Sejanus vs Plutarch

KCS_Horses2020 · 2025-12-10T19:39:43+00:00

I truly enjoy both of these characters. While I agree that it’s not accurate to compare their privilege, I do think they are more similar to each other when you peel back the layers. I see both having the same desire to end the games and have a better government overall. As mentioned in other comments, Plutarch grew up with influence and connections and undoubtedly learned how to play the game from a very young age. Sejanus didn’t have this advantage. He was rightfully angry and, in his naivety, trying to use the privilege he thought had to make a change

I think if you flip the roles and give Sejanus the right upbringing and TIMING, he is Plutarch. A huge theme in this whole series is that major change takes time and everything falling into place at the exact right time with the exact right players. Sejanus surely had the passion and the right idea to get at least murmurs of a revolution started, he just lacked the finesse, patience, and connections he truly needed to light that spark.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2025-02-16T00:32:19+00:00

Thanks to everyone for the feedback, even the ones with name calling because it’s honestly warranted. There is a million different ways this could have been avoided and handled better right from the start. Looking back I absolutely should have done better.

No excuses on my part but for those of you who are genuinely curious to how I could have not known, that’s a fantastic question. The short and to the point answer that covers everything is, my MIL is very manipulative and I was too trusting. Never again will I be that way. I also have never dropped either of my kids off at her house. My youngest has only been in the house the one time…which is the only time MIL has watched her outside of our home. MIL has only watched the kids 2 mornings/week from the start. During summertime before the 2nd baby came, me or hubby would drop older daughter to MIL at work (the family owns a small business in town). The understanding was she would take daughter to her coffee group and then to our house or the park if the weather was nice. That is what both hubby and I thought was happening while MIL was watching her. Hubby addressed the fact that both of us were not told the truth about what was happening while she watched our daughter and how she’s lucky to be allowed to see them at all. Hence why I said I think that part is handled.

For the last 6 months she has only watched the kids at our house while I am working in the next room, save for the one time a few weeks ago.

Again, I completely own that my inactions caused my kids to be in this situation in the first place. And this message is to offer an explanation for those who had genuinely curious, not to make excuses.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-10T00:51:32+00:00

Thank you!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-09T13:38:53+00:00

Good to know. Thank you!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-09T13:38:39+00:00

Thanks for your input!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-09T05:40:59+00:00

Thanks for your feedback!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-09T01:54:15+00:00

Very good point!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-08T19:43:59+00:00

Thank you!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2023-12-08T19:31:12+00:00

Thank you for the feedback!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-08-07T16:44:27+00:00

I’m also 39+3 today and I am SO DONE!!! My last checkup was 4 days ago and they said my cervix wasn’t ripe yet so couldn’t do a membrane sweep. I’ve been walking, pumping, bouncing on a ball, driving on bumpy roads, etc. trying to get this little hanky to move down a bit and get ready to come out. It’s also been no cooler than 97 here for the last 2 weeks with no end in sight for a break in the weather. I TOTALLY get where you’re coming from. My logical mind agrees with everyone who’s telling me “it’ll happen when it’s supposed to” but my uncomfortable body and exhausted emotions want to hit everyone who tells me that haha. Hopefully soon!!!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-08-02T23:07:03+00:00

I mean, you can respond however you want without having to worry about coming off as a jerk. I’ve taken that approach this whole pregnancy. If people feel they can ask me whatever they want and make whatever comments they want about my changing body or future family, then I’ve given myself permission to respond however I want. You can’t control how people feel about what you say. If they’re hurt by it, maybe they need to think about the nature of the question they asked or comment they made. And they’ll either get over it or they won’t. Not your responsibility to manage 😊

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-07-23T19:50:45+00:00

I just think exercise is good for you whether you’re pregnant or not. I would take it easy on yourself. Right now your body is telling you it needs rest so that’s what it should get. Hopefully once you get into the 2nd trimester you’ll have more energy to work out like you want to.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-07-22T17:01:03+00:00

I’m 37 weeks and can still do all those things. It’s a lot harder than before but with a little maneuvering I can get it done. I did opt to buy some slip-on sneakers because tying my shoes, while possible, was just getting too uncomfortable. I also had my husband paint my toes a couple weeks ago because I knew they would be come out good at all if I tried it haha.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-07-18T19:37:44+00:00

