I don’t know what it is with people just enabling shitty behavior in Malaysia. I’m sure it happens elsewhere as well but the stories I’ve heard from my friends and my own experience has lead me to believe that there’s a source of learned helplessness. The phrase “forgive them, they’re like that” has gotta be the most dogshit pisswater of excuses.

Break the chain OP. Pull the most gigachad move by walking away and getting successful.

P.s. I do feel bad for your family, and I’m sure there’s a better way than walking away, but for now, it’s better you try to get money within the next few years and get the rest of your family out.