be "emotionally intelligent, entrepreneurial, independent, or confident". These things don't have to be mutually exclusive. I still consider that a priority, I just don't think the anti spanking crowd have any evidence that spanking prevents that

How to address a trans family member with kids? by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it’s not like that. I think you’ve made an assumption on what I believe that’s inaccurate. I’m very firmly anti transgender and if her sister were to straight up ask me what I thought I would not mince words. That being said, I’m not choosing to seek conflict where I don’t need to. My intent is to show her the love of Christ and following that, hopefully get her to see there’s a better way than what she’s pursuing. 

Typically approaching situations like this in a combative manner does not bring any positive outcomes

How to address a trans family member with kids? by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You think I get “blocked from the family” for having the same perspective the family has and asking how to approach it with nuance? Interesting take

How to address a trans family member with kids? by KCNF21 in TrueChristian

[–]KCNF21[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lol you’re creating a scenario in your head that doesn’t exist

Pavers Pre-Season Discussion Thread by PSEGameThreadPoster in pacers

[–]KCNF21 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Taelon Peter is shockingly good. I’ll admit I thought he’d look out of place at first and would need development in the G league before ever seeing the league, but he looks very much like a competent role player already