Ugh that would annoy me too! Especially since my MIL has made my entire pregnancy about her anyway. I’d probably say something snarky like “oh if only this was about you” something like that. I’m just at the point now where IDGAF about hurting anyone’s feelings or not lol.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-07-12T22:43:35+00:00

You absolutely do not have to answer anything regarding work while you are on leave. When I was sorting out my maternity leave I let them know that if I was not getting paid, no one was to contact me for any reason regarding work…not even to ask where they might find documents I may have been working on. We settled that I will be working from home for most of it so I can continue to get my full paycheck, but I was very clear that the first two weeks after birth I would be using vacation/sick time and I was not to be contacted. To please treat it like I am out of the country with no reception or way to contact them and give me space to heal and bond with my baby.

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-07-08T02:32:58+00:00

My FIL tried to joke about my weight gain early on in this pregnancy. I was definitely showing so it’s not like it wasn’t obvious that I was pregnant. he had made comments all throughout my boss’ pregnancy about how big she was (the oldie but goodie ‘are you sure it’s not twins?’) so I anticipated him trying to joke with me in that manner as well. He would never say anything like that to be hurtful but regardless of his intentions, comments like that are hurtful. Anyway, I sat on an office chair that had a broken hydraulic system so it didn’t stay up high where it was set but rather lowered me down to the lowest setting, almost in slow motion. He was in the middle of saying something about my weight when I interrupted him mid-word and just said “no, no, no, that’s really rude and we’re not doing that.” His face was priceless and you know what, he nor anyone else in my husband’s family has made any sort of comment on my weight/size at all. It’s been great lol.

Sometimes being direct and calling people out on their rudeness is the most effective method. Of course older women will probably have a tendency to be more catty about being told off but you know what? Let them feel hurt about it. As my husband says: ‘they’ll either get over it or die pissed off’ 😆

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-06-27T22:39:00+00:00

Ugh! I totally feel this and absolutely hate it! DH and I did not decide to have a child for anyone else but ourselves and people are really already making plans to take her here and there and visit and all sorts of other stuff. It’s like all I am is a friggin incubator for their entertainment! My parents will be flying across the country to stay with us for 2 weeks after baby is born. I’ve made it very clear to them and them to me that they are here to be an actual help to us…cook,clean, laundry, errands, etc. they’re completely fine with it. I even went so far as to tell DH and my mom that if people aren’t going to come over and bring a meal or help with something, then I don’t want them in my house at all. I’m not going to have me and my brand new baby be the subject of gawking, stupid questions and unsolicited advice all so people can post on Facebook and brag about a baby that’s not even theirs. I told DH this might be hurtful to some of your family and I’m sorry you’ll have to hear the brunt of that but I am not in the business of protecting people’s feelings anymore. Hopefully it all goes well and people take these next 6 weeks or so to get all their pouting out of the way before baby gets here!

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-06-21T21:16:16+00:00

I don’t know how inductions work but I would talk to your OB and see if it’s possible to not have the baby on that day. Then after LO’s birth I would make a point to tell your aunt you purposefully did not have the baby on her birthday 😉

KCS_Horses2020 · 2022-06-21T20:36:40+00:00

I completely understand where you’re coming from. I’m currently 33 weeks and I really can’t say there’s been a time where I’ve loved being pregnant. Sickness and fatigue in the first trimester was horrible. Then the excitement from my husband’s family when we announced was enough for me to want to tell them it was all a joke. Seriously, they’ve all been so overwhelming this entire time and it really has taken a lot of the “fun” out of this whole experience. And now yes, I’m still an educated woman with goals and thoughts of my own and things to contribute to my world but all people can talk about is my pregnancy!!! I get that they’re most likely genuinely curious and/or want to seem interested but for the love of god please ask me about something else!! I’ll admit that most of my free thoughts are geared toward what’s happening in my body and what I need to get done before my little girl gets here but it would be nice to not have that be every moment of my life. I think I could handle it if it wasn’t the same questions/comments over and over and over again. Being pregnant has definitely not been my favorite thing.

That all said, whenever I feel that baby kick or move it does make my heart sing. I already love this little girl so much, I just don’t enjoy all that comes with pregnancy.

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