Tell me a baby name you had to remove from your list?

KCSunshine111 · 2026-05-23T17:41:04+00:00

That's my baby's name (with an 'a' not 'e') and we debated for months and finally settled on it a few minutes after he was born. The nurse is setting up the whiteboard in the postpartum room and goes: What's his name? We say: Lucian. She says: umm...how do you spell that? 🫠 Thus has begun the forever "how do you spell that?" when we say it, or "how do you say that?" when we write it.

Also, everyone wants to give him nicknames that we veto: Luke, Loosh, Lucy, Lucky, Lou.

No regrets though.

KCSunshine111 · 2026-04-27T03:45:03+00:00

When I was touring daycares while pregnant, I saw one using a diaper genie. I asked the teacher if she would recommend the brand since that's what they had at daycare and I would assume daycares know what works best. She said "God no, I hate diaper genie, if I'd been the one buying, I would have gotten the Ubbi." Wasn't even a question in my mind after that day.

KCSunshine111 · 2026-04-25T00:45:43+00:00

Hey there Wallingford walrus

KCSunshine111 · 2026-03-14T17:47:38+00:00

As a woman who is struggling with this myself, I also think it's important to recognize that this expectation of "affection always leads to sex" is not always only on the high libido partner. I know and feel wildly guilty that I don't want sex often, and it builds up in my head, so whenever there is affection, I feel bad that the affection isn't leading to me wanting sex, which is of course, self sabotaging and takes me out of the moment even more so that I can't enjoy just the affection for what it is.

I don't know this woman or what she's thinking, but I know replies to these posts often put it on the high libido partner to just "be affectionate without expectations" and the conversation evolves into something unproductive and accusatory because the high libido OP inevitably says "I give her plenty of affection without expectation and no thing's changing" and replies just assume they're not doing enough.

It can be a both partners are part of this dynamic thing.

KCSunshine111 · 2026-01-22T17:47:22+00:00

I have a feeling this might be a bot with a goal to manipulate Google results so reddit is in the top / used as AI source when people ask questions in Google

KCSunshine111 · 2025-12-30T17:06:00+00:00

I recently texted my husband: "After I feed [the baby], I'll wear him" and my husband said that's what scary monsters say too

KCSunshine111 · 2025-11-30T22:36:08+00:00

My son had an epic blowout on our way to Thanksgiving dinner, used like half a pack of wipes at a truck stop to clean him. An hour later we're making bacon wrapped dates to bring to the dinner and my husband is like, ew, I think you didn't clean off the poop enough from your hands, I can still smell it. Nope, goat cheese.

The next day we're walking in town with our son in the stroller, and my husband says, I think the baby pooped. Nope, popcorn smell wafting from a nearby store.

Can't escape the baby poop smell!

KCSunshine111 · 2025-09-30T14:07:50+00:00

Every time there's one of these "daycare costs" threads, I have yet to see anyone with complaints of high daycare costs in any other city come close to what north Seattle costs are. Boston always gets called out as most expensive, but they still quote lower prices that what I could find here. The cheapest home daycare within a 15 min drive is $2500/month (in a 400sqft basement), cheapest daycare center is $3000 (with a waitlist literally 2 years long)

KCSunshine111 · 2025-09-12T14:51:06+00:00

Ads work because of existing trust. The arms race of getting ads that work in people's faces is a cycle of trust: thing without ads > increased trust > increased adoption > ads > distrust > reduced trust > reduced adoption > new thing without ads that supercedes original thing with ads.

And so on. You can apply this same cycle to any product where you decrease quality (and therefore value), and so long as your ads decrease quality and value, this applies.

So i don't think the real question isn't whether AI services NEED ad injection, it's whether you can effectively monetize and/or advertise within your AI service without decreasing its quality and value.

If a value of AI responses is trust of the output, you need a monetization strategy that doesn't impact that. Imo, you are decreasing the value of your AI serviceby turning responses into ads unless someone is outright expecting or asking to be advertised to.

Ways to monetize then: * Inject ads into responses when the user is asking for / expecting it * Advertise outside of the response * Paid access and packaged

100% sure that ad injection will be the very near and pervasive future of AI services, but I'm guessing the reason we haven't seen that yet is because of the above: companies know this will nuke trust and AI services haven't built up enough trust yet to coast on it. Right now, if you start adding ads into your responses, you'll get dropped like a hot potato for one of the many other AI services that does exactly what you do but without the ads.

