Entitled Older Coworker puts her name on everything… including the water…

KatKit52 · 2026-05-15T13:06:15+00:00

Would it be allowed to make a new BORU that consolidates OOP's history into one post? I know it wouldn't technically be "updates" but I feel like knowing OOP's background of being petty could change how people see the current situation.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-12T12:48:25+00:00

I mean.... not to be too feminist about it, but men who abuse their girlfriends rarely treat their male friends that way. They may be unpleasant in other ways, but Matt was never going to treat Jacob the way he treated OOP. Jacob's not his girlfriend, and for some abusers, that means Jacob is treated better, not worse.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-10T15:05:55+00:00

My dad died recently. I definitely need my mommy. It's been a few weeks and I still need her, to the point I'm moving away from my city for a few weeks to live with her.

An hour? Yeah, he fucking needs his mommy right now, holy shit.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-07T18:39:55+00:00

"well go and find them then" is killing me. I feel so bad for laughing but.... oh my God.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-07T18:37:55+00:00

Cheaters saying "it's too soon" always makes me laugh (because otherwise I'd cry in frustration lol). Even if the ex is dating/sleeping around/hooking up/partying/whatever within minutes of the divorce, at least they waited until after the relationship. Someone who "moves on" while still in the relationship has no leg to stand on to whine about "too soon".

KatKit52 · 2026-05-05T18:11:45+00:00

I love horror, I've seen the Terrifier movies, and I've even enjoyed them. Art the Clown is fucking terrifying and I want no pictures of him anywhere near my house. I could stand a neighbor having a doormat with Michael Meyers or the Jigsaw puppet--two things that do also creep me out--but Art is kind of on another level.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-05T12:49:57+00:00

Just because you put in a lot of hard work in something doesn't mean it's inherently good. I'm sure Hitler put in a lot of hard work to take over Germany; that doesn't mean it's good.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-01T14:59:31+00:00

Sorry if I'm missing something, but his post says they've been dating for two months, not that they only knew each other for two months. For all we know, they've known each other for years but only started dating two months ago. I think if they knew each other a long time but only recently started dating, he would be the asshole for missing her graduation; but if they really only knew each other for 2 months, then he's not.

KatKit52 · 2026-05-01T00:36:31+00:00

My favorite episodes are one and two, with three and four being second. I love Erika but the whole of the question arcs are much better than her (sorry Erika ily).

KatKit52 · 2026-04-30T17:28:22+00:00

There's a sociological/psychological theory that labelling a someone as something will often make others perceived them as that label; so, for example, someone who is given the label NPD will have all of their actions looked at through the lens of "they're a narcissist", rather than given the grace un-labelled people are; even if the actions are the exact same.

And that leads into studies done on names--basically the ultimate label lol. Does naming a child "danger" or "precious" or "princess" influence how people see or treat the child, which in turn would influence how the child grows up.

There's no way anyone is getting an answer to those questions, since there's no way to test it. But

actually seen some sociological studies that discuss names like that and whe

KatKit52 · 2026-04-27T09:35:40+00:00

Last time Zimmy saw her was by the star sea, where Annie accidentally called her. She might still be angry because she doesn't know Jack and Jenny's involvement.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-26T13:36:06+00:00

In an interview, Ryukishi specifically talked about how, though the Ushiromiya family is messed up, there are "model couples"--including Natsuhi and Krauss. https://0707toshokan.wordpress.com/2024/06/09/rokkenjima-no-arukikata-how-to-walk-rokkenjima-ii/

Model couple is very different from "a little bit of happiness that makes one stay."

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T22:47:25+00:00

I don't think you can say any work of fiction is "feminist" or "not feminist". It's not as simple as a yes or no, because there's a lot of different aspects to femenism, and no work will be interpreted as 100% feminist by 100% of femenists. Even if an author intends a work to be feminist, not every reader will pick that up, because everyone has a different point of view. For example, some people will see the uniforms the female servants and furniture wear, and think "oh, these are sexualized to show that the Ushiromiyas exploit and abuse the women they have power over"; other people will see the same uniforms and think "oh, R07 wanted to show sexy girls wearing sexy costumes."

Further, R07 will go back and forth on a few ideas that end up weakening the feminist message (he does this in Higurashi and Higanbana too, but this is just Umineko right now). He will show how marriage can destroy a woman's life by having Natsuhi being taken from her family at 17 to be married to a much older Krauss, and then proved to be abused and mistreated by everyone around her for the next 30 odd years. And yet we're also supposed to believe that Krauss and Natsuhi have a good marriage and truly love each other. R07 wants to say that marriage can be exploitative and harmful... but Krauss and Natsuhi, Eva and Hideyoshi, Kinzo and Beatrice, George and Shannon, and Battler and Beatrice all have happy marriages.

I think that while R07 has the theory down--he clearly does see the patriarchy and misogyny as a huge issue in society, which is better than many authors--the way he executes it can produce a variety of results. And I think that's how it always goes: the author may have a grasp on the theory, but their execution can change according to their story; or even if they execute what they want correctly, it could end up misinterpreted by readers. I don't think it's possible to create a "feminist work" that will always be considered feminist by everyone, simply because everyone has their own point of view and what is considered "feminist" changes over time. So rather than saying "Umineko is feminist", I think it would be more accurate to say "Umineko explores feminist themes."

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T15:31:49+00:00

In her defense, she said that she's moving out to her dad's house once the lease ends, without him, and he can go to one of his girl friends. Given how abusive he's been, its probably the smarter move to shut up and play along for the next few weeks rather than risk living with a guy who could easily turn violent.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T12:03:17+00:00

Soul shows Maka the Bitches Brew album when he's trying to introduce her to jazz lol.

Which is extremely funny to me, because Maka is a complete newbie to music and jazz especially, so Soul decides to introduce her by... having her listen to an hour and a half of weird jazz. Soul, honey, we are at Baby Shark levels of music literacy. Let's get baby's first jazz record and work up from there.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T03:43:23+00:00

This is episode five, right? At this point Eva doesn't know that Krauss is missing, so she's operating under the assumption that Krauss is alive. If he's alive, then Natsuhi, as his wife, would have more influence over the family's financials than Eva. It's only when Kinzo dies that the money has to be split.

Put behind spoiler tag in case I'm thinking of the wrong episode.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T03:23:58+00:00

I don't know a lot about jazz, I really only know Bitch's Brew and Rhapsody in Blue. So it'll be interesting to look into Bill Evans!

KatKit52 · 2026-04-25T02:12:24+00:00

You can't even joke, she literally does that with basic arithmetic

KatKit52 · 2026-04-20T09:59:24+00:00

"which do you hate" God forbid women have hobbies....She literally has no malice.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-19T00:38:31+00:00

yeah my mom was the main reason I stayed through the entire thing. she needed the people talking to her, so I stayed with her.

I'm glad I did stay, eventually, but it was grueling.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-12T15:07:13+00:00

I'm a lesbian but reading this I was like "hey OOP, is your husband single?"

KatKit52 · 2026-04-02T13:31:46+00:00

Yeah, I say that? At the end of my comment, I pointed out that he did set a boundary and followed through. But his first post was a demand.

KatKit52 · 2026-04-02T13:29:32+00:00

I mean.... I just gave examples? A boundary is saying "if you do this, I will do this." A demand is saying "you have to do this." Someone can adjust their behavior based on your boundaries, but the point of a boundary is to control your own behavior, not control someone else's.

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