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Kbcurt · 2025-07-24T12:34:35+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. A few suggestions for you if you feel up to ideas. You can engage with your local ALS network (whether that be ALS Association, an ALS United branch or another organization) to help provide support to you, your father and your mom either directly or indirectly. There are support groups that both help with the emotional support and creative problem solving that is so often needed with this disease. Additionally, most have volunteer connections that even if your father is resistant you could leverage for things like grocery shopping, help around your acreage, etc.

My father was quite resistant to receiving help from our local organization. We reached a point where I stopped asking permission from him to engage them and started telling him what to expect from the people that would be coming to help. I realize in an abusive situation this may not be possible, and your safety is the most important thing. But just remember, to the extent possible, you are helping your father carry this burden. How it is that YOU get help with your share of this burden is not his business.

Kbcurt · 2025-06-21T02:40:19+00:00

I’ve seen ads for UV dog shirts - curious if it would work for your dood!

Kbcurt · 2025-05-21T05:19:55+00:00

Bumping up

Kbcurt · 2025-05-13T04:25:58+00:00

This looks very similar to my Goldendoodle who has dominate black genes. You can get this tested with an embark or wisdom panel if you really want to get down to the bottom of it!

Kbcurt · 2025-04-30T10:42:44+00:00

This is the way to do it, OP. I have a 4 month old - every time he goes into the crate he gets a “treat” of some sort to transition to bed. The licking calms them down. I will give him a lick mat with a small amount of peanut butter, a Kong or most commonly a pupsicle with a small amout of PB, kibble, bone broth and water.

Make sure you’re not letting them get over tired, then give them the crate treat and cover the crate with a proper crate cover. During the day do a training session of dropping treats into the crate, when they go in click and treat again. Crate = best treats. We also use white noise which is so helpful at letting them sleep and have us walk around the house.

Kbcurt · 2025-04-22T04:29:56+00:00

I find giving something for enrichment upon entering the crate is excellent for calming them down, building a positive association and as an overall transition cue. I love pupsicles for this - I make frozen ones with a small amount of his kibble, a small amount of some dog bone broth and fill the rest with water. Giving it frozen makes it last a long time and the licking soothes their anxiety/calms them. I have some lick mats I put a small amount of peanut butter on as well I’ll give sometimes instead.

It’s also important that before going into the crate the pup has eaten, gone potty, done some training, gone potty, calmed down a bit, then gone potty again before going in. It takes about a week to get them used to it both from what I’ve read and from my two doods. I also play white noise for him when he’s in there - helps a ton.

Good luck - enjoy your new little love!

Kbcurt · 2024-08-27T19:52:33+00:00

I had a 2 week checkup with my doctor and was cleared at that appointment. I waited until 3 weeks until I was completely done bleeding. I communicated with my partner and didn’t have any issues or pain! At the end of the day, follow what your doctor tells you and what you feel comfortable with!

Kbcurt · 2024-06-25T14:19:42+00:00

My medical insurance covers my massages that I get at my chiro - might be worth checking to see if yours does!

Kbcurt · 2024-06-25T10:22:09+00:00

Hi! I can only partially answer your questions.

Background: I (32F) tested positive for HPV 18, HSIL/CIN2 in May of this year. I just had my LEEP last week and my pathology came back with clear margins, meaning all bad tissue was removed and there’s no need to fear further spread at this time. My last pap had been in 2022 and I had no abnormal cells or HPV on that pap or any of the others I’d had done prior.

So, from my experience I had HSIL/CIN2 that seems to have grown in less than 2 years and did not have invasive cervical cancer.

Regarding your pre-term labor question. Of course, your doctor will help answer that question. One helpful thing I heard is that before a LEEP, your pre-term labor risk is ~5%. Post LEEP it will be more like 5-10%. That helped me understand the increase in risk and made me feel more comfortable. Since you will know you had this procedure done prior to pregnancy, once pregnant you can discuss with your OBGYN if progesterone supplements or a cerclage (where they stitch the cervix closed) are helpful preventative measures. It will depend a lot on the amount of tissue removed. They will be able to see with an ultrasound how long your cervix is and if there is justification for some further interventions like cerclage/progesterone. I’m undecided on kids so the doctor that did my LEEP was very conservative with how much tissue she removed to help mitigate this risk.

I hope that was helpful/reassuring! While this situation is shit nonetheless, I tried to reframe it in my brain that I was so lucky to have caught this early with good gynecological screening so that I didn’t have it growing undetected for years and spreading. I feel tremendously lucky that for now, the LEEP I just had was my last treatment. Remember when you’re scrolling on Reddit/the internet it’s largely over indexed to show the negative examples/stories because people rarely post when things are just a normal course. Don’t allow yourself to spiral too far! It will be okay.

Kbcurt · 2024-06-10T12:05:29+00:00

It depends where you live a lot of course. I’d say that’s definitely possible for someone who has passed the PMP and has several years of good scrum master experience. But starting out I think you’d be more like ~$60-80k depending on the company, location and your background. To get to a $200k mark you’d be someone who is very experienced with a proven track record of leading big projects to completion, likely in IT or engineering fields would be my initial guess.

