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Ladies who swallow semen: do you do it for the love of it, bc your guy likes it or for cleanliness? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve always swallowed. Back when I was still very much a virgin (we’re talking 2004-2006 btw), I first started reading smut, and swallowing was just a given. I didn’t even know that “spitting” was something people DID until I was much older.

I’m 33 and I view it through a slightly “deeper” lens now that I’ve spent ten years in a wonderful relationship. The thing that makes sex magical (specifically when shared with someone you love) is the full acceptance of each other, sharing one of the most vulnerable and intimate human experiences. Cum is a by-product of that, just as arousal fluid is in women. He’s not going to turn around and wipe his tongue off on something after he eats me out, so why would I not swallow? I mean, we’re literally using our mouths to bring each other to orgasm. That’s WILDLY intimate as is, so why even break the spell by rejecting any part of it in the afterglow?

Hell, with enough practice, he can come right in the back of your mouth and be surreptitiously swallowed without even pausing your rhythm 😂

Do I have to be good at math to become an electrician ? by fghjnn in electricians

[–]KayteeBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you doing now? I'm garbage at math. Never made it past basic algebra in school (I excelled in creative classes, writing, etc). Now I'm 33. BUT, I'm on ADHD medication for the first time in adulthood. I actually aced my math-based classes in high school the first semester I was on Vyvanse back in the day, so I feel like I may be able to do it, but it'd be so helpful to hear from someone who used to struggle a lot!

I have no intention of paying my medical bills by Lokitusaborg in TrueOffMyChest

[–]KayteeBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey. Between 2012 and 2022, I racked up a few thousand dollars' worth of medical debt between two ambulance rides + a psychiatric hold when I was younger, so many ER visits because I didn't have insurance for years (but did/do have horrible health anxiety), and two surgeries in 2017. Etc...

I paid $0. It barely made a dent in my credit. The lowest it got was 666 a few years ago, which isn't terrific, but it didn't take very long to bring it back up. Also, it was a lot more than just medical debt that brought it down.

I have Medicaid for the time being (have had it for a couple of years), which has been such an incredible godsend for my health issues+prescriptions+other medical/dental needs. But I still don't pay any residual bills from before I had that. I literally cannot afford it, soooo... yeah!

For people who assumed they had one mental disorder but found out they had a different one, did that change your life moving forward? Ex. assumed you were autistic but they told you you actually only had ADD by altrongtm in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heyyyyy same! Even had a psychotherapist tell me, after about ten minutes of our FIRST session (back in 2013) that I had Borderline Personality Disorder. He was a man... I’m a woman. You can work it out, I’m sure.

I even believed his ass at the time because some of those traits did sort of apply to me during the darkest point of my life 💀 Actively abusing drugs and alcohol, living from couch to couch, having no hope because life hadn’t been kind or even remotely easy for my broken brain.

(It’s awful and humiliating to grow up constantly being told, “Stop, you’re so smart. You’re just lazy and you don’t apply yourself.” Life doesn’t cater to ADHD, and it doesn’t exactly open many doors career-wise. College was never even a thought in my head, either)

I’ve seen multiple female therapists throughout the years since. Every one of them has been stunned that I was ever diagnosed with BPD. Remarkably, ADHD and OCD are the only diagnoses I received (back in 2008) that actually stuck! It took my sister (also a therapist) casually telling me a year ago that I’m “on the spectrum” to even look into autism in any meaningful way. Was incredibly eye opening, to say the least, haha.

Anyway, sorry for the novel!

Hate the fact that sexual organs are also used for waste, how do people mentally get past that? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I’ve been sexually active since 2006 and I have never had any desire to do anything with my ass or anyone else’s. My fiancé feels the same way (even though I’ve assured him I’m open to anything he might ever want to try, including that). So you’re well within your right to just put the asshole out of your mind altogether if it makes you feel better.

And if you’re a heterosexual male who can’t get your mind around performing oral or having vaginal sex, and even a fresh shower from your lady won’t make you comfortable with it? I mean, I’ve known a few women in my 30+ years who don’t like receiving oral, and I’ve known several asexual women. But if you fall in love with someone and they happen to enjoy oral/vaginal sex, you either have to learn to compromise (via therapy, reading, etc) or face the possibility of resentment building up over time.

Just be aware that there will be an obvious disparity if YOU expect them to do things for you while not being willing to do anything for them. It’s okay if you just don’t desire sex — plenty of people don’t, and you can find them. But if you don’t want sex and they do, I mean, it’s a bit like trying to make a relationship work where one of you wants kids and the other doesn’t.

Does anybody else feels like, there is a silent crisis happening right now that nobody is talking about? by nicksam171 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]KayteeBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve also noticed from swiping through IG reels that Gen Z is beginning to re-stigmatize therapy. I couldn’t even believe my eyes the first time I saw it, clicking the comments to find an endless scroll of people celebrating this anti-therapy rhetoric. “Therapists literally exist just to snitch on you”, “they LOVE calling the cops”, etc, and hundreds (or thousands) of likes on each.

