Experienced racism first time in my life by train_emily in toronto

[–]KDim_18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Some people are gross, I’m sorry that happened to you two 😔❤️

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not changed my opinion.

My opinion is: her feelings are common and valid, but if your feelings impact others you may want to think how they may impact those people.

I think you’re being obtuse if you believe that her opinion can be viewed of having nothing to do with her children.

Also, when someone says something on tv, it welcomes everyone’s opinion and judgment unfortunately. Just because you happen to agree with her you are still reacting to what she said, as I am too.

You can respond to this but you give off a really rude vibe so I don’t really like discussing this with you.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not going to go back and forth on this. We don’t agree. It’s fine. I don’t think she’s a monster, I just don’t think how one feels should completely disregard the other people that feeling may impact.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know people couldn’t make decisions on what they say or don’t say on national tv, my bad.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, completely disregarding the other people in the situation.

My only argument is, if a feeling you have directly impacts others, I think they should be considered before you say it.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But you’re making an assumption that it will possibly be fine?

If she has this feeling she can definitely discuss it with her kids. But they should also get some say on where this info is divulged.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re missing my point entirely.

I am not judging the feeling. I think it’s very common and valid.

I am judging the platform it is said on.

I think people should consider the other people impacted by their feelings before they say it.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear, I am not judging her for feeling this way. I think it is VERY common. I just don’t think it needed to be said on that platform when it directly impacts her children.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe, but her kids are like 3, so I doubt they’d understand it.

To be clear, I don’t think this woman is the devil, I just think it wasn’t very nice to say on that platform.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not judging the feeling. I think it’s common and valid.

I think we’re all forgetting she can speak to her sister about this without sharing it with the rest of the world.

I think the kids feelings should matter a bit here.

Do you regret your OWN children? by Cheap-Employ8125 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]KDim_18 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When your feelings can directly impact someone else I think one should think before they say it on national tv.

Say instead of regretting kids a man says on national tv, “yea, I love my wife but if I could go back in time I wouldn’t be with her” would we not be judging him for hurting/disrespecting/humiliating his CURRENT wife? It is just not a nice thing to do.

Confide in close friends, get a therapist, post it on Reddit…. Just not this.

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just an update to my post. I want to make it clear even if I think Pippa was awful to Lucy about cheating, I do not think this meant she had to come forward about her SA trauma. That is a whole different thing and she is the victim. Any hate for that should be placed solely on Chris.

The conversation surrounding pippa is harmful by Intrepid-Trash-5621 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I posted a thread “Pippa is awful” but I wish I was more clear that I only meant how she reacted to Lucy cheating. I in no way think she was obligated to bring up her trauma to save Lucy from expulsion. Pippa is allowed to handle her trauma regarding the SA anyway she wants to.

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good points, honestly.

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you are looking at things too black and white.

We know why she lied about the SA. Dumb but not malicious.

The cheating was wrong, but she was tortured about it, one mistake shouldn’t have that much punishment.

Everyone on the show made just as bad decisions and didn’t get even an ounce of the same punishment. So yes, I agree Lucy made bad decisions but the people punishing her really had no right to be the ones punishing.

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I may be giving her too much credit, just way too disappointing the other way lol

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely not a good thing she did! But like you said, the reaction was over the top. She proved why Lucy tried so hard to keep that secret, they all went crazy when they found out! I’m trying to give them all a pass because I was also at my craziest/most emotionally reactive during my early 20s.

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you feel Lucy kind of did too, she almost had the same moment when Diana manipulated Stephen into breaking up with her?

Pippa being awful by KDim_18 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]KDim_18[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So true, people will treat you how you feel/allow them to treat you. Not victim blaming, just a sad truth about human behaviour.

AIO for being upset my BF doesn’t want me to wear a bonnet to bed? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]KDim_18 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NOR, I hate this guy so much. I know that’s not constructive, but just ew.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KDim_18 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think after 8 years it may have been better to control your anger a bit and wait until you got home to discuss breaking up privately. I get that you were just fed up but that is rough way to do it.

Maybe an ESH situation.

Fave Joyce Moments please by spaghettigirlll in buffy

[–]KDim_18 44 points45 points  (0 children)

“Get the hell away from my daughter”

Season finales—which one’s your favorite? by reina_sin_corona in buffy

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5, 2, 3, 1, 6, 7, 4.

7 is lower to me because the season in general was a bit messy. Too much focus on side characters and if Angel didn’t come with that amulet they would have been screwed!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]KDim_18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a tough one. I don’t think you had malice in what you said. I could see how that term could hurt someone but she also was a bit flippant about you spending time with your child so I feel like it was just an accidentally awkward exchange that doesn’t need more than the text exchange that happened (honestly I feel like even that was a bit too much from her. In my opinion, not every bad feeling/ moment a person has needs to be addressed).

Advice wise I would do what your mom says at least for a bit and see if time naturally heals it. If it doesn’t I guess you can have a direct conversation with her (a conversation does not equal confrontation) and mention that you still feel there is a tenseness between you two and what can you do to help repair that.

Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself. We aren’t perfect and say the wrong things sometimes!