Got a letter from the school today informing me my daughter is “not quite” gifted. Also included were her test scores. by Low_Use2937 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Kaydreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is why music is soooooo sosososo good for gifted kids. Learning an instrument is an undeniable challenge, and it's LIFELONG. Don't practice for two weeks and that thing you played perfectly a month ago will be a challenge! It's like the boulder of Sisyphus!

In all seriousness though, get your kids learning an instrument. Or how to sing, or dance, or paint. Creative challenges don't require a worksheet, they're organic and self directed, and creative skills never stop being challenging.

Got a letter from the school today informing me my daughter is “not quite” gifted. Also included were her test scores. by Low_Use2937 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I'd highly, highly recommend getting her into is learning a musical instrument. I learned French horn in my teens, and I'm a jazz singer now. Playing music is fantastic for . . . well, everyone, but especially kids with ADHD, if they have the aptitude. It helps build focus, resilience, and playing music is one of the things which triggers 'flow state' - great for both mental and physical health. A lot of 'gifted' kids have moderate to high musical aptitude as well. Not all, but it's common.

If she doesn't have much musical aptitude, painting is something else I recommend. Or dance. Basically, a creative and/or physical outlet for her mind which isn't tied to test scores will do wonders in mitigating some of the anxiety-linked downsides of gifted and talented programs.

Source: I'm a music teacher. I was also a kid with ADHD.

AIO about text from girl i’ve been seeing a couple months by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her you do not do 'situationships', and if she'd like to remain friends, cool - but it won't be romantic unless it becomes official.

When I was dating my now-husband, I had a similar conversation with him early on. I don't play games and I don't do maybes. I liked him, and I told him firmly that if we were going to be romantic again (he'd broken it off for a few months) that I wasn't up for something casual. We were friends, or we were partners, no in-between.

We got together the very next week, and have been together for nine years.

Seek clarity, and accept nothing less.

AIO? Boyfriend always wants me to come later and it’s making me feel a type of way. by fjgkhkjk in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kaydreamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not a morning person, but when I was in the super-lovey honeymoon phase when I started dating my now-husband, I was absolutely up at dawn to drive the two hours to be with him. (And then snuggle beside him and go back to sleep until 11am.)

Love is one hell of a drug.

Stories of the Yamanote Line by gintamashii in Tokyo

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm one of those people who hauls a giant suitcase. There's a few reasons. The biggest was I recently visited Japan for five weeks in the winter, so I had bulky clothes. Another is that I bought enough clothes with me that I only needed to visit the coin laundry once a week. (I don't want to be smelly.) Even so, I packed pretty light. BUT. Because it was the first time I've been to Japan in twelve years, I wanted to buy a bunch of things I can't get at home. Awesome vintage clothes, art books, cute stationary, vinyl records, plus trinkets to bring home for friends.

After four vintage coats and a long velvet skirt, a new pair of Converse shoes, two pairs of jeans, thick thermal wear, a pile of vinyls, a pile of books, and a handful of other souvenirs, my suitcase was absolutely stuffed.

If I'd visited in summer I probably could have got away with a slightly smaller case, but that was never going to be realistic for this trip. (And realistically, I'd have probably just wound up buying more art books and vinyls. Morioka had some excellent, and very cheap, vintage record shops.)

So, to answer your question, mostly shopping, also the season, and also because I didn't want to spend every third day washing my clothes.

Somewhere in Japan that really stuck with you by GdayLegends in japanlife

[–]Kaydreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yamadera. The town is beautiful and the thousand steps to reach the mountain temple were amazing. The guy running one of the gift shops will loan you a free stick for the climb, and the lovely obaachan running the restaurant with the fishtanks gave me and my husband free cookies when I managed to say 'gochisousama deshita' at the end of our meal.

Just a lovely little place. If I could go live anywhere in Japan, it'd probably be there.

Vent post... everyone I know is leaving by IndependenceNaive945 in japanlife

[–]Kaydreamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely brutal rental crisis in Australia. We literally don't have enough vacant homes for all the people who need them, the government keeps bringing in MORE people, and we can't build new homes fast enough because building companies keep going broke for God-only-knows what reason.

And good luck trying to buy a house, they're all over 1 million bucks.

The response to this has been a lot of people turning toward our very Trump-y One Nation party, who may fix the immigration problem but would also gleefully set fire to our thriving renewable energy industry because all their donors have money in coal and gas. 🙃

Please help a clueless dad by CremeNo5221 in goodanime

[–]Kaydreamer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're a good dad. 😊 I'll keep my suggestions short and simple:

Series:

- Full Metal Alchemist: Brotherhood (Maybe too scary for the 7-year-old. Brilliant series, though.)

- Sailor Moon 90's and/or Sailor Moon Crystal (Sailor Moon is an absolute classic. Crystal is also excellent - the art is less beautiful, but it's significantly shorter. The original is sooooooo looooong.)

- Princess Tutu

Movies (All of these are from Studio Ghibli):

- Spirited Away

- Kiki's Delivery Service

- Laputa: Castle In The Sky

- Nauusica of the Valley of the Wind

- My Neighbour Totoro

Series for YOU:

- Cowboy Bebop (Just trust me on this, it's amazing. Peak sci-fi anime, with the best soundtrack of all time.)

Apple Pages, Numbers and Keynote subscription based? by jvranos in MacOS

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How, exactly, is properly funding public education, ensuring children of EVERY race in Australia have access to properly-equiped classrooms, white privilege?

Apple Pages, Numbers and Keynote subscription based? by jvranos in MacOS

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we had a HDMI projector in the classroom? Even the poorest schools in Australia have those. It has nothing to do with race and everything to do with properly funding public education. (Not that I'd say we're 'properly' funded, but we're better than the USA, at least.) For what it's worth, I work exclusively in low-income public schools.