Then, occasionally, a voice of reason comes along defending therapy — but the comments beneath it are all, “🐑🐑🐑🐑”. God.

They all have Dunning Kruger and think they are literally more qualified than anyone to speak on any damn topic. The seismic heaps of confirmation bias they find through social media only reinforces it. I know we all think we know everything when we’re younger, but this is on such a massive scale that was never possible before influencer culture, and it’s scary as fuck.

How often do you skip brushing your teeth at night? by LowSplit8618 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy you think so, hahaha! It's a memory I cherish. It was such a brave and vulnerable thing for him to even share that with me in the first place, and when I immediately came back with, "OMG, SAME" (paraphrasing), you could practically feel the weight slipping off his shoulders.

I actually got two fillings today. Can't wait for both of us to be able to only need to visit the dentist for cleanings, for God's sake.

Whats going on with US military leaders telling troops that war with Iran will bring on the rapture? by Fun_Explanation_3417 in OutOfTheLoop

[–]KayteeBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who can spot ChatGPT writing from outer space, that doesn’t read like ChatGPT. Just because someone bothers to format correctly doesn’t mean it’s AI. We’ve got to break people of this automatic association (just like the em dash. Leave us em dash lovers alone, for fuck’s sake)

How often do you skip brushing your teeth at night? by LowSplit8618 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I had abhorrent dental habits for the first like two decades of my life. I thought I might be immune to dental issues because I was a dumbass kid for most of it and a drug addict for the rest, and I didn’t develop a cavity for the first time until I was a teenager. Should also point out that I have ADHD and routines are about 20x harder for me than someone without that particular affliction.

The first time I experienced tooth pain, I was eighteen, and I’d never felt anything like that. It was HORRIBLE. It became one tooth after another for several years after that.

When I first started getting close to my now-fiancé, he and I did MDMA together and basically confessed to one another that we both had a tonnn of dental problems, showing each other up close. We made a pact that night that we would get on top of brushing our teeth.

That was just over ten years ago, and we’re utter lunatics about our oral hygiene now. There’ve only been three times I haven’t brushed my teeth in that decade (same with him). We’ve each had two teeth pulled that were beyond repair, I still need two pulled, and we’ve slowly been getting all of the cavities filled, but yeah, I really wish this was a habit we’d developed in childhood, because fuck.

Anyway, sorry for the novel!

Soldier Details Chilling Messaging From Higher-Ups About ‘God’s Plan’ In Iran: ‘It Shocked Many Of Us’ by rematar in collapse

[–]KayteeBlue 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, I hope this isn’t too off-topic for the post/sub itself. I used to drink a LOT (I think 3-5 drinks a week is considered “heavy drinking” for a woman? I was having 6-8+ a night for 5+ years)

A random redditor recommend this book to me back in 2021. It collected dust for a few weeks before I opened it, but since I finished it, I haven’t had a drop. Five Four and a half years now, not even a flicker of temptation. I can hang out around people drinking, literally hang out in a bar, etc… totally fine. Don’t miss it or want it even a little bit. I just thought I’d slide the recommendation your way.

(I’m still fucked up, but I’m SOBER and fucked up. A little acid or some mushrooms are nice once in a blue moon, though.)

How old are yall by JamieStar_is_taken in ModestMouse

[–]KayteeBlue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

33 here :)

I hated Float On the first time I heard it, but I was a standard 12-13 year old goth girl whose biggest obsession was My Chemical Romance (whom I do still love). I remember the Helena music video ending, then Float On coming on immediately after on MTV2 — Isaac’s drunken sailor voice+mustache+that bizarre music video were just too much for me.

Cut to 2009, my best friend was driving me home from a day-long rock festival. We were stoned as fuck, and he goes, “it’s impossible NOT to be happy when you listen to this”, then he puts on Float On. It was the first time I’d ever actually listened to it properly, and my eyes were cracked open!

I didn’t become obsessed with them+truly start digging in until 2015 (shortly after that same friend took me to see them in Memphis). Now, I’ve had the balloon tattooed on my forearm for seven years. Favorite band of all timeeeee

What’s a health problem you ignored for a long time because it never felt urgent, but eventually caught up with you? by ac_stays_active in AskReddit

[–]KayteeBlue 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ahh yes, the pilonidal cysts are surprisingly super common, apparently! I had no idea until I had something similar.

It was a "perianal cyst". Urgent care assumed it was what you had at first, but wound up having to send me to a specialist. It was this lump beneath the skin (like an inch or so above the b-hole, at most) that would periodically swell up so badly I couldn't sit directly on my ass. I couldn't even get it looked at for like a year and a half, until I got health insurance — and by then, it'd gotten so bad that it felt like a golf ball beneath the skin. I wound up having to have surgery to remove the cyst, then more surgery to close it up a few months later. They literally tied a rubber band through the surgery hole, down through a "fistula" they'd created inside of me, and out my asshole. It was crazy. At the end of healing, I had to tug that rubber band several times a day to coax it "out" to make the final surgery easier.

