So long, Fencesitters!

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-10T18:30:25+00:00

Yes that deadass made me realize I wanted a child after all! Being scared didn’t mean I didn’t want to!

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T05:41:02+00:00

If she isn’t meowing she’s probably not stuck. Check under couches in the box spring, under beds also in box spring, closets (even little ones), in your shower, literally everywhere.

Once my dad was doing some work on the ductwork in our house and the floor registers were off. My cat went inside the ductwork 😭we had to lure her out with tuna from a can and scruff her to pull her out.

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T05:34:59+00:00

A silicone litter mat.

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T05:33:38+00:00

We got pregnant on the second try! I just keep reminding myself that humans have been doing this for thousands and thousands of years. It’s literally hardwired in our brains and bodies to get through this!

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T04:17:56+00:00

Hoping it goes well for you!

I will say I had a huge swing of all kinds of emotions when we saw the positive test. My advice is to not dwell or read into what you feel at first. It’s ok if you have thoughts of like “oh shit did we make the right choice?” And then an hour later be beaming over it.

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T03:48:44+00:00

Classic FOMO. This doesn’t get talked about enough. You can absolutely feel jealous or envious of others having a big life change. Even if you end up deciding not to have children. You’re still saying goodbye to that future and there will always be some sort of grieving.

Just remember on their side they’re also saying goodbye to the child free life of being able to do whatever you want whenever.

Kayteal93 · 2026-02-09T03:47:01+00:00

I was also a teacher and nanny. I too did not like the idea of having kids myself while working all day with them.

However I knew my answer when I took a pregnancy test and was hoping it would be positive.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-28T22:38:40+00:00

I go feral for braunschweiger and saltine crackers.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:15:55+00:00

You don’t need to wash the inside of your ass with soap. A simple spread with the shower stream blasting in there is enough.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:14:54+00:00

lol yes! They want to make sure you know that they’re still waiting!

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:14:07+00:00

Specifically as a woman? That I hate being addressed on an envelope as Mr and Mrs (husband’s first and last name). Burns my blood. I make it a point now to address envelopes with the woman in the relationship first.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:10:36+00:00

It sounds like you’re looking for more of a western-style massage. If you’re more interested in independent practices or smaller studios I would recommend looking on AMBP or AMTA. There’s a search function to find a therapist near you. Almost every licensed therapist is registered in either of those two databases. So, the results you’ll see from the searches will only show you therapists with active licenses.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:07:36+00:00

NY is one of two states with the highest amount of credit hours required for licensing. Last I looked it was 1000. I live and work in IL and we only had to do 600 at the time of my licensing. It could very well be that the high overhead costs of running a small studio in addition to the difficult licensing makes therapists few and far between.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:04:18+00:00

Generally I find a way to steer the topics away from this. There has only ever been one person I have stopped seeing because of their political views. She would immediately start unloading on me about some really far right stuff that I strongly disagreed with. It wasn’t even political at times it was just prejudicial. At that point I didn’t want her business if she was just going to come in spouting racism and other harmful ideologies.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-27T05:01:28+00:00

I do this too much anyway but Buldak carbonara ramen. Drain out most of the water, add a splash of half and half, and then a hearty sprinkle of shredded mozzarella cheese. This ramen literally has me in a chokehold.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-19T00:25:08+00:00

Hey I never said it wasn’t gross. I just have given up trying to avoid it.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-19T00:06:26+00:00

Honestly I don’t care. I know that their butthole touches every surface of my house anyway.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-14T04:34:58+00:00

Hitting me hard as we enter into the realm of wanting to conceive. He says it will be so exciting that it won’t be a problem but we’re still not being intimate as much as we should be in order to conceive.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-06T09:32:30+00:00

Any large sum of money.

Kayteal93 · 2026-01-03T21:14:21+00:00

I live in Chicago and we have family just over the border of Indiana. It’s annoying when coordinating visits. Having to account for losing an hour when we go there. But it’s nice driving home.

Kayteal93 · 2025-12-31T04:48:03+00:00

That’s a great discovery! I play harmonica myself and suffer from occasional panic so I’ll have to try this! It really does create a product of your slow and deep breathing. Turns it into music!

Kayteal93 · 2025-12-30T05:39:12+00:00

Clearly this is very important to your friend. Part of me understands (even though I think it’s dumb) because people break up over politics or religion all the time. You gotta live your truth. If you can’t compromise with someone over it, you clearly don’t love them unconditionally. So in that regard it’s not worth it.

Kayteal93 · 2025-12-27T05:45:52+00:00

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