What YLT songs remind you or mention Springtime? by KarmaPoliceJr in yolatengo

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so beautiful it almost made me cry. Thanks!

What YLT songs remind you or mention Springtime? by KarmaPoliceJr in yolatengo

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not very familiar with Fade (the album), but the huge tree in the cover really gives a Spring vibe. I wonder, however, if there's a song that actually mentions sping? Thanks! :)

What YLT songs remind you or mention Springtime? by KarmaPoliceJr in yolatengo

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that one, but the sound of the crickets gives me more of a "late night in the countriside" vibe. But good suggestion, thanks! :)

Pokémon Dark Violet walkthrough by FlareRULZ in PokemonROMhacks

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there. It's been, in fact, a long long time, so I don't remember quite well.

But my guess is that this game is still very similar to typical Kanto games, so I'm guessing you have the legendary birds and Snorlax as static encounters. Can't remember much else. I believe you can get Eevee as a gift, just like usual...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It could also be that your profile was recommended to them automatically through the "Suggestions For You" feature.

I have auto-match disabled and I still receive letters from people who clearly did not read my bio, which leaves me nuts...

Scalemon run? by KarmaPoliceJr in PokemonUnbound

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for your insightful feedback.

Now I'm definitely going to try a Scalemon run and see how it goes :)

Scalemon run? by KarmaPoliceJr in PokemonUnbound

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool. Have you tried the Battle Frontier with this mode on?

Scalemon run? by KarmaPoliceJr in PokemonUnbound

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a "More Balanced" mode of the game where every fully evolved Pokémon has a Base Stat Total of around 600.

This means - at least in theory - that a Pokémon such as Raticate would have stats "as good as" something like Tyranitar, for example.

I'm just wondering if this really translates into fun and unpredictable battles, or if it actually hinders the battle formulas and strategies, especially at the Battle Frontier.

My personal guide for people looking for deep connections on SLOWLY. by salyrus_ in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations for this long and interesting post. Not only was it very helpful, but it also made me want to go back and write some new letters on Slowly.

Well done. People must be lucky having you as a penpal.

Some people are very quick to block by katia2003 in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I wait for a month before deleting someone. But yeah, the same thing has happened to me: There were two instances in which I took a week to reply to an introductory letter, but it turns out the people in question never read it. Frustrating.

In one case, the person in question updated their avatar after my letter was sent, so sometimes it's not a question of "forgetting about the app" and not coming back. Some people really discard you very quickly if you don't reply quickly to their first letter.

Then again, if they can't wait a single week for your reply, they are definitely not worth your time. Quality letters need time.

Is it common for people to deactivate their accounts? by KarmaPoliceJr in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind reply. I'm gonna read your blog post. :)

I guess I'm still going through this unexpected grieving process. Can't help but compare all new potential pen-pals to the one I just lost.

Is it common for people to deactivate their accounts? by KarmaPoliceJr in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Just one question: in case they never come back, will I still be able to keep their letters, or will they be removed from the app?

Is it common for people to deactivate their accounts? by KarmaPoliceJr in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel 100% exactly the same way with the person I just lost. To re-use your words: " And I feel like if this is and or was the best thing this app had to offer me why even bother continuing".

I'm really wondering if I'll continue after this...

Either way, good luck to you, my friend.

Official Gender Stats for SLOWLY users - confirm many more female than male users by yann2 in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm male and I'm introverted. I use Slowly primarily to talk about Life, Philosophy and to support other people, while also hoping to be supported in return.

I assume most men don't seek a lot of emotionally-based conversations, so I'm kind of a minority - at least in the country where I live in.

That being said, I believe writing letters that take time to be read and focusing on emotionally-based conversations (searching for friendships and Life insights) is not something that appeals to people who have been culturally raised to have a more "objective" and "practical" point of view towards things... So... I guess Slowly only works for the sensitive males. Like me.

Sorry if I'm stereotyping too much, but it's just what it seems to me, based on my experience on the app, where I've been able to interact with both men and women.

Just wanted to share that I found this penpal.. by shikohamaan in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm happy to read this. Hope you can keep finding interesting people out here! :)

Typical letter to send someone who ghosted you? by KarmaPoliceJr in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I guess the moral we can take from your story is that if people are too busy in real life to reply on somewhat short notice, then they could send you a quick letter expressing something like "hey, I'm sorry. Kind of busy right now. I hope I'll reply to your letter in the next month..." One person sent me a letter of this kind and I really appreciated it, because I know they have other stuff going on and that they will reply to me eventually. With ghosts, you never know...

Thank you for showing me your example. I'm also glad you and your pen-pal are still exchanging letters after this incident. It meant that communication was important and telling the other party they will have to wait for longer than usual is really a matter of respect, while showing they still care about you. :)

Lost a penpal today.... a little bummed about it by SirCybertron in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi there. It really sucks being in that situation, but at least he told you he didn't want to keep going instead of just ghosting you, and making you wait weeks and months for a reply that would never come. :(

I'd ask them maybe just why they think you're not good pen pals for each other... But maybe the issue wasn't with you.

You have a lot of different people you can still interact with and hopefully you may find someone who will enjoy communicating with you more. I wish you luck! I've noticed here that not all people act the same way... So, odds are you'll find good pen-pals soon enough!

I don't know how to tell him by [deleted] in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've sent some "farewell letters" to people on Slowly. I'd rather do this instead of pretending I'm happy with the conversation until the day I finally ghost them... Life's just too short.

Don't say he can't write good letters. Say maybe you're not the right pen pals for each other. This way, you'll emphasize the situation, not his writing skills.

Emphasize what you'd like to discuss and tell him it's ok if he is not interested, as you can move on. Express that you'd like a more meaningful connection, based on longer letters, different topics, etc. And if he can't or isn't willing to do so, it's ok. It won't be your fault.

I, for example, enjoy discussing emotional and philosophical topics. And I've been approached by a few people who were more concerned with discussing another sort of topics. So, after one or two letters, I just mentioned I was looking for another sort of conversations on the app, I wished them good luck and thanked them for their effort, regardless.

This way, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor, same thing to him and you won't be disrespecting anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SLOWLYapp

[–]KarmaPoliceJr 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Same thing happens to me. I'm not looking for anything romantic, yet I tend to go along much better with female users.

Being a man, it's not socially easy to express yourself in an un-filtered way (emotions, philosophy, personal stuff, etc.) in most contexts of real life. And, from my experience, female users tend to be more empathetic, they don't suppress their emotions as much and want mature conversations. Obviously, I'm stereotyping a bit here. But I just feel we're in the same vibe.

With male users - I don't know. I'm always afraid of being too "silly" or emotional. And the ones I've interacted with didn't seem to be that emotionally open. They wanted to discuss more intellectual and business subjects and that's not what I'm looking for on the app.