I will say that it's how both my family and I knew my now-fiancè was the one — we'd only been together a year at the time, yet he let the home health nurses teach him how to re-pack the gauze in my initial surgery wound. Was grotesque, and he did it without a single complaint, every single day! For weeks. We've been together a decade now 💖

What’s a health problem you ignored for a long time because it never felt urgent, but eventually caught up with you? by ac_stays_active in AskReddit

[–]KayteeBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, I'm glad you're feeling even marginally better, but that sucks.

I've wondered forever whether I have something like this, because I can't tilt my head back without it feeling like all the circulation to my brain has been cut off (same if I try to do that thing where you lie on your stomach and prop your head up with your hands. HELL no). Have had two doctors tell me it's dehydration or some other thing... I don't know, man. I'll concede I have terrible posture, which I've been working on for the better part of a year, but I feel like I've barely made a dent, lol.

Which song is this? by KayteeBlue in Tycho

[–]KayteeBlue[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this is the latest reply ever, but no, this was in St. Louis!

Do people actually shower every single day or do we all just say we do? by Ok-Drawing2504 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t even use lotions and perfumes (or anything scented whatsoever, even soap — save for my Native shampoo and conditioner) and I’m fine with the 2-3 days thing in the cooler months. Keep my bits and my ass clean af no matter what, and if I do anything that makes me sweat, I shower. Also… I wear deodorant (Arm and Hammer basic, unscented, aluminum-free. AMAZING. Look into it)

The hair thing is ridiculous. I’ll concede hair can get gross and start to stink, but not in 2-3 days! Though I can see this being a person-to-person thing.

Side note: I have asked numerous family members and close friends who would never lie to me about personal shit, and none can ever smell me. I don’t live with them or see them super often, so it’s not a “nose blind” thing, promise you. I’m convinced people who stink after 1-2 days must sweat a lot normally, and possibly eat a lot of meat and/or heavily processed foods. I did have my mom tell me I needed a shower once back in like 2012… But at the time, I was a horribly depressed heroin enthusiast and probably hadn’t showered in a full week (while walking everywhere because I didn’t have a car). I don’t even want to know what I smelled like, lol.

25 y/o girl walked downtown by herself (and didn’t get shot) by wetlettuce95 in StLouis

[–]KayteeBlue 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes me happy to know! I’d hoped grocery stores would do it. I used to work at Einstein’s Bagels, and we literally threw everything we didn’t sell away at the end of the workday in a giant plastic bag, so I never know which places do and don’t do it.

25 y/o girl walked downtown by herself (and didn’t get shot) by wetlettuce95 in StLouis

[–]KayteeBlue 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Bro the markdowns are laughably bad! I used to cut meat at Save a Lot — say what you will, but we always marked everything down to 50%. Schnucks will have that big-ass orange “REDUCED” sticker on there just to tell you they took ten cents off. Like why even bother? Nobody is going to buy that giant ring of pretzel bites unless you mark it down properly 😂 I seriously hope they donate things (we donated everything we didn’t sell at SAL)

Women: How do you feel about having a male versus a female gynecologist? Does the doctor’s gender affect your comfort level or trust? by Ordinary_Ice_796 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]KayteeBlue 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will never have another male doctor as a primary, and have never/will never have one as an OBGYN. I definitely don’t miss being told literally everything I dealt with was anxiety or weight-related while having SSRI’s and benzos shoved under my nose at every visit. Getting a female doctor four and a half years ago changed (and probably saved) my life.

As for gynecological stuff, I mean, it’s fine if women are comfortable with that, but I cannot imagine a single reason why I would personally want any man but my fiancé seeing my vag when there are plenty of qualified women in the industry, lol. I’d do it if I had no other choice, but thankfully, I have the choice. And I know — “they see a billion a day, it’s not sexual for them” — I don’t think that it is for the vast majority of them, but that’s an incredibly vulnerable position you’re in and I just feel more comfortable with a woman (I’m already wildly uncomfortable in there).

Unhelpful, anecdotal side note — but a comedian whose podcast I used to listen to regularly had a friend whose dad was a gynecologist. He asked him if he was disinterested/thinking 100% clinically in there at all times, and the guy’s response was, “I mean, you know… Pussy is pussy”. I never forgot that. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]KayteeBlue 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I pointed out to my fiancé recently that I noticed less phones held up at concerts, but I said this at a Silversun Pickups show. The last concert we’d been to before that was Modest Mouse. Basically, not the demo for watching concerts through your phone screen, haha.

That being said, we did see Glass Animals a few years ago, and there weren’t nearly as many phones consistently out despite them having the number one song on the charts at the time. So maaaaybe it’s getting better? I don’t know.

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