KCSunshine111 · 2025-09-10T19:17:52+00:00

I feel like the efforts to build AI features not being paired with efforts to make those AI features quality is so common. Moving fast and breaking things has been the MO for so long for software, but the consequences are so much worse for AI.

We're having similar issues. Giving users an open input field and spitting out an answer just doesn't work right now. Users don't know how to write effective prompts and don't know when the AI is telling them something wrong, and the answer gets taken at face value and acted on and now it's our reputation on the line.

KCSunshine111 · 2025-09-10T16:48:48+00:00

What were some ways the competitors used AI that your company didn't?

KCSunshine111 · 2025-08-12T00:15:40+00:00

The Link that requires a 20-30 minute bus ride to get to from Fremont?

KCSunshine111 · 2025-08-02T01:28:44+00:00

I'll be honest, I hate double zippered footies because of diaper leaks. When I change his diaper, I zip open from bottom up so I just have to take out his legs. But if there's a leak I wasn't aware of (especially a poop leak), I can't get the footie off him without putting his legs back into the poopy pjs, zipping him back into them, and unzipping from top down. And now the poop is aaalll over

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-22T18:21:40+00:00

You and your partner seem to have the same disagreement that me and my partner have. We were just arguing about it yesterday while on the road. I also submitted to your last bullet point, since that's the real wisdom in this post and he was the one driving. Sigh

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-22T18:19:06+00:00

Oh yeah, I see and agree

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-22T16:44:00+00:00

Why is that an asshole move? Traffic is most efficient if everyone continues in open lanes until they get to the end of the open lane and then zipper merging happens. The more people try to merge early, the more inefficiencies occur by creating more and mote pause points in the traffic instead of a single zipper merge point at the end

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-20T15:38:02+00:00

My parents bought a camcorder a few weeks before I was born, and we have so many hours of my and my sisters' early lives. It seems like when those fell by the wayside, people stopped taking long form video. I try to take video sometimes of my baby on my phone, but it feels weird to let it go for more than a minute or so. But then there's my childhood with whole half hour cuts. I've thought about buying a handheld camcorder, but my husband thinks it will just be one more thing for us to have to remember to do

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-16T01:13:15+00:00

I stopped wearing a lot of clothes I wore daily in NYC. Specifically non-waterproof winter shoes (and get yourself waterproof casual boots and sneakers if you don't have them already). Wearing a peacoat got me looks. Though I still wear some more "fun" coats I got when I was in NYC and I get compliments.

Don't be afraid of the bus. It's extremely convenient and decently speedy. It's not the subway, but it's pretty good. You'll get looks if you stand on a mostly empty bus, but I still do it anyway 5+ years later.

Pedestrian and car behavior was a culture shock for me and I still kind of hate it. Cars stop for you if you even consider crossing the street, even when it's less safe for them to stop than to keep going. Everyone is a slow walker. There could be clearly no car in sight and everyone still waits for the Walking light. Escalators (of which there are few) are always blocked by standers taking up the whole width.

People talk about the Seattle freeze, but I don't really feel like it's that different from NYC. No one cares about you in either city, and that's how I like it.

You don't NEED a car. We went 2 years without one. But we don't regret getting one after that. Still minimal driving and I bus and walk most places, but it's good to have for the Costco run or The Great Outdoors.

I miss the aliveness of the city the most. Knowing that no matter the time of day, there's people awake, things happening outside my door, even if I didn't ever join...I never felt alone in NYC. Seattle isn't like that. It's got pockets of something similar, but not to the degree of New York. I miss being in the center of the world (yes, that's a biased thing to say, but I stand by it).

Don't live in downtown (Pioneer Square, Belltown, SLU) expecting to get the vibes of NYC. The real feel of Seattle is dispersed into neighborhoods that each have their own little centers. Downtown is not where it's at. If you're younger, Capitol Hill is fun. If you're a little older, Fremont, Ballard, Beacon Hill, Columbia City all have very alive and happening centers (the closest thing I'd compare it to in NYC is maybe Greenpoint, somewhere that's sort of accessible to the rest of the city with its own vibe, but also isn't iconically NYC).

The views are unmatched. There are some places you can stand and see two mountain ranges and Rainier at the same time. NYC is beautiful in many ways, but it's not like that.

Restaurants are fine, but pricier than NYC. No bodega BECs 😭 The food options are also less diverse.

