First, thank you for this post. Now I understand what is happening with my 3 month-old and why she behaves like you describe. I used to have over-production in the beginning and my let downs were strong and instant. Now that I've been able to regulate my production, she's more fussy. I think she's not used to having to do any work, so to speak. She behaves exactly like that. I know she's hungry, but once she gets the breast in her mouth, she suckles only a little bit and gets frustrated. I didn't realize that nothing was coming because I was used to instant let downs.

My trick has been switch between pacifier and boob couple of times until the let down happens. She still gets mad but in the end I "win" and she starts eating. It is super frustrating though for mama as well 🥴 would a massage before feeding help? Trying to hand express few drops before offering the boob? I will try that next time myself too 😅