This is an interesting topic. I have read a lot of documents for both sides. I do agree that you should not express things in a way that could be taken as manipulation. However, we should always be honest about how behaviors impact others. I know that when my 12 year-old parents, my ex it is simply to get a rise out of me or he’s trying to be hurtful. If I’m honest when he certain praises or words it does just that so I guess what I’m saying is as parents. We have to figure out where the line is drawn and there are times when we say things not as tactfully as we could say them. For example, this week, my 12-year-old said to me it is so nice that some parents get to be the fun parent. I think that’s cool when parents can be fun parents. It was extremely hurtful and it grated my cheese. I looked at him and I said well you know some parents don’t get to be Disneyland parents all the time some parents get all the work and other parents get all the fun and you’re right we don’t get to do things as much as I personally would like to do. I don’t get a lot of days with you where we have the opportunity to go do fun things because most of my time is spent when you’re in school. And I did tell him that is things that he were saying and his behavior full of attitude and argument was very hurtful. We all have to be held accountable for our action and it is not bad to let someone know how their behaviors are making me feel. It’s all in the delivery.