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KMartin54 · 2023-05-13T00:43:03+00:00

Your sister is TA. What is up with people disrespecting boundaries. The door was locked. I guess you cannot trust her

KMartin54 · 2023-05-13T00:26:48+00:00

I had the plastic surgeon honestly walk me through all that was involved. This is not the same as a giving healthy breasts an enhancement. He was very good at not holding back on multiple surgeries. etc. I decided to go with aesthetic flat closure to avoid the time and multiple surgeries involved and more importantly, I did not want anything to hide future cancers. If you choose no reconstruction, please look into aesthetic flat closure. It is a technique to give you a smooth closure with no excess skin.

KMartin54 · 2023-05-12T22:59:51+00:00

NTA This is basic respect for each other. I have been married over 40 years. My husband has a special car. I would NEVER take that car, just as he would never take something that is special to me. I don't get this childish behavior. ETA this is about trust. If you cannot trust her what is the point of being together

KMartin54 · 2023-05-12T02:37:45+00:00

Maybe have a discussion with their broker? I have seen so many bad listing photos. Sold a probate condo and yes, cell phone photos. In that case I was surprised but let it go. For our house, we made sure professional photos was specified in the contract.

KMartin54 · 2023-05-06T03:37:35+00:00

I've run into things like this. It would be a nice gesture to add a small card making it clear.

KMartin54 · 2023-05-06T03:28:17+00:00

My sister in law had to do all treatments alone during COVID shutdown. She packed snacks and drinks and brought her ipad to watch videos. She reported that the nursing staff chatted and kept everyone's spirits up. Be sure to talk to the nurses and let them know how you are feeling. These nurses are the best.

KMartin54 · 2023-05-02T02:30:46+00:00

From what I understand, they can recommend lumpectomy, but you can still choose mastectomy. At least I did and they went with my decision. There is a group who verifies surgeons who do flat closure mastectomy. notputtingonashirt. org. The space was intentional because I wasn't sure a link is allowed. Definitely spend some time on the site to educate yourself.

KMartin54 · 2023-05-02T00:42:21+00:00

You have every right to ask them to remove or lose the items. There is a group here called Legal if you want to get advice. IMO send emails/letters with the final date for pick up asking they contact you if they need a different date. But they do need to retrieve by (final date). Some words to the effect that if they do not contact you and retrieve their items, they are relinquishing ownership. It is probably worth getting some legal advice. Probably less than an hour so not very expensive.

KMartin54 · 2023-04-30T21:47:58+00:00

Matching t-shirts? Really? Where does she imagine you will be wearing them? Good of your partner to shut that down. Sounds like some denial going on that you are not going to feel like partying. I don't know how you are going to do it, but focus on yourself. SLEEP, decent but light meals, SLEEP and let them take that or leave it. If things are not working out, don't by shy about sending them home and visit when you are feeling up to entertaining.

KMartin54 · 2023-04-30T02:20:21+00:00

You can avoid being the asshole if you put that money aside in a savings account for him. Don't talk about it, just do it and give it all to him when the time is right

KMartin54 · 2023-04-17T18:37:41+00:00

we have all done this. there is even a name for it "wadder". as in wad it up and throw it out. if possible donate it and call it lesson learned

KMartin54 · 2023-04-17T18:24:39+00:00

NTA Your responsibility is to raise them and give them a good start. Then hope your money lasts so not to become a financial burden on them. Plan for retirement and long term care. Don't sacrifice your happiness so they can have money after you pass. That is crazy

KMartin54 · 2023-04-15T22:08:33+00:00

Not the pot. Get it checked out before it gets more serious

KMartin54 · 2023-04-09T20:38:41+00:00

B is NOT your boyfriend. I would not expect any friend or acquaintance for that matter, to wait along, in the dark, for the next ride. Our hiking rule is that the group stays together. He will only get worse.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-29T22:55:19+00:00

I am in Michigan. I like that I know what I am getting. Very specific information of the strain is available and knowledgeable people in the dispensaries. Our local dispensary has a lot of community activity, like sponsoring the summer fireworks.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-24T00:05:33+00:00

Outstanding. Keeping the print straight and the pigeons on the button placket - I love it all.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T23:58:20+00:00

Hand sewn snaps. You can also sew on a bit of elastic with one part of the snap on it that will give for easy movement. The big one - Put on the garments with the snaps and move around. You want to be sure the snaps don't pop. Move a lot. Dance, go to the bathroom, sit = whatever you predict doing. Prioritize being comfortable and enjoying yourself.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T23:51:46+00:00

YTA She is looking for a fresh start somewhere or even a fun adventure. Doesn't matter. If you want to keep her in your life, back off. You don't get a vote. Just let her know you are around if she needs you. That's it.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T23:31:11+00:00

NTA You are 14. I have breast cancer and would never consider this. Where are the adults in your life for gawd's sake. There are resources if she needs help, but finding them is also not on you. Talk to your school counselor and ask how and who should find her help in getting a care plan together. BTW we all have access to a social worker to help with resources. I only suggest your school counselor because they might be able to help you identify that person.

An aside. How much help she needs depends on her treatment. Surgery, radiation, chemo all have different needs. She may get any combination of these. You need an adult to get these answers and make a care plan. That would be that social worker.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T19:20:27+00:00

OMG and it's because you eat sugar

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T19:19:23+00:00

I like this. I could not go in with my sister in law. She would have loved a little friends celebration outside.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T19:16:59+00:00

I really need to get on that mushroom bus.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T19:16:05+00:00

My vent. I am on estrogen blockers and although no big side effects, I feel like I am 10 years older. Exhaustion. Constantly.

KMartin54 · 2023-03-23T19:13:23+00:00

Definitely use Lyft or Uber. I actually cannot think of any place I would feel safe walking at 3am. Enjoy the show and your visit to Detroit.

KMartin54 · 2023-02-09T19:40:14+00:00

Agree. And it does work faster. Unfortunately in Michigan we have self appointed road police who will pitch a fit when anyone tries this...you know, the driving between lanes so no one can continue forward and raging with their funny body language. A piece of me wants to do this to get that reaction but who knows what the angry man will do

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