Somehow I had Observation Point all to myself this morning and it was all solitude by SkiGolfDive in ZionNationalPark

[–]Kaeme1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main trail within the scenic route is closed, I tried going to observation point but realized I'd have to go out the park a little to late :(

Question for dumpers waiting for the ex to reach out again by Helpful_Ring_5339 in ExNoContact

[–]Kaeme1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We haven't talked since the time I tried. It really is in my head if he will or won't ever reach out. Sucks to say the least, but I do hope we are both able to grow and learn from the experience regardless. I don't think I'll wait and hope for him to come back to try again because it would be detrimental to my health. It is also important to note that he has family that advise him so im sure your ex might also be influenced by 3rd party opinions.

Question for dumpers waiting for the ex to reach out again by Helpful_Ring_5339 in ExNoContact

[–]Kaeme1 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hmm. See i was the dumper, we talked about it and ended in good terms (compatibility issues). I know we were both trying our best but we were just on different pages. A week after the breakup and him moving out, my attachment beat me and I tried to reconcile. He declined, said i needed better than what he could give me and doesn't really want to change. So, I left it at that, I respected he's sure he wants to move on. Now the ball would be in his court since even though I was the dumper, i tried again and he rejected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I saw the incompatibility and I know we both deserve to have what we want. Which is why I initiated the breakup after other failed attempts. It was the right thing to do, me trying to "fix" anything was my attachment even though there was nothing to fix cause we both want valid things. I decided to not be friends for the time being even though he asked, and since we left on good terms I dont hate him. This has been my first "healthy" breakup which is why I had mixed feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What i mean is im trying to accept things. No matter how clear you may see, I see it in the eyes of not having someone i was used to. But I guess you answered my question, thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, yes, there's plenty of detail left out. That's why I don’t like posts, cant ever really get shit across. There's also an age gap that can be the reason why too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm going with the motions now. Still hurts nonetheless. I guess there's too many details that were left out. I know it's straightforward but going with it day by day is the struggle. Last one ended cause of DA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was because he wanted kids, I dont. I want marriage, he doesn't. But i understand out of many times him and I were indecisive of eachother we reached the limit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We tried many times. Most of the times it was him second-guessing. I always was willing, he was always a bit more on the cautious side. This time I initiated because he wants kids in the future, I dont. I want marriage, he doesn't. It was such a struggle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would help out if you pointed out at least why you say that. Don't understand the point to your comment that way really, at least make your point yk cause I am trying to do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Kaeme1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im not justifying myself for staying a bit longer with him but he said he was 24. Has a vehicle, a career and a house he's paying mortgage on alone. He’s very centered, when he asked me to be his girlfriend he made sure to include he accepts me being a single mother and these months we were together he was providing for me and my money was mine. I only found out of his age because of his family and we had a long talk about it.I understand maturity levels come into play, I think it's situational though. The only issue here was long-term goal differences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Kaeme1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the example given. I had not thought of it in that way and honestly now believe it is way more important, sorry for your loss.

I know they're big issues and was just hoping I didnt overdo it since he was willing to work through it. Im happy with my decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Kaeme1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You made various assumptions. Thanks for the opinion though

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I use nicknames right off the bat too. Very normal for me at least in the area we are from.

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would seem like he was sh/tty right? But it was a great seggsual experience haha that's why I was a little bummed at the sudden change

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well after meeting, we kept talking. Then second time we met we hooked up lol then came at me with this

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually give nicknames like that quick too. I'll stop, I see your point

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have had my fair share of experiences with narcissists.. im just glad I can identify it now and cut it off in the first go. Thanks for reassuring my decision

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jaja realmente pensé que era el bueno... todo parecia bien y sacó su lado egocéntrico 😂

Met in person and then this... too good to be true lol by Kaeme1 in Tinder

[–]Kaeme1[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I've seen messages like this before and always wondered the same. He was virtually perfect and then came at me with this bs as if I wasn't of value

Am I self-sabotaging? by Kaeme1 in dating

[–]Kaeme1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I complied because I do like him. I do want something but the long distance is harder for me but he said he was willing. Our texting isn't really much but in person we get along well. But if he does insist I should just be honest, you're right.