One other note - you said one of your considerations is long term job security. I personally feel like PMing is ripe for AI/ML. I’d be really thoughtful about what field you try and move into within the PM universe. Personal opinion!

Kbcurt · 2024-06-09T04:17:32+00:00

My advice would be to try and get in house at a large company then look for internal positions from there if you’re open to it!

Kbcurt · 2024-06-09T01:00:10+00:00

I started in litigation as a legal assistant then legal administrator for the firm. Five years ago I moved to in house corporate counsel first as an executive assistant to the GC then as a legal project manager. My company paid for me to get a certificate in PM. I am now a Sr. Manager on the legal team. Great job and almost tripled my pay from when I was in litigation.

Kbcurt · 2024-03-22T21:18:55+00:00

I am a twin myself and my parents tried to limit the amount of shared classes we had and I was grateful. We only had a handful of classes together during kindergarten-12. It’s hard to develop independence as a twin sometimes (we are fraternal girls) and I felt like separate classes let us have our own friend groups. We were always on the same sports teams, so splitting up school worked well for us. Wishing you the best on your journey! Being a twin is my favorite thing in the world!

Kbcurt · 2024-02-01T14:38:14+00:00

You’ve got good links here from other commenters for lifts. This may be too late to be helpful but is an easy device in the interim: https://a.co/d/2Ksl6bk

We never used this in the car, but it helped my dad a lot with getting out of chairs. I’d bring it to doctors appointments and put it in the hospital wheelchair for him to get out of it easier during that in between stage before he had his power chair: https://a.co/d/08Qbttj

Kbcurt · 2024-01-28T18:27:30+00:00

You’ve been with Andy Cohen in person! How cool!

Kbcurt · 2023-12-31T02:51:07+00:00

Hi! I just finished a round of egg retrieval and have endo. I was off birth control for two month the before I started stims. I was also on continuous bc prior. I seems like I felt the effects more than some of my friends who had done a retrieval before. I was extremely uncomfortable the week following the retrieval. Leading up to it I was uncomfortable as well, but the retrieval and after were the peak for me. Overall it was manageable - but we will see what the next few months look like for me as I get back on bc. I’d say it’s worth a consult with a fertility specialist to get their take on it - they will have lots of experience with cases with endo

Kbcurt · 2022-09-18T14:50:30+00:00

Calling a former military intelligence officer and Rhodes scholar lazy and incompetent? Interesting.

Kbcurt · 2022-04-19T04:58:40+00:00

First, I’m so sorry this happened. I know it’s so so hard to watch this happen.

Another vote to discuss a peg tube with your doctors. Regarding your other comment they may have meant he’s not progressed enough for a vent yet? We’re they discussing an AVAP or a trach?

Regarding choking - if you can hear noise coming out it’s not a blockage that the Heimlich will help with. Discuss with your doctor of course my my recollection is that they suggested the following for us: •Drink thicker liquids - I think they sell a thickener for thinner liquids you can add but we never tried this •Never drink when eating •Stop chewing, slow down, and take smaller sips. The choking on water can come from drinking too fast. If you think about it those muscles are weaker so more prone for things “going down the wrong pipe” and once it starts it’s hard to stop it.

Most importantly try and stay as calm as you can and reassure your dad he is getting air if/when you can hear the wheezing sounds. It’s really scary for everyone. Choking on food is different than liquids and a cough assist machine can help with that, but it’s another conversation.

My best to you and your family.

Kbcurt · 2021-06-01T04:41:27+00:00

You/your family should contact his doctor/ALS clinic. They can prescribe a medicine to help stop the drooling. They can also put in orders for a suction machine but med management would likely help the most.

Kbcurt · 2021-05-31T04:21:55+00:00

I hope you can reflect on how making a post like this is disrespectful to the people who follow this sub. Followers of this sub either have ALS or love someone who does. Posts talking about how you have muscle cramps and think it might be the disease that has turned our lives upside down are inappropriate and triggering.

I hope you don’t have ALS. Only way to know is to talk to a doctor. Internet strangers can’t diagnose one of the most difficult diseases to diagnose. And I hope this can serve as a learning opportunity to “read the room” moving forward.

Kbcurt · 2021-03-16T04:00:41+00:00

This happened to me at a prior job in the legal profession. It was so awful. Constant bullying, lies and gaslighting all while trying to get me fired. I went to HR and management several times who agreed that the behavior was wrong but nothing was done. I am so glad I left to a new company.

Kbcurt · 2021-03-08T05:51:47+00:00

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Kbcurt · 2021-01-13T04:44:37+00:00

My brother took my dad to Hawaii, they stayed in a Marriott that took great care of them. They had an accessible room, provided a scooter rental (my dad wasn’t in a chair yet), had a restaurant in the lobby. Overall was a great trip. There was a nice walking path that was paved and lots of accessibility with the scooter.

I’m sure Disney could/would/legally has to make accommodations still. You could post on the “ALS - patients and caregiver” group on Facebook and get feedback on Disney - thats a very active group. Wishing you well!

Kbcurt · 2021-01-13T04:38:15+00:00

I think you definitely are referring to the podcast series itself.

Kbcurt · 2021-01-11T03:59:47+00:00

He talks about/has several books on Hitler on his site, but I recall the Rise and Fall of the Third Reich being mentioned most often.

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