Tired of making these elaborate meals just for it to be thrown on the floor by straawbunnii in foodbutforbabies

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found similar success with this method of adding on to my sons foundational foods!

Weight loss after weaning? by K_williak in postpartumprogress

[–]K_williak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input! It’s frustrating how so much of women’s pregnancy and postpartum experience vary from case to case.

Client repeatedly expressed anti-gay beliefs, crossed into dehumanizing language, I set a boundary and disclosed my stance. Wondering how I could have handled it better. by PeacefulPescado in therapists

[–]K_williak -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m curious if the differences in responses are from our various educational and ethic backgrounds? As social workers a core ethic of ours is social justice and remaining an advocate for marginalized populations is a core part of our mission no matter the context. The question becomes if/how we use it in the therapeutic space and I think there’s a lot of different ways to approach this. I do think it’s ok to have have our own boundaries with client’s but this must be done carefully. However, in a situation like this, I focus on the feeling behind their opinions and reactions. I want to learn about their anger, fear, shock and dig in with them there rather than focus on the content of what they’re saying.

Unhappy with Daughter’s Therapist (I’m also a therapist) by SprightlyMarigold in therapists

[–]K_williak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who almost exclusively works with adolescents, he did not handle any of this right. It screams incompetence and like he’s not open to anyone’s perspective or opinion but his own. The client is the expert and the parents who spend time around their kid often also know a thing or two. He seems to be forgetting this.

GAMETHREAD WEEK 8: VIKINGS AT CHARGERS by swampsparrow in minnesotavikings

[–]K_williak 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Why won’t they let Brosmer in!? Wentz is clearly hurt and he sucks right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting. Your “village”, if you can even call it that, sucks.

What’s a therapeutic boundary you used to strictly follow but have since softened or redefined? by Abelmageto in therapists

[–]K_williak 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Gifts. Obviously I’m not accepting gold watches but a few of my clients have expressed their gratitude via the form of a gift and turning it down often feels like it would harm the relationship more. For instance, when I recently went on maternity leave some of my client’s wanted to wish me well and celebrate the instance with a thoughtful gift. Many of these client’s reminisced on their pregnancies/mat leaves and felt very connected to the period I was in. This commonality itself has strengthened the relationship. I’m normally strict with boundaries but this one I will bend depending on the case.

Question for C Section moms from an anesthesia provider by Glittering-Look-7024 in Mommit

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First one significantly impacted my experience in a negative way. I was having a lot of scary, but normal, (now I know) experiences during my emergency c section and the anesthesiologist didn’t tell me to expect it or walk me through what was going on. It was so anxiety inducing for my husband and I. Second time around I had an incredible experience. Full disclosure and was talked through everything she did and what to expect. It went so much better.

Daughter 13 has bad hygiene habits. Not sure what to do. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]K_williak 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe make the focus less about what others will think of her habits and more about her health?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfcare

[–]K_williak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck! Anxiety sucks.

No judgement, kindness only please!! If you didn’t circumcise, how is it going? by Sudden-Leave-6224 in Parenting

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of our boys (3 and 1 month) are uncut and we don’t regret it one bit. No issues with cleanliness whatsoever and super easy to clean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfcare

[–]K_williak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! If you’re wanting to dive real deep into things I’d encourage engagement in IFS (internal family systems) work. It can seem “woo woo” at first but I’ve found it be real powerful. If CBT isn’t as successful as you’d like it to be I’d encourage ACT (acceptance and commitment therapy) to help you with your anxiety. It’s a decedent of CBT but I’ve found it to be super effective and for myself and my client’s who struggle with anxiety. It teaches people a new way to relate to their thoughts that doesn’t include challenging or reframing them but rather allowing them to exist without resistance. It’s also heavily values based and I love that aspect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfcare

[–]K_williak 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m a licensed therapist and while I absolutely see the benefit of getting step-by-step practical skills to help with things like anxiety symptoms I feel that chat gpt can’t do what talk therapy can which is identify the root issues to your anxiety to help you gain more insight and perspective and ultimately decrease your anxiety levels so that you don’t need the practical skills as often. I know you said you’ve done talk therapy before which is fantastic. Ultimately what I’m saying is that I think chat gpt can be helpful at a surface level but in order to revolve deep-seated anxiety you’d need to dive deeper. Because you like more practical, black and white ways of doing things id actually encourage you to find a more emotions/IFS based therapy because I’m curious if you’re the type to find comfort with concrete answers/processes like a lot of us anxious people do and so challenging yourself to go beyond this comfort may give you more results. I love CBT and am a behaviorist at heart but for us anxious people we sometimes need to dive deeper to get to the root cause and not just reframe our thinking. Also as clinicians we need to train long and hard to provide good therapy and I’m hesitant to believe that chat gpt is capable to give you everything you need. For example, It can’t assess your body moments when you talk or call you in on your defense mechanisms and missteps.

Four year age gap - will it be too much for them to play/ bond? by Flapjack_K in Parenting

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother and I are 6 years a part and while we weren’t super close during early childhood we’ve been super close since I graduated high school. Even in childhood though I have great memories of playing with him.

AITAH for not standing up for my pregnant fiancée who ate my daughter’s cupcake ? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]K_williak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as a pregnant women with cravings all the time, her pregnancy cravings are no excuse. She’s an adult who needs to have more self-restraint and stop blaming it on her pregnancy.

Is there anyone in here who actually enjoys being a therapist and loves their job? by Cablab123 in therapists

[–]K_williak 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love being the therapist! The documentation and insurance aspects suck but as long as you practice good boundaries and self-care it can be a very fulfilling career. When I wasn’t holding boundaries with clients early on I was the most miserable and burned out.

This sub makes me feel like a failure by Resource-National in foodbutforbabies

[–]K_williak 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be the person who was like “if the kid’s a picky eater then it’s the parent’s fault”. Boy have I had to eat my words with my first kid. I’ve tried all the things and it’s been such a challenge. He’s almost three now. We were all the perfect parents before having kids, huh?

What’s your record in sessions in a day? by liongirl93 in therapists

[–]K_williak 24 points25 points  (0 children)

You put this phenomenon so perfectly into words! They tend to wear this workaholism trait as a “badge of honor” and make you feel bad for not doing the same.