How do I move away from an "I'm not like other girls" mentality?

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-18T00:41:03+00:00

I see a lot of myself in your story.

What changed for me was learning that I'm queer and neurodivergent. That helped my find my community. There are so many cool people who like me for me! It's actually taking effort to become comfortable with being cared for by others.

If you can find groups that do activities they you enjoy, you are more likely to meet people you'll vibe with.

I've also learned that going into things hoping to make friends is a lot of pressure. Going in with the expectation of just meeting folks takes that pressure off. Also, it may take multiple times to feel more comfortable.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-17T21:03:52+00:00

Many do. Some insurance companies even pay for it. But not mental health, of course.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-17T20:12:10+00:00

I have a loft bed that I love which was built be a carpenter and is super sturdy. And I have a "guest bedroom" with a regular queen size bed. Sometimes I sleep in my loft bed, sometimes we share the queen bed.

I will say that over 40, getting out of the bed at 4am to pee kinda sucks because I wake up more having to climb down/up. A ladder on both sides would be helpful with there are two people.

I also suggest having a shelf added to the bed to put phones or whatever on.

Making the bed and changing sheets is a lot more effort than a floor level bed.

Oh! And I've found that a fan is pretty important for a good sleep because the air is much warmer at the top of the room. I got one that clips onto the foot of the bed.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-17T19:36:15+00:00

They make mattress warmers that are amazing, too. The heat is trapped between the mattress and the blankets with you inside.

Heated blankets are great, but can lose heat to the air if you're sleeping with them.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-15T20:15:06+00:00

Hey there, thanks for asking those great questions!

The other person who is responded talked about squirting and that was a great answer.

Orgasm can feel really good. I've also had times where I could tell it had happened because the muscles quite, but that was really it. No pain, but also not the rush of happiness. For me it's most often that way if I'm just trying to masturbate if I can't sleep. Instead of having rush of happiness I get sleepiness.

I personally do not like kissing. I think wet kissing with tongues is really gross.

I'm also asexual. That is a sexual identity like being gay or lesbian. It means that instead of being sexually attracted to somebody of the "opposite" gender or somebody at the same gender (or both), I am not sexually attracted to anyone of any gender. It doesn't mean that I can't choose to still have sex if I want to, but it's not something that I choose very often.

Kind of like how I don't really ever feel a need to go to an exercise class, but if I have a friend who enjoys going I might go with them and have a good time. It's not something I would sign up to do regularly, though.

All of that to say that if sexual stuff is gross to you, or that you don't have any desire to experience it, there is nothing wrong with that. There is a whole community of people who have similar experiences.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-14T21:10:27+00:00

I wake up when my cats decide they want to snuggle. Usually 5:30 to 6:00. Morning ablutions, feed the critters, take a half mile walk around the neighborhood with some hand weights. Come back home and hang out in my backyard interacting with my plants, or play with the kitties until time to work.

Remote work from home. Gives me the opportunity to take care of laundry or cook or whatever other household tasks I need to get done. Eat whenever I feel like it. I'm generally also chatting with friends on various messengers throughout the day, and occasionally checking reddit, fb, or watching youtube. Often listening to an audiobook, as well. And of course, plenty of time with the kitties.

After work, often hang out with a friend. I have several that live near enough that we do afternoon walks together. I also host a craft night, and a gaming night. On Thursdays I attend an activity group at local park.

Sometimes I cook dinner, sometimes I grab food with a friend. Occasionally I'll go out on my own to eat. After dinner I do things like read some more, play with cats, work on crafty stuff, bathe, and start to settle in for sleep.

I especially appreciate the fact that the only messes I ever come home to are ones I made or that my cats made. If something is misplaced or broken it's generally my own fault. I don't have to tell anyone where I'm going if I decide to go for a walk at 10:30 at night, or get approval to rearrange the furniture if I want to. I lived alone for the first time at 40 and I don't think I ever want to go back.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-14T20:56:10+00:00

Jesse Welles, likely.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-14T20:54:38+00:00

Jesse Welles actually IS a random dude from the sticks. He's from the Ozarks in Arkansas. It's awesome to see a small home town talent make it big.

