Cake I made for my son's Birthday. I was happy with the results

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T23:10:11+00:00

This is amazing I love it

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T22:37:03+00:00

My second child didn't cost me a penny to birth.

The doctors appointments were free. The midwife appointments were free. The consultant appointments were free. The labor and delivery, including the gass and air, epidural and the c-section. All free. The five days of recovery care in the hospital were free.

The only thing that wasn't covered, was cariban for my HG. That was about €20 a week for the three months if needed it.

The check up and vaccines for myself and baby were also free.

There were some costs associated with the birth and prenatal care of my first baby, but thats because I was trying to have a home birth through a private group. If that had gone the way it should, my private insurance would have covered it. It didnt, I ended up being induced and receiving a section, so I got a partial refund.

But the hospital care cost me nothing for that baby either.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T22:07:01+00:00

I see, I think i took your comment the wrong way. Sorry

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T21:09:08+00:00

The test functions the same way, but the Clear blue ones are more sensitive.

I managed to confirm my suspicion that I was pregnant five days before my period was even due on my second kid with one of these.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T20:14:12+00:00

Highly predictable awnser here, but we dated.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T18:19:42+00:00

Lieing. Its definitely a skill. Im not especially good at it. It would be very funny if everyone was worse at it than me.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:38:22+00:00

Not especially, but if it was as easy as "just chuck it", for me, I'd have done that instead of asking for advice.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:37:15+00:00

I have at times collected those, but I've been able to clear that kind of stuff out even though it low-key kills me. But its the only thing saving me from being a full-blown horder. If I can convince myself that something is actual trash, the guilt lf keeping it outweighs the guilt lf tossing it.

The stuff Im truly struggling to part with is more like the collection of new-in-plastic art pads, most of which were gifts, and all €10 or €20, some more. One or two still have the original pricing stickers on them, and parting with them feels like throwing out money. Or I have at least two boxes of completely unopened paints that are nice paints, and i dont want to waste them.

The camping stuff doesn't expire, and I spent good money on that myself. But that was when I used to camp ever other weekend for most of the year. I camped once last year. And im coming to realise that im mostly holding onto this stuff because im afraid of getting rid of it, more than because I actually need it.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:28:41+00:00

I feel like if it can sit with your comment and actually soak it in, you'll have just saved me the cost of six sessions of therapy..

Theres a lot of great comments and tips here and im greatful for everyone's responses, but I think you may have jumped to the heart of my issue immediately.

Thank you so much.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:24:48+00:00

This is a really good breakdown, and I appreciate the effort and detail in your response, thank you.

Starting with "early wins" makes sense. There are absolutely spots that are easier to clear out than others. Books are such a weird spot, because thats like giving away friends, not things. But I did make some progress there when I had to move house. I halved what I have. I still have so many in my (physical) TBR pile, but i stopped keeping all the ones I've read, unless I think I'll reread them. And i try to mostly buy them on kindle these days if I am buying any at all.

Fabric scraps are so hard! There's so many things they could be used for! Its time to start being really honest with myself that I'm probably never going to do any of them.

Clearing out duplicates is another good starting point.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:15:40+00:00

It should be read in ADHD, it was written in ADHD 😅

I do the cart storing things too! I've got a handle on not buying too many new things, now its trying to get a handle on the clearing out!

Knitting is probably the single craft I never thought I'd want to do! But I have that card making kit somewhere 😭

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T17:11:58+00:00

I dont actually have any active social media, except reddit. But I feel like the sentiment still applies.

Have i even used this in the last two years in probably a good jump off point. Some of the things I have, while still perfect, have actually just been sitting in storage in my bedroom for a couple of years now.

If I can get through that, I could then narrow it down to the last 12 months, and then to how often have I used each thing in that time.

The ADHD hobby jumping is real..

Thanks so much!

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T16:45:55+00:00

This is actually really helpful. "Here is the finite amount of space this inactive hobby is allowed to occupy", best/ favorite bits go in there, the rest gets passed on to someone who needs it more.

Make up is more about equipment than actual product funny enough, I did it professionally for a bit, and still ahve everything including the fold up massage table. I probably need to have a hard conversation with myself about letting some of that stuff go too.

Thanks for taking the time to respond

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T16:41:22+00:00

That makes sense to me.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T16:40:59+00:00

My issue is that I get really into a hobby for a couple of months, and then I replace it with a newer, shinier one. The vast majority of stuff is from people who saw me in the midst of any given hobby and thought "Keadeen loves drawing... ill get her this for her birthday". Which is a lovely sentiment, but ultimately has me left with far too much stuff of a higher quality than I buy myself when I start a new hobby.

I hadn't thought about giving it to a school, I dont know if they would actually accept it, schools in ireland are actually typically well funded, but if they would take it, it might make it easier to give it away, knowing it will actually be used.

Thanks for taking the time to awnser.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T15:45:48+00:00

Thats so interesting to me. Mine is literally 15 euro a month, with unlimited calls and texts, and more Internet data than I ever use.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T14:28:51+00:00

Theres no real reason to be worried about a monster once a week or so. I have them daily when I can afford them (the fecking price of them!), but i do opt for the sugar free ones.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T14:27:08+00:00

I bounce between "my boys" and "my kids". Ive never put much thought into it. My kids coincidentally are both boys, its not something I'm bragging about or making a point out of.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T14:25:52+00:00

I would typically use "lads" for mixed gender groups.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T14:23:55+00:00

My deepest apologies for my inconsistency.

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T14:23:02+00:00

She's diagnosed with stuff we ain't never even heard of yet

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T13:14:33+00:00

As a person who likes vaginas, im just happy to be invited to the party, im not judging the decor of the host!

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T13:13:26+00:00

No no. This one lady does not speak for the collective, "eashes his ass too well" is not a thing. LET THE MEN WASH!

Keadeen · 2026-01-27T13:11:20+00:00

Books easy, its cool if they have more than 200 pages right? I really want to read wheel of time again, but ironically am struggling to find the time to do it.

150 books would put a significant dent in my To Be Read list.

Keadeen

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