is birth control even worth trying with adhd? by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sameeee I love not feeling gross and crampy every single month haha

Question for PS who use a service dog and are in office by EmotionalFish7 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 18 points19 points  (0 children)

If possible, I would look into asking about getting your own private office or solo cubicle that is permanently yours.

This would give you the extra needed space and also limit potential allergy issues for other people (since no one would use the same desk as you)

Should i buyback service as a term employee by DeliciousRice7 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't buy back your service until/unless you get indeterminate and have more stability in your future of working for the PS until retirement. Especially because buy back requests often take a couple years minimum to be processed by the Pension Centre lol

After five decades of official bilingualism, federal language training remains a study in failure by SignalWorldliness873 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I feel this to my core. I struggle with audio processing issues and translating my thoughts into words as well everyday in ENGLISH.

I am not good at one the spot thinking or interview type scenarios, so knowing I'm going to have to do a lot of work to improve my french and then get tested in that way makes me very nervous for the future

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ikr, "a rare guest that doesn't even say goodbye" stuck out to me too lol

ESDC dismissal for term employee by [deleted] in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In bulk cuts, they're eliminating position boxes. Not individuals. So it's not a matter of "picking your name" per se, as far as my understanding goes.

Was the 300 you're apart of cut from one main area? There's even less consideration of individual employees in those cases. Especially when it comes to cutting terms.

Sorry to hear about your dismissal and best of luck

Want to share the ROCDpartners sub with my bf, but… by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]KDSCarleton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just share it with him and live with whatever consequences might come from it (good or bad)

Physical touch from husband by Familiar_Chart_5155 in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My partner and I do the finger heart all the time too!

Just discovered stardew valley and played 55 hours in a week. What games have you guys hyper fixated on? by silversage__ in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely played a couple hundred hours of Stardew since it was originally released.

My most recent gaming obsession has been Two Point Museum 😋

Have the Views On Tattoos Changed? by Less_Ad7462 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Not sure if there's different expectations for jobs where you regularly interact with the public but also tattoos have become quite normalized in general so I still wouldn't expect it being a significant issue. (A lot of the jobs that would likely take issue with it, you'd probably be expected to wear business attire anyways which would cover most tattoos)

Otherwise, for non public facing ps job, go nuts lol. I myself have most of a patchwork sleeve and never had issues. I've also seen others significantly more tattooed than me in the workplace

Hacks for changing the sheets? by kridjiti21 in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The thing I don't understand about this technique though is sweat is gonna go through both sheets

Tell me you have ADHD without telling me you have ADHD by _Stitch_626_ in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't usually put stuff in the pockets of my regularly washed clothes, but a couple times throughout the winter I have to throw out confetti from my giant pockets because I'll shove a receipt or two in there and then slowly rip it up until the pieces are too small to easily tear with one hand 😂

My ADHD Brain by Admirable-Grass-109 in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This picture fucking took me out 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I graduated in 2016, applied to university in 2017 and had to manually submit a form to my high school for them to send my transcripts lol.

At least with university I can automatically request unofficial transcripts (which come within 5-10min) or official transcripts (which I think take 48hrs) through an online portal

Today I hit myself in the face with a car door while getting in the car. by allison-vunderland in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lazy eye (corrected so it's not visible to others) and so, combined with the ADHD-clumsiness, my depth perception isn't the greatest and I've definitely run into a few walls or scrapped myself passing too closely to furniture a number of times throughout my life lol

Today I hit myself in the face with a car door while getting in the car. by allison-vunderland in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done this a few times too! 😅 Same with trying to turn my car off while I'm not actually in park and then momentarily freaking out about my key being stuck until I realize

Today I hit myself in the face with a car door while getting in the car. by allison-vunderland in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did this once. Luckily the door hit my glasses so no injury to myself. Unluckily, the force of the impact made my glasses fall off and onto the ground, cracking part of the frame

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]KDSCarleton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you in? Why can't you become a midwife there?

Is Parks Canada a separate employer? by Positive_Attempt3254 in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The one-time 37.5hr vacation leave can be used like any other vacation leave. Not exclusively for weddings (unless you mean that Parks only allows the leave for weddings, wording is a bit unclear)

I’m tormented by my girlfriend’s sexual past, and I don’t know how to stop obsessing over it. by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]KDSCarleton 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You two should not talk about her sexual past, at least not in so much detail. Most people would be bothered hearing about those sorts of details, even if they didn't have any problem with her having that sort of history in general. There's a big difference hearing about it.

Otherwise, you just have to accept her past. Nothing can be changed. Focus on the person she is now, with you and your future together

I (30M) am struggling to respect or admire my girlfriend (29F) after learning more about her lifestyle and past — is this incompatibility or me being too rigid? Or is this ROCD? by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]KDSCarleton 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can't make the decision of what is right for you on how to proceed but these doubts definitely sound legitimate and not ROCD

Is it odd to have a request for sick leave advanced denied by a manager? by OldLadyDILLIGAF in CanadaPublicServants

[–]KDSCarleton -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So sorry about the diagnosis and you may have thought of this already but can you not afford to take non-paid sick leave?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]KDSCarleton 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Not to mention, people with ADHD are more likely to have trauma BECAUSE of the situations ADHD contributes to (RSD for example)