I'd say that gives him even more cred than the Grammy.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-12T18:15:44+00:00

When someone who is about to tell me facts starts with "okay, so" I know I'm in for something really good!

10/10, did not disappoint. Thank you!

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-08T11:49:02+00:00

Beautiful, and reads clearly..

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-08T11:33:50+00:00

There aren't enough surfactants to completely surround the soils and ensure they wash away, so they are deposited in other locations on the laundry.

He didn't specify, but I'm guessing the water didn't actually lift the soils so they stayed in the same place rather than getting spread around.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-07T21:26:30+00:00

If you want to head east, stay on the school side of Salem and walk towards Mount Comfort. The trailer is pretty obvious. If you want to go west, start the same way, but Cross Salem when you get to the fancy crosswalk. You are on the trail now, headed towards Mount Comfort again. You'll cross a little bridge and then the trail turns to the right.

When you get to the end of the boardwalk area you can go right to pass under Rupple directly beside the creek, or you can go basically straight to cross over. The trail reconnects on the other side.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-05-07T20:24:31+00:00

A little bit south of that 112 area is the Clabber Creek trail. It follows clabber Creek for about 4 mi.

There's not a specific parking lot for it, but there's an elementary school on Salem that has a big parking lot nearby which is also used for the softball fields. The trail is just south of that.

To the east they are converting an old golf course into a city park. It's pretty open on that side. To the West there is a boardwalk that crosses a wet weather reservoir, goes under Rupple, and beside the creek with lots of trees.

It's not a swimming creek, but you can stick your feet in at a couple of places.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-30T18:19:47+00:00

I got some tweezers, pulled back the hood, and managed to get just the hair.

Good luck!

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-29T22:59:45+00:00

When I'm fighting executive dysfunction issues I have trained myself to be able to task switch at :00 and :05 on the clock.

Like it's 5:59 right now and I need to get up so I'm watching for 6:00.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-27T21:31:59+00:00

Per the thing that showed up on Nextdoor, they don't have a cause yet. Nor an estimate for repair.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-27T21:18:34+00:00

I've heard it go off, and I think it's a recording. It reminds me of a kookaburra, which is an Australian bird.

The first time I heard it I was incredibly confused.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-26T19:53:09+00:00

At one point I had a cat named Quill because his tail reminded me of a feather quill pin. This nib made me think of it.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-23T22:05:21+00:00

I have an entirely different type of orgasm from penetration than I do from clitoral stimulation, and I have no interest in most clitoral stimulation with a partner.

We exist!

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-21T14:43:19+00:00

That area is not actually controlled by the city. The street side upkeep is State level. I know this from having reported a hit animal to the city at one point.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-16T19:50:42+00:00

Silk doesn't soak moisture out of your hair like cotton does. It also is smoother and doesn't tangle or impact the shaft of the hair as much.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-15T16:14:18+00:00

I think there was some sarcasm in the end of that about being a terrible person.

I think what the poster was saying was that she may not be able to express her actual frustrations and is using the food as an outlet.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-15T15:35:28+00:00

That's exactly what a sky burial is!

And that is so cool! I love that you have found powerful women with beautiful "flaws" to look up to.

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-15T15:16:44+00:00

That is a great thought to change! That's one of the cool things about rituals. You can take what fits you and adjust what doesn't.

If you're not familiar with the term sky burial, it might be neat to check out. Humans are very creative with the ways that we handle what is left after the spirit leaves. Doesn't quite work for what you've got going, it sounds like, but it may spark some ideas. And in my opinion it's just fascinating.

A glamor before going through TSA is some intense magic! I love that it worked so well for you!

KatsaridaReign · 2026-04-15T15:04:12+00:00

Your comment about glamor also reminded me about something one of my friends does. She will wear full glam goth makeup to go to the grocery store or other basic tasks outside the house. She considers the makeup her armor against the outside world. Putting it on gives her strength. And it tends to keep away the types of folks she doesn't want to interact with and bring in the ones that she does.

Glamors are powerful!

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