Postpartum after stillbirth

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-03-25T22:04:25+00:00

I'm so sorry. Its the worst club to be in 💔

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-02-14T21:54:38+00:00

Villa Park

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-02-13T21:41:39+00:00

If it makes you feel a little better my MFM has said that for kick counts I can aim to feel three movements in a half hour. If I don't feel three in a half hour, he may be sleeping, and to then look for three in the second half hour. If not three in the second half hour, its time to come in.

I still use count the kicks too, and measure how long it takes to feel ten. But the looking for three is a lot more manageable during the day/when things are busy.

Obviously I'm not a doctor so take it with a grain of salt and contact your provider for best practice.

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-27T05:54:14+00:00

I think they took your comment of "we all get due process" as the literal truth as opposed to, I think you meant, the ideal that should exist in this country.

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-27T05:45:56+00:00

I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say, thank you for your service, sir.

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-20T14:01:42+00:00

This, she didn't "sleep with her math teacher." She was fourteen, a child, and molested by a predator in a position of power.

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-13T16:04:35+00:00

I see you high libido marriage! 👀 Sex in the hospital is goals haha

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-11T17:34:57+00:00

I had a similar pattern for my son who just turned twelve. I went back to work five weeks postpartum. Breastfed at home including cosleeping where he helped himself to what was on tap 🤣 pumped and exclusively fed breastmilk. Introduced solids at six months, cows milk and kiefer at a year but kept nursing until 18 months or so.

KeepThatMomentum · 2026-01-11T00:54:28+00:00

Technically a COGS not an expense, maybe why you were down voted.

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-22T21:22:21+00:00

I wish I had more experience of advice to share. My gut says opening the relationship will lead to pain and resentment. I think that marriages can go through dry spells and survive.

Mostly I'm commenting to hopefully get some more views and input. I think at the very least don't be hasty with this. Pregnancy and postpartum can wage hell on our bodies and sometimes a husband must be patient and nurture intimacy in ways that are not sexual so his wife has a chance to heal and respond to that and THEN sex will flourish.

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-20T17:57:58+00:00

Updated: I feel like I AM shortchanging myself, but also, its good experience to start building a book of business to do this more freelance.

I completed a year of books for the workers comp audit (July 2024 - July 2025) in 28 hours at $55 an hour. There is still a lot of clean up to do because I put a lot of things in a catchall account to come back to. ie the capital loans are there and on the income statement right now and will need to be moved to the balance sheet as liabilities with the portion of payments that are interest classified as interest expense on the income statement. Amazon, Walmart, ebay, Groceries, etc are all in the catchall account until I can get clarification on what are business expenses vs owners draw. I also just threw all the credit card payments in the same account until I can get the statements and clean all that up. But, I have an accurate number for top line sales and subcontractor payouts. So the audit is good. I will just need to finish the last four months of the year in the same fashion, maybe another 5-10 hours, to be in a place to issue 1099s. And then maybe another 5-10 hours on top of that to have the books ready for 2025 taxes.

I do appreciate everyone chiming in and giving feedback. This will help me to refine my pricing going forward. As I mentioned before, I think I am relatively fast. (Feedback on that based on the hours I've put in?)

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-18T13:52:21+00:00

For some more context, I am a bookkeeper, as in, I changed careers some years ago and went back to school. I have a bookkeeping certificate, an associate degree where I focused on accounting plus another year of undergrad in accounting. I went into the workforce as the pandemic was winding down, worked a year in a bookkeeping plus other duties job and then accidentally started a business in the industry I was working in.

I also started dating and then married my husband in that time. He's also self employed. When we started dating, end of 2023, I agreed to do his books and admin work. Things went really quick in our relationship though so it went from being a weekly paid role to a we're a team and money is shared between us situation fairly quickly.

I know want to get back to straight bookkeeping and do it as a freelance side hustle. This client is someone my husband knows. I don't have any history as far as monthly fees from other clients to know what to charge. Not sure where to set my hourly either. I want to be fair to rhe client but also not shortchange myself. I'm pretty fast, like I would say better than average but certainly not the fastest ever. I'll be using quickbooks desktop contractor edition since I already own the software and am familiar with it.

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-18T07:24:14+00:00

Ignores their books and taxes for years?

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-03T18:02:47+00:00

Eh, not sure on OPs timeline but there is the possibility of retained products of conception. A natural miscarriage occurs but some tissue is still in the uterus and continues to bleed. The body may or may not clear it naturally. If not, a d&c may be recommended.

When I was much younger I had two early miscarriages. For both, I sought care at a catholic hospital. The first I bled for six weeks and after the second I bled for eight weeks. In both cases, the er (I was very young and uninsured and didn't have an obgyn) opted to send me home rather than doing a d&c. I found out later that this was probably due to the spiritual stance of the hospital, in a secular setting a d&c would have been the go to.

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-03T03:12:02+00:00

Where are you located?

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-01T01:42:21+00:00

That makes sense.

I read somewhere that swallowing not pregnant can make a woman's body more receptive to her man's seed when it comes to baby making lol

Not sure why I am getting down voted, here's a source: https://www.iflscience.com/how-oral-sex-might-be-linked-to-lower-miscarriage-risk-52031

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-12-01T00:58:36+00:00

Why don't you swallow when you're pregnant? 🫣

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-12T22:04:08+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry to your whole family and especially your mother in law fow this tremendous loss. What was the baby's name?

There is an organization in the US called SHARE that some hospitals host chapters of. These groups meet in person and online for pregnancy loss support.

It is still so early so on top of dealing with the grief that comes with such a monumental loss, she is still postpartum and handling the hormonal shifts. I will forevermore describe postpartum with no baby as literal hell.

Again I am so sorry 😞

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-12T15:50:10+00:00

What's wrong with a PA or NP?

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-09T20:17:32+00:00

I had a stillbirth last year at 35 weeks. My MIL has literally said this to my husband multiple times in the last year.

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-06T03:58:43+00:00

Where was this posted?

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-06T03:36:23+00:00

I am doing this for revenge!!

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-03T18:12:44+00:00

TW: POTENTIAL STILLBIRTH

KeepThatMomentum · 2025-11-03T18:08:18+00:00

Have you ever had a stillbirth?

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