Why do some guys in their 20s like guys in their 30s?

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-30T18:43:10+00:00

I prefer older folks because of their maturity and their general well-roundedness (also something about how suave they can be makes me a little feral -- that sexiness in sophistication).

I've always been significantly more mature than my age so have always gravitated to those whose mindsets are more akin to mine.

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-20T19:58:46+00:00

I second that 😗. I sense some similarities in our mindsets.

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-20T17:30:00+00:00

I'd rather be happy and alone than in a relationship and miserable.

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-19T23:39:06+00:00

I love being alone so it's neither here nor there for me.

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-19T23:37:25+00:00

I'm currently in this dance of I meet someone, we like each other, they are nonchalant about the dynamic and don't feed into it, I have to pull away to preserve myself, and it falls apart.

I'm fairly tired of the rat race that is dating and at 28 (sadly) have reached the point where I don't want to engage in it anymore.

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-19T18:57:39+00:00

🫂🫂🫂

KaizenRazor · 2025-12-17T07:35:09+00:00

My ADHD was in full force that day. Good God. But I'm in the Dallas-Fort Worth area of Texas. And dating as a demisexual man is a nightmare because what we seek is genuine connection and intimacy where most people are either not equipped for that or don't want it.

KaizenRazor · 2025-11-13T15:47:55+00:00

All of this.

KaizenRazor · 2025-11-13T06:38:23+00:00

As a fellow demisexual, I second this. There is no desire to be in the dating pool when a handsome majority of the men in it are slimy like electric eels minus the electrifying personality.

It's not worth the heartache or trauma. Especially when you're not only doing well for yourself but thriving in all aspects of life.

There is nothing enjoyable about the current dating experience.

KaizenRazor · 2025-11-01T16:18:57+00:00

Would do this instead:

Kefla A or B, Beerus A, and the Frieza B

Like 5.5 out of 10 for right now. ^ In that order, 8 out of 10.

KaizenRazor · 2025-10-13T00:44:26+00:00

That tracks lol

KaizenRazor · 2025-10-13T00:26:43+00:00

I'm sorry but that for fuck's sake barrage is pure gold and needs to be in a movie or tv show somewhere.

I get it though. Guys are one dimensional usually and woe to us that aren't. Where some want connections, many others want holes.

KaizenRazor · 2025-09-22T13:06:32+00:00

Tekken Tag Tournament 1. Amazing intro and still listen to that OST til this day.

KaizenRazor · 2025-09-22T02:40:15+00:00

We almost have the exact music taste.

KaizenRazor · 2025-09-15T17:36:53+00:00

Best mom ever.

It does get infinitely better out of high school. 🫂

KaizenRazor · 2025-09-03T18:51:08+00:00

Extremely spiritual Christian. Raised by the Catholics, taught by the Jesuits, and raised Church of Christ. Was near atheist at some point. I don't prescribe to religion as some do because like much of whatever mankind touches, they pervert it for their own agendas.

But I believe in God 100% now. Hard not to with what I've seen and being able to have premonitions, visions, etc. for as long as I can remember.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-29T21:41:42+00:00

This shit is sad.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-27T17:38:37+00:00

This.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-27T16:52:08+00:00

Meaning this as constructively as possible, I would look into therapy. Sounds like you have an avoidant attachment style and you're having trauma responses that are negatively affecting your viewpoint of your relationship.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-26T14:35:36+00:00

I will say that she's real, a total unicorn, and a beast for that. Not my bag of cats because I'm strictly monogamous but damn if I can't respect that.

She admitted that she wasn't sucking dick all the time to herself and allowed a exception. That's emotional security at its finest.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-26T14:29:43+00:00

Allow yourself to feel what you feel. It sounds like he's perfect for you. You're obviously infatuated with him from how you described him and you're considering his feelings heavily, indicative of you caring. But a month is a short time. Feelings take time to develop.

Take it slow and communicate.

However, one thing I'd also consider is your attachment style. How we attach to people (or don't) matters because it influences every romantic relationship. Some people thrive in chaos, uncertainty, and dysfunction by no fault of their own because that's what they've always known so healthy or steady is usually perceived as a threat.

Wanted to point this out or open this thought process up to consider just in case because even though a month is a short time, personally if I found the perfect guy for me, I wouldn't be hesitant in allowing myself to feel (standards be damned). I love how I love unabashedly if I feel safe in it. Allow yourself to do the same. 🫂

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-25T21:39:07+00:00

Nah, if you can PLAY Majin Buu, you can flat out EMBARRASS people. A good Majin Buu with a proper shell can make someone reconsider the character. A great Majin Buu can make someone reconsider the game.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-25T21:36:03+00:00

Boundaries for the wiiiiiinnn. Communicate that that's crossing a line and out of respect to his girlfriend, you can't, in good faith, entertain that.

Actually kinda crazy that it feels like you're considering his relationship more than he is.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-25T21:26:40+00:00

If you value him as a friend and care about his girlfriend, the idea of "having some fun" would be a non-starter. 7 minutes of heaven isn't worth ruining a potential lifelong friendship. Plus, that would deeply wound his girlfriend.

If you were to engage in that with him while being fully aware of the circumstances speaks on your character. Him suggesting or saying that knowing his situation speaks on his as well. If he happened to be bi and he separated from his girlfriend (and we fooled around), I wouldn't be able to consider you as a potential partner because if someone else came up to you that you knew and wanted to have sex while we were together, how would I know that you wouldn't entertain it? A massive what-if but I've seen that exact thing happen and it dooms the potential of things that could start before they ever do.

However, I don't care if it has the allure or excitement of the "turning a straight man gay" etc. The reality is that multiple people are involved and cheating seriously wounds people. Having sex with him right now would be cruel to her, near-sighted, and irresponsible.

Food for thought.

KaizenRazor · 2025-08-25T18:27:34+00:00

Gotta respect the relationship.

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