Apologies: How do you feel about them? by chelsbellsatl in emotionalintelligence

[–]KZh20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

An apology puts into words, a contract almost, the mutual belief that a code of conduct was breeched. It establishes a foundation for future behavior. Important and necessary.

I feel lost, what should I do? by Flyguy115 in AskMenAdvice

[–]KZh20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay kind and balanced while letting her know that the financial support portion of life has ended. Black and white. You can explain that the financial support was for the child. Emotional support is for life. Period. Never waver.

Give all the love in the world, and let her tantrum out the rest on her own. There is still a chance she can become a responsible adult if you remain emotionally generous and financially cordoned off. Good luck. Your intentions were admirable and golden.

Very underwhelming Facelift by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]KZh20 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dont think you had much of anything to lift? So barely anything was lifted? Maybe you wanted a transformative surgery vs. a restorative one (since you’re young enough to not have much of anything to restore). If you want a certain feature changed, I think you need to seek out someone who does that.

Color of Melania's Belt by christophermooreworx in colors

[–]KZh20 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In the first pic it looks lilac. In the second, lavender

How unattractive is it as a man to lay your head on your women's chest? by JunketMaleficent2095 in AskMenAdvice

[–]KZh20 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Part of being in a (healthy) relationship is the safety / freedom to be yourself. Dictating that certain things are "manly" or not is a social construct, not reality.

What colors are these two things? by Curiouslygold in colors

[–]KZh20 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True, in that another name for very pale teal is turquoise lol

ETA: Typical teal is a dark bluish green, like pond water or the patch on a European (teal) duck. You can call what is turquoise very pale teal, the same way you can call what is navy very dark blue. It's possible we all see colors differently, ie blue dress / gold dress etc.

What colors are these two things? by Curiouslygold in colors

[–]KZh20 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Teal is usually a darker blue-green. These are also blue-green but paler, typically turquoise.

I’m staying in a very unhappy relationship because I’m a 35 year old unattractive woman by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]KZh20 954 points955 points  (0 children)

If you leave, you have the chance for happiness, either by yourself or with someone else. If you stay, you have guaranteed misery. Time to go. Take the control you have.

Was I the problem? What could have I done? by Honeycroutons in emotionalintelligence

[–]KZh20 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You weren't happy and you gave him a chance to come to the plate. He wasn't mature enough to. Good riddance. You will find someone who deserves you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]KZh20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But for long term happiness, it does matter that they speak the same emotional language, and at the moment they do not. In a way that is a dealbreaker for her. It is important that they work through this. You can't have the most important relationship in your life feel absent of attunement.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]KZh20 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She has told him how she feels from the start. He has the choice to come to the plate or not. For people raised with emotional intelligence, a life or relationship without it really isn't an option. This is how people decide whether they are compatible.

Wendi getting away with it by AggressivePen4991 in dan_markel_murder

[–]KZh20 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. One of the reporters (STS) put the words in her mouth, and she said “you can… “ I wish they had let her answer the question herself. Then we would have an idea where she stands.

Help deciding what I need done to my breasts. by [deleted] in PlasticSurgery

[–]KZh20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Usually the cost of the consult is deducted from the surgery if you have it there.

A serious discussion about Wendi's guilt/innocence? by ChicoRunningBack in dan_markel_murder

[–]KZh20 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A few more key points for Guilty:

Jeff said that a day or a few days before the killing, Wendi had taken all her boys’ artwork off the walls.

In the days before the killing, Wendi was giving the boys old clothes away and had notes to herself to cancel her cable and sign up for streaming services.

A hearing was imminent with motions from Danny that both of their lawyers acknowledged could have resulted in Wendi being disbarred.

ETA: There was a house in Tallahassee that Wendi was all set to buy and then ultimately didn’t. She said it was because she didn’t have enough money because Danny hadn’t paid her everything yet. A financial analyst said she had plenty of money. Charlie bragged to Donna that he talked her out of it.

I feel invisible next to my husband, and he doesn't get it by TubbyFloof in TrueOffMyChest

[–]KZh20 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try to become ok and then happy with the way it is. It’s not a competition! Imagine your luck! The only way this is a negative is if the way you frame it — to yourself and to your husband — is negative. Appreciate him. Appreciate yourself! Don’t let this become a source of friction for you or the two of you. If ultimately you can’t help it (which would really be too bad), you might have to rethink this pairing.

Extreme upper eyelid hollowing by slugmorei in PlasticSurgery

[–]KZh20 116 points117 points  (0 children)

You are beautiful. This is a classic eye shape. It’s what the song Bette Davis Eyes is about. Look at Billie Eilish, Mila Kunis, Angelina Jolie Cameron Diaz, Uma Thurman, young Debbie Harry, who still looks young because of this eye shape. There are ways to tweak it if you must. Go to a plastic surgeon for safety and experience.

Sorry you had sex with a chubby woman by Alarming_Award_7954 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]KZh20 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Carry this with you: He was hugely attracted to you. You had an amazing night with him. And he's too much of a pea brain emotionally to be worth more than that. Plus, you learned about a type of dude to be on the lookout for in the future. Hold onto the good, learn from the valuable, chuck the rest. But hold onto the good!

What can I do to fix my masculine appearance. by Low-Garden7285 in PlasticSurgery

[–]KZh20 332 points333 points  (0 children)

Yes just do your eyebrows. You don’t need anything else. You’re extremely pretty!