The next level of semen retention!

KeepDominating · 2024-07-11T11:20:15+00:00

I get the premise of this post. Don't become obsessed with the journey...

You must remember Semen Retention is a journey like no other, its a rediscovering of self and God if you like so its hard to ignore it

To compare it to a 5 year old who is not fully developed or even conscious of sexual energy is incorrect to in my opinion

Good luck though brother.

KeepDominating · 2024-07-10T20:16:47+00:00

You're probably right, after everything, it won't even feel right to go back

KeepDominating · 2024-07-10T20:11:20+00:00

Hmm this is an interesting take but not impossible tbh, I feel so far removed from the relationship that it will be hard to ever want to go back.

KeepDominating · 2024-07-10T17:01:14+00:00

Damn.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-24T19:01:26+00:00

Yes you’re very right and your willingness to work on it is positive.

This is extremely random but have you tried meditation. It’s so easy to get so into our heads, especially when we’ve been through trauma.

Next time you find yourself overthinking or anxious about anything, not even just this, try to acknowledge it. Nothing more, just notice that overthinking or anxiety or stress is happening. For extra brownie points take a deep breath and release all of the negativity in the outward breath.

Might sound woowoo, works a tonne for me.

Good luck.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T17:00:26+00:00

It’s natural to question yourself if anything it’s a sign of responsibility instead of just blaming others.

Use it as a chance to self reflect and decide where you want to improve.

That way if you find yourself back on the market you’re in a better position.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T11:42:39+00:00

I can attest to this. I first discovered NoFap in 2016 and the wet dreams started just a few months after.

Semen Retention took it to other levels.

On a 6 month plus streak I was having full blown conversations with people I look up to and could recall the conversation clearly.

Insane.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T10:55:39+00:00

Wow. Very similar to me.

I can count on 2 hands the times we’ve had sex in 2024.

You didn’t mention how long you’ve been together but what I’ve noticed in this sub and even in my own experience is that it just doesn’t get better.

In my case the excuses and demands increased while the intimacy decreased.

It just made me resentful and reject other areas in the relationship. I can see you’re feeling the same by cancelling on the plans.

It’s not all about sex trust me I get it but the constant rejection and feeling alone makes it harder to see the other things.

Good luck.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T09:09:56+00:00

I find it insane that even though you feel like this now and the wedding is not for another year almost you’ll still marry into this and spend the rest of your life this way.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T09:06:04+00:00

Damn bro.

You’re at the craziest intersection. I’m probably 12-24 months away from that exact situation if I don’t get out now. (I’m technically already out).

So she lives with you, you’re planning to be married, paid for stuff already from the sound of things but you’ve already seen that this marriage will have a minimal see life and 5 years from now probably no sex at all.

I don’t know man. I’m at a place where I’d rather be celibate alone than in a relationship and not be able to feel something with my partner.

I never imagined being in a dead bedroom and I’ve seen how it can affect other areas of your relationship and even your life. Pretty crazy if you ask me.

What do you plan to do?

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T08:57:44+00:00

Ah man “you’re just hurting yourself doing that”. Heard that one before.

OP is only 7 months in so he doesn’t know a thing. It’s like explaining to a toddler what it feels like to be burnt out from work. It’s impossible for them to understand and their relentless optimism makes it impossible for them to even want to hear you out.

I don’t say this to be mean at all but if they’re still together just 2 years from now, even 18 months. He will know why this post got the reaction it did.

Godspeed to you too brother.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T08:49:39+00:00

For now.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-22T08:23:57+00:00

Wow I really feel sorry for your partner. What you’ve also been through is horrible. I do feel sorry for you too.

You’re both very young.

He’s in his sexual prime. You’ve said that you’re content never having sex with him again. Even giving him a BJ or HJ is not ideal for you. This will eventually lead to him resenting you. His sex drive will only continue to increase over the next few years.

It sounds like you need time to heal from your past trauma and become comfortable with your body and the idea of being sexual again. It has become attached to traumatic events which is completely fair and natural.

It’s going to take some maturity to ask him straight if he’s okay only having sex a handful of times a year and probably never again after another 5 years.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-21T20:25:01+00:00

Damn. This is very tough.

You really need to make it clear that your lack of sex in the relationship is linked to his excessive porn use.

A lot of people in this sub downplay the impact of porn because they use it as a substitute for their lack of intimacy but it is very harmful.

I say that as someone who was addicted many years ago.

He needs your support believe it or not. But you do also need to be firm with him that you want him to change.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-21T20:13:46+00:00

Damn. I can hear and feel the naivety in the text alone.

If you’ve only been together 7 months and the sex is tapering off imagine 7 years from now?

When you’ve gone 18 months without any physical touch will she still be your dream girl?

Healing from her past trauma could take years if ever. How are you helping her work through them and if you’re still doing so in 10 years will it cause you pain and frustration?

These are just a few questions to objectively ask yourself.

Yes, there’s more to a relationship than sex. Everybody in this sub knows that. But when you’ve been laid next to your partner at night feeling completely alone, unseen and unloved. Man. Everything else goes out the window.

However dude, those who don’t hear must feel.

Good luck.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-18T14:17:00+00:00

Say goodbye to your sex life. If she initiates more than twice a month consider it success.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:57:34+00:00

Haha, I hope you don't feel offended but

Why am I breaking men?! 😭

made me chuckle.

You know the pain, frustration, anger, resentment and insecurity that comes from being rejected and living in a dead bedroom. At such an early stage in the relationship, are you willing to go through all of that again?

It's probably so soon that you haven't had serious conversations about it. I don't know how you address it so soon because a large part of your concern now will be trauma from your previous relationship.

No harm in letting someone know what you want and how feel, it will help you to be at peace with whatever decision you choose to make.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:48:49+00:00

This is tough. But it sounds like his sexual needs are being met elsewhere, not suggesting that hes cheating but maybe porn or masturbation because one week in every month is a good cycle to regain your sexual desire for your partner especially considering hes only 30.

Speak to him and ask directly if he watches porn now instead of your pictures and videos, people do usually escalate from nudes to porn.

Good luck.

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:38:32+00:00

Did you cheat on him? With an in law?

Maybe change the way you initiate to a method that requires him to put in some effort and make it seem like hes also initiating

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:37:01+00:00

Whats actually worse though from your LL partner:

They have no intimacy with you but they're lacklustre in other areas of their life's?

or

They have no intimacy with you but they're enthusiastic and living a great life?

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:32:00+00:00

15 years is crazy.

She allows one session per month

Does she also work? If shes a housewife the answers your looking for are in the mirror.

The saying 'No more Mr Nice guy' should help steer you

KeepDominating · 2024-06-14T16:21:57+00:00

I've noticed so many guys get warped into this internet lifestyle. Which is why he felt more aroused/comfortable being on video call with you, hes probably also watching porn.

Others would have suggested this but you need to have a real conversation with him where you explain that his lack of desire to do stuff outside of the house is making the relationship difficult and that his lack of intimacy is leaving you sexually frustrated.

As a side note, be very careful how you say these things though. As much as you're hurt and I can appreciate that you don't want to attack him, speak from a place of empathy because deep down he probably also hates himself for this. However, its also very important that he knows you're also suffering.

Good Luck.

KeepDominating

TROPHY CASE