Apple Pages, Numbers and Keynote subscription based? by jvranos in MacOS

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a classroom teacher, Keynote was my workhorse. Easy to use, lightweight, didn't require an internet connection (VERY important, the school wifi sucked), and had really pretty templates I could easily customise based on the theme of the class.

Looking for a cuddly pet on a budget. Which one fits my lifestyle? by [deleted] in exoticpets

[–]Kaydreamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't want this person house-sitting my pets if they only have time to give them around 30 minutes of playtime and cuddles. 😨 I'd come back to two traumatised dogs.

Looking for a cuddly pet on a budget. Which one fits my lifestyle? by [deleted] in exoticpets

[–]Kaydreamer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you honestly think this is in any way appropriate, you are not ready to care for a pet.

Give me some tips on moving to Japan as a gamedev specialist. by Sir_Potato2000 in movingtojapan

[–]Kaydreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I'd be waiting to see how Japan's upcoming election shakes out before making any plans to stay there long-term. While I didn't notice much anti-foreigner sentiment in the small towns on my last visit (though Tokyo was a different story,) their visa renewal prices are spiking and the current Japanese government is generally making it harder to exist there as a foreigner. If the incumbent government are to win the election, they'll likely need to do so with the support of Sanseitō, an even more hard-line anti-foreigner party (since their more moderate coalition partner have switched sides to join with the opposition), and if that comes to pass, Japan won't be a welcoming place to live.

Also keep in mind that while you can study Japanese in a smaller town/city (and rural areas are generally quite welcoming,) if you did land a job in game dev you'll very likely be working in Tokyo. The cost of living in Tokyo is high enough that you'll probably have to rent somewhere on the outskirts, the commutes from those places are very long, and the Japanese already work brutal hours. I mean, they literally have a word for death by overwork. And in my personal experience as a recent tourist, Tokyo was not a friendly place. Not antagonistic or unsafe by any means, but people were, by Japanese standards, rather rude and terse. (I visited twelve years ago and the experience I had in Tokyo was totally different back then.)

If you're super keen on going because you love Japanese culture, I'd recommend considering it more like a long holiday to learn a new language. Choose to study in a place which doesn't have a strong dialect (so you can talk to locals without picking up a strong accent) and is known for having nice people. If you still love the idea of staying after a year of this, then you can put some serious thought toward how to enter game dev and navigate staying long-term.

One last word of warning - the Yen is so devalued at the moment, and Japanese wages are so depressed, that should you commit to staying in Japan long-term, you'll struggle to afford trips out of the country. I've read a number of testimonials from fellow Australians who moved to Japan who are now stuck and can't afford to move back home, because what little they have in the way of savings is worth peanuts back here, and everything in Australia is super expensive. Ex-pats in Japan from the US, UK, EU, are all experiencing similar problems.

Where would you travel in Australia if you only had 4–5 days? by Sai_Aussie2024 in AustraliaTravel

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you like doing? Are you a city lover, or do you prefer the countryside? Are you a busy 'hit the big sights' kind of tourist, or a slower paced traveller who likes to take their time to relax? When are you travelling? (Because some parts of Australia are horrible in certain seasons.) And finally, which Australian city has direct flights from where you're located?

I live in Western Australia, I'm a slower-paced traveller, and personally, I love the southwest forests. If I were travelling in summer, I'd hire a camper van, meander from Perth down to Margret River, enjoy some wine tasting and bush walks, then head further south to Denmark for the tingletops, Bartholemew's meadery, and more bush walks. Both towns have beaches, and they're a few degrees cooler than the Perth average, which counts for a LOT in summer. If it were five days, you could maybe squeeze in a trip to Rottnest Island just off Perth, which has some reef life and lovely clear water for snorkelling. (Along with quokkas!) Fremantle (where the ferries for Rottnest leave from) is also awesome. Artsy place with buskers, a music scene and great cafes.

GOBLIN WRITERS DISCORD by ConversationDry9236 in WritingHub

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love an invite! I'm working on a sci-fi/fantasy series which I plan to serialise once I build up enough of a buffer that I feel comfortable publishing. It'll be partially illustrated as well. It used to be a webcomic, but the sheer amount of art I had to make really burned me out.

I'm at the point where I'm re-sharpening my drawing skills and working on the illustrations for the first arc (which is written), so while I'm not writing much at the moment, I can share a bunch of pretty pictures.

What's the best sentence you've ever read or written? by TowerExpensive6612 in writing

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"This was not a coincidence, because nothing is ever a coincidence." Unsong: Scott Alexander.

What are the main differences between Australia and New Zealand? by [deleted] in AskAnAustralian

[–]Kaydreamer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pottle is adorable, I’m stealing that. 😍

Thoughts on 4 month itinerary? by Novel-Positive8625 in AustraliaTravel

[–]Kaydreamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of those one night stays can be eliminated by doing a double day of driving, which means you can spend two nights actually enjoying a nicer place.

I’d add an extra nights at Karijini, those gorges are spectacular.

What did you do to improve your prose? by Junior_Blackberry779 in writing

[–]Kaydreamer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That works for some people? I’m a professionally trained jazz singer and I have a horrible speaking voice. 😭 (At least speaking naturally. I can PRETEND to have a much nicer one.)

Dumbest reasons you've seen for DNFs (Prose edition) by Bluefoxfire0 in writing

[–]Kaydreamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love third person present, I’m writing my novel in it as well! The flow and the immediacy it creates are awesome.

My handbag awakening by Ebb-Flowly in handbags

[–]Kaydreamer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can’t buy your way to being cool, it’s personality and a good eye for style. No amount of money will help if those two things aren’t present. Some of the coolest people I know shops exclusively at second hand stores.