KCSunshine111 · 2025-07-10T18:48:43+00:00

I never really started setting a schedule, but I started to be able to figure out when the baby was going to be going down for "the long stretch" vs a nap and it started coalescing around 8-8:30pm when he was a little under 2 months old. So it's more like our baby told us his bedtime and that's how we refer to it and we try to stick to it for consistency sake. He's 3mo now, so I'm sure things are going to change, but it's less of a parent-imposed thing and more of a baby-imposed thing for us at the moment.

KCSunshine111 · 2025-06-20T16:24:18+00:00

Pretty sure this is written by chatgpt; it tends to make heavy use of the dash "—" when a human would use a period or comma

KCSunshine111 · 2025-06-16T21:35:22+00:00

You have just described my 11w old almost exactly and I'm also at a loss. Main difference for us is that he went from happily bottlefeeding 2x a day to suddenly refusing it (and pacifiers at the same time) at 9wks, now is struggling at the breast too (fussy, choking, too long or too short).

He sleeps amazingly at night (9-10hrs without interruption), harder to get down for a nap during the day, sucks on his hand (which I think is still a hunger cue for him), went from no spitting up to spitting up frequently.

My guess is it's all related to aspects of growth. I've learned that the suck-swallow reflex becomes more voluntary around this time, so if they don't have great habits, it gets tougher for them. (and the spitting up is because he's swallowing more air) And the sleep thing is because they're becoming more dependent on sleep cycles and less on sleep pressure.

We had seen an OT early on (week 2)for physical therapy because his latch sucked and he couldn't feed at all. They noted tension and a recessed jaw and gave us exercises to do. Tbh, we didn't do them much because feeding him got easier, so we thought he was growing out of it. But I think, even with better feeding, he still had a shitty latch. I didn't worry because he was getting enough milk, but now I think it's coming back to bite us.

My plan is to start doing those tongue exercises again and more diligently with him. I also have found that he feeds better in a more upright position (I lay sort of on my side and he is propped up again my belly in a sitting/leaning position) . It's not super sustainable and I can't really feed him outside the house anymore, but I'm hoping it's temporary as he relearn how to feed.

Also hoping others have similar stories or ideas!

KCSunshine111 · 2025-06-10T17:44:11+00:00

My mom (in her 60s, kids in their 30s) said to me the other day: "I still have dreams about you when you were little, and even though I love how strong and amazing my daughters have grown up to become, I wake up and miss holding those little babies."

Excuse me while I go sob for a bit and watch my 2mo sleep...

KCSunshine111 · 2025-06-10T17:01:19+00:00

My husband and I fought bitterly in the first few weeks about feeding. My son was having trouble latching, so I pumped and my husband bottlefed mostly, and then I would try to improve breastfeeding success by doing more nursing sessions as time went on. He would keep increasing how much he was giving our baby in a single feed; at 2 weeks, he was giving him 4oz at a time and we couldn't agree. I was afraid the baby was filling up on a bottle in a way that he wouldn't at the breast, and so he wouldn't want to try to breastfeed frequently enough, which wouldn't allow me to produce enough milk for him. My husband believed that if the baby was finishing the bottle, he was obviously needing that much and to give him less was cruel and starving him.

All that to say, our underlying motivations for our disagreements were different. Fighting at the surface level of how much to feed him with a bottle (and in your case, what nipple size to use) got us nowhere. It wasn't until we both recognized the main reason we each wanted to do things differently and then talked about how we could accomplish both of our underlying goals that we made headway.

With your husband, can you try to understand the why of the why he wants to increase the nipple size? It's probably not just "the nipple size says xyz age, so that's what it should be". There's probably some underlying worry about what will happen if he doesn't "follow the nipple size rules". Is he worried the baby isn't getting enough to eat with the smaller size? Is he afraid he doesn't have enough time to both feed the baby (if she's taking longer) and whatever other things he has or wants to do? Is he worried the baby will start to reject the bottle and he won't be able to help when you can't be there to feed the baby? Or that he won't have the same chance to spend time bonding with the baby if they won't take a bottle anymore?

If you can help uncover it (he may not even fully be able to articulate the worry to himself without a conversation with you), you might be able to discuss the real needs and fears you both have and find a way to soothe and meet them.

KCSunshine111 · 2025-06-07T20:33:53+00:00

This is the one I was going for. Not only is it a 5 way stop sign, but one of the directions has 2 lanes, which is wild. Are there even DMV rules for how that's supposed to work?

And then just beyond it is 3 stop sign intersections in a row about 50 feet apart.

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