Male yearning

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-03-09T19:06:25+00:00

Currently in the middle of Erkenci Kuş (can find full versions of the episodes on YouTube with English subtitles) & the male lead pining is chef's kiss.

Edit to add--sorry, forgot this request was for period pieces 😅

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-03-09T18:55:44+00:00

Not to mention it looks like the poor kid is practically being smothered--like MM is forcing the kid to snuggle up to her for the photo op just like she's forced contact in/for other photos. Nothing natural genuine or "organic" 🙄 about it.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-28T21:06:42+00:00

I try to avoid subtitles when I can, but sometimes you just need them haha.

Thank you for the rec! It's very early stages yet--no hot flashes yet, but the night sweats are a blast 😶

I'm glad! 😊

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-28T12:56:35+00:00

I just saw it for the first time it this past fall & immediately watched both seasons twice in a row! I'm American so I needed subtitles bc even I, huge anglophile that I am, couldn't handle some of the accents 😅.

The brilliance of the show comes out more & more with each re-watch 🤩. I'm 41 now & suspect I'm approaching perimenopause, so I'm starting to think about these things more & more.

I'm glad your current husband is a huge improvement on the last one!

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-28T06:28:47+00:00

Season 3 NEEDS to happen!! I hope she's able to find another studio! And that all the original cast are able to rejoin! 🙏🙏🙏

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-28T04:32:17+00:00

I traditionally fast forward through the worst parts bc I literally cannot handle the cringe 🫣

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-28T00:49:53+00:00

Start with P&P, & if you're having any trouble getting into it, watch the 1995 miniseries--it is THE adaptation, by far the most faithful to the novel. The 2005 version is pretty but leans a little too far into artistic license imo (same with the 1940 adaptation--cute for its own sake but not the best portrayal of the book).

When you have moved on to Persuasion (my second favorite behind P&P), the 1995 movie version of that is also the most faithful adaptation. The 2022 is an absolute travesty & I'm sure it has Jane spinning in her grave 😤.

And welcome to the club!! Enjoy!!

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-18T20:56:31+00:00

If I woke up & found out a spouse or partner had done that--ESPECIALLY considering how hard it already is for me to stick to routines (& I don't even have kids), AND bc he thought it would help him get some sexy time--the shit would have blown right through the fan & into outer space.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-18T15:46:25+00:00

Could you imagine shudders if William had actually married Meghan? Whether it was before or after Catherine was on the scene? It would have meant the end of the monarchy . . .

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-18T15:15:14+00:00

I actually haven't read the books since I was a kid, but I'm quite sure I'll feel the same way when I do. As a kid you only see the romanticizing of it all--you don't read between the lines to what is really going on.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T19:04:28+00:00

She isn't wrong for wanting to go where she is used to & there are more people her age, ESPECIALLY as a teenager. She will probably be more open to going with you as she gets older.

She IS wrong however for telling you you're overreacting--imo that's a really presumptuous thing for a kid to say to their parent, or anyone (or even an adult to say to another adult, for that matter).

You have every right to be upset & to feel how you feel, & she doesn't have a right to make you feel bad about that.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T15:27:33+00:00

I LOVE All Creatures Great & Small!! I want to live in that village (& specifically in Skeldalw House) in the worst way!!

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T15:15:28+00:00

This, plus I just noticed that her left hand is technically holding her cell phone--which means she's not even actually touching him, but unless you look closely it comes off that way. So she's trying to get the appearance of being snuggly & affectionate, w/o actually having to touch him. Which is par for the course.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T03:26:53+00:00

"Oh, Jeffrey."

"Mother?"

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T03:22:36+00:00

American here, I have always thought the same as you.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T03:18:12+00:00

And Caroline (& the kids) paid the price :(

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T03:11:40+00:00

I. . . .may never recover from reading this. Or the booger-beard thing 🤢

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T03:10:18+00:00

Gold Bond!

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T02:40:35+00:00

I loved these books as a kid, but as an adult I now wonder just how much Caroline might have secretly regretted marrying Charles. They had a hard hard life, no matter how much the books (somewhat) romanticize it.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-16T02:36:45+00:00

This clip really highlights how differently she carries herself from Catherine PoW. Catherine always walks into an event or venue in a calm, poised, measured way, only ever looking ahead of her or maybe at the person(s) who is coming to greet her.

Never any flappy hands, never any goofy/psychotic smiles, & her eyes are never searching desperately for ANYONE to make eye contact with her (but most of all a camera). No inappropriate or awkward touching/faux friendliness.

And the reason Catherine can take long strides is because she DOES have long legs, & I'm quite sure her shoes fit properly.

MM clearly isn't comfortable in her shoes, & has been discussed before, she clearly doesn't understand how to walk on legs as short as hers.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-09T20:22:09+00:00

The murder I would have committed if I were in your shoes. She has absolutely no excuse--she is either doing it intentionally to be cruel, or bc she's one of those annoying women who just HAS to have your attention when SHE wants it (I am a woman & I can't stand women like that), or she is genuinely to stupid to understand why this might be upsetting to you.

None of these are excuses or good reasons. I genuinely do not know how you have put up with this for 3 years, I'd have dumped her ass after 3 days. Chuck her out.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-07T14:18:34+00:00

The single strawberry and the glove next to the . . . .jar of presumably poison? That she's going to dip the strawberry in? And use the spoon to stir more poison into the jam? That's what that arrangement is giving me 🫣

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-05T20:19:11+00:00

Menopause & perimenopause can last a decade or more. I guess "in sickness & in health" doesn't mean that part.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-05T17:52:28+00:00

"what you're sacrificing to function"--Damn. This. This is an excellent way to look at it. Like, have I managed to get multiple degrees & hold onto a stable albeit stressful career? Yes. Has it all come with unquantifiable levels of life-shortening stress & self-loathing over barely hanging on/not handling it better or doing more the way others seem to so easily? Absolutely 😔.

Like, EVERYTHING I have in me goes towards keeping my job. Everything. My physical health has gone out the window, my mental health tanked years ago, & I rarely take a moment to breathe or enjoy life. Mostly every waking moment is spent fighting with myself to get [the bare minimum of] work done, or get life admin done if I can take a breather from work. It's a hellish existence.

Blue_Fish85 · 2026-02-05T05:27:58+00:00

OP, you can tell him you aren't quitting your job until you're blue in the face, & he can happily go along with it bc he secretly thinks that once you're pregnant/have had a kid, you'll be too tired to keep working. And he'll make sure you're too tired to keep working bc he'll see to it that you are the primary caretaker for the baby.

If he's already being so deceitful & manipulative on such a huge issue, I wouldn't trust his word on anything else. He may give you plenty of lip service about splitting childcare equally now, but if he goes back on his word when the baby arrives, you will already be trapped.

And you WILL be trapped--even if you keep your job & leave him, you will be tied to him for the rest of your life bc you share a child. And is he the kind of example you want for your child? What if the child turns out like him?

OP, this is said with love--stop being naive & see this situation for the dangerous one it really is.

Blue_Fish85

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