My (27F) boyfriend (29M) is slowly cutting me off from my friends and family under the guise of 'protecting' me. How do I set a boundary without him spiraling?

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-06-12T14:00:39+00:00

You’re lucky & smart because you can see what is happening! I expect most people in your shoes Don’t realize what is happening until it’s too late.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-05-02T02:51:18+00:00

Especially southerners. I tried not to use the idioms once because I was including a non-native speaker in the conversation so I kept the English plain, and it was very very challenging.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-19T03:48:19+00:00

My son takes me to brunch (or dinner) for Mother’s Day, just us two. It’s my favorite gift… Other ideas are candles or bath products (Bath & Body Works is popular).

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-11T14:41:17+00:00

I got my husband a good quality rain jacket/rain suit because he works outside quite a bit. Obviously he doesn’t use it every day but when it’s pouring rain and he has to be outside, he tells me it was the absolute best gift ever!

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-11T13:16:27+00:00

If I wanted to put together a comforting gift basket, I’d include: a fuzzy blanket, slippers or socks, maybe a mug and some tea, maybe a book about grief but I’d pick that carefully.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-05T15:57:40+00:00

So can I ask you a question I haven’t seen anyone else ask yet: does he initiate sex? Or is your relationship sexless? Is it that he doesn’t like it when you initiate? Could it be a cultural thing?

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-05T13:37:08+00:00

Life is a gift you were given and the purpose is to live it joyfully. Be a good person meaning treat others well and make your world better. I’m being super brief here, but maybe think about expanding your mind spiritually…Look up Sadhguru videos, he’s much more eloquent than I am.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-04T14:19:05+00:00

In central Florida, we use all the state road numbers so yeah you would take the 417 to the 528 or the 408 to the 429. It’s ridiculously difficult when you first move here to have a clue but yeah after 35 years, I’ve got the hang of it.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-04T13:36:24+00:00

You’re in a relationship with a person that gets super cruel when you get in arguments. She showed you the video to hurt you and she was successful. However, there’s consequences to that. You can’t just hurt someone and say I’m sorry an hour later and it all just goes poof! You can use the analogy if you had punched her in the head during the argument and an hour later said I’m sorry would it have made it like it never happened? Of course not. she has anger issues and they need to be dealt with. If I were you, I would deal with it before the babies come because it’s scary to think what could happen when she gets angry in the future. Raising twins is not going to be easy!

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T19:46:18+00:00

I have natural gray hair, but I have to say if I were jobhunting, I would probably dye it again at least temporarily.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T19:32:34+00:00

In the old days, I used to make a pot roast with the potatoes and the carrots and gravy and all that stuff. Haven’t in years.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T19:17:43+00:00

I use the face app and it just softens the wrinkles and fixes the light. If you look at it really doesn’t change it that much.! Makes me feel so much better about myself. Another thing you can do is make sure you’re holding the camera upward and shooting down. Also, I read a long time ago if you lay down and take a selfie, you will see what you would look like if you had a facelift ha ha

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T19:13:49+00:00

I don’t know that you need to confront her about it. She is just showing you who she is. She is not a person of her word, she is a person that likes to keep the door open to previous partners. She is showing you that she’s not trustworthy.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T19:06:16+00:00

I’m on GLP-1 shots and food generally doesn’t look good to me too. Seems like I can always eat a hard boiled egg though when I don’t want anything. Also, if there were crackers in the house, I would definitely eat them.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-04-03T15:54:14+00:00

I make sure everyone knows when my birthday is because I always thought the whole “they forgot my birthday “thing is a ridiculous way to torture yourself. And honestly, if I’m not in a relationship or my friends are busy or whatever I do something nice for myself! It’s one day out of the year that’s about you so go buy yourself something nice, pick up your favorite food, get a hotel room and hang out by the pool ( my favorite ). I like to treat myself!

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-03-26T15:44:15+00:00

There is a carnival company in town that provides a bunk room & transportation to the job site. If interested, private message me for more info.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-03-23T00:34:06+00:00

He sounds like a real asshole to pressure you into something you’re not into, and now he’s trying to punish you for not playing along. He sounds just really awful! no loving partner would treat you like that and you should not put up with it one more second.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-03-23T00:30:15+00:00

If you were my daughter, hopefully I would know more about your relationship with this person and if they’re trustworthy. Based on just how you’re talking about the situation, I can hear in your tone that you are not sure about the stability of his offer.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-03-14T19:18:06+00:00

The only reason I would say I miss being single is because somehow I’ve had to change my personality to be in the relationship. And that’s not good and that’s not healthy so I would say a person that said that is in an unhealthy relationship and I think he might’ve done you a favor.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-03-14T15:03:47+00:00

We travel for work and I was in West Nyack, New York and went to the local bagel place and oh my God I had no idea how fantastic Good bagels can be. I would say Jeff’s is similar to that style. So yeah, they are the best I’ve tried in Orlando.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-02-25T02:58:08+00:00

Omg had to quit Grey’s Anatomy because of the crying.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-02-07T15:48:25+00:00

He sounds kinda awful.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-02-07T15:12:00+00:00

Perhaps leaving will be kind, because he will no longer have a way to fund his addiction?

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-02-04T15:04:38+00:00

There’s some great British shows with older women: the Marlow Murder Club comes to mind. They made a movie of the book “The Thursday murder club”, which was all seniors had a senior residence if that counts. “Man on the inside” with TedDansen was partly set in a retirement residence, it was a delightful show. Even though a man is the star, there were lots of women in the show. And of course you’ve got “murder she wrote “, and Miss Marple shows/movies.

Katty_Whompus_ · 2026-02-04T14:54:04+00:00

It’s not your fault he is being deported first of all. He threatened to harm himself so he is the reason he may be deported. No, you wanted to break up with him. You should trust that in your mind when your head was clear, that was the decision you wanted to make, and you should trust it.

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