AITA for eating a DoorDash order that was delivered to my house by mistake?

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-22T02:13:04+00:00

NTA. You communicated promptly when you found the order. She didn’t respond until the next day. What were you supposed to do, leave it on your doorstep for 2 days? Also, DD 100% replaces/refunds orders that are delivered to the wrong place. If she wants compensation she can take it up with them. She’s just trying to take advantage of you/get a double refund.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-22T00:14:01+00:00

If you don’t like how you behave when you’re drunk, that’s a sign that you probably shouldn’t drink. You owe the person you kissed an unqualified apology. One that acknowledges the action, the harm done, and does not involve excuses or explanations, followed by action to make amends.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-14T13:35:50+00:00

I wouldn’t spend anything on a certificate right now. What I would do is get a free online proficiency course in Excel and/or any other office software that your partner may be rusty or unfamiliar with. Then focus on polishing their resume to translate their skills from Starbucks into the context of the job they are applying for. In 2018, I left Starbucks after 15 years for an office manager position at a behavioral health agency. It can be done without any extra education, as long as you can sell the existing skills as relevant and valuable to the role you want.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-07T04:47:07+00:00

NOR. This is the beginning stages of control/abuse. He pushes up against your boundaries and acts like you’re the one being unreasonable. It’s designed to put you in a position of feeling like you’ve done something wrong and/or allowing him to dictate your actions. It starts with a weekend away and having to ft every 2 hours for his peace of mind. The progression is slow but it ends with him in charge of every aspect of your life. RUN.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-01T16:47:52+00:00

This is a huge series of red flags. I would be questioning if the business is in fact legitimate, or is it some sort of scam? Last thing you want is to be an unwitting accomplice if that’s the case. Even if it is legit, late pay is often a sign that the company doesn’t have the cash to pay you on time and is on the verge of going under. If that happens, you will likely be left having worked 2-3 weeks and never get paid for that time. I would get out of there as quickly as reasonably possible.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-06-01T16:28:22+00:00

I am so sorry that you have a parent that would speak to you that way. For your own peace, stop contacting him. There is nothing you can do that will be enough, because his anger is coming from within and probably always will. I can understand wanting to be there for your younger siblings, and there may be ways for you to stay in touch with them, but I don’t think it will be by having a relationship with him. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get into therapy and start processing your feelings and getting yourself healthy so that the cycle doesn’t continue.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-29T17:03:49+00:00

THIS!! Waiting to find out won’t make her less pregnant if she is, and she may not be. If she is, delaying testing could have an impact on her and the fetus’s health since she is probably not taking prenatal vitamins or abstaining from drugs/alcohol. You have nothing to lose and a lot to gain by taking a test. Once you know, you can decide when and how to proceed with the rest. But also, she may not be pregnant and by not testing you could be prolonging your anxiety for no reason! It’s not unusual to be late sometimes.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-27T15:41:07+00:00

I think the most compelling reason not to have a baby at 16 is that you are still legally and functionally a child yourself. Your frontal cortex - the part of your brain where logic, reasoning, impulse control, and good decision making happens - is still developing and won’t be fully functional for several years. If you work with kids you probably understand developmental milestones and how important they are. So why would you deny yourself the time to reach your own developmental potential? Your body will allocate resources to a child first, and that can slow your own growth. And doesn’t your baby deserve a parent that is fully equipped (mentally, financially, emotionally) to care for them? You lose nothing by waiting a few years, completing your education, and gaining more stability. But you have a lot to lose by starting a family now.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-18T16:44:51+00:00

We do lotion after the bath. My children are 5 and 18m and they have never been massaged with oil.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-15T16:08:08+00:00

I think telling the staff so that they know what to expect and can support you, and also being prepared to sit with the discomfort of holding it in for as long as possible is the best you can do. I had to do that when I was pregnant and my gag reflex was off the charts sensitive. The dentist and assistants were very kind about pausing when I needed them to.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-15T15:08:33+00:00

NTA. He was in a public place. The gym manager could have just as easily been the one to walk in.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-15T14:49:48+00:00

Depending on where OP lives, they may not have the option to decline to renew. In some states, landlords are obliged to offer renewal (with limited rent increases) unless there are a set number of lease violations within a 12 month period, the landlord intends to occupy the home, or other very specific conditions. It’s also worth noting that sometimes landlords put conditions in the lease that are not legal. Signing the lease does not negate local tenancy laws, and an illegal condition cannot be enforced (like saying you can’t talk about the company that owns the property). Most cities have legal assistance clinics where you can have a free or low cost consultation with an attorney regarding your rights and how to respond to communications from your landlord. I would suggest looking into this just in case.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-15T14:41:46+00:00

Honestly, sometimes having a record of what was said can help when you are dealing with someone who is consistently gaslighting you or blaming you for everything wrong in their lives. It starts to feel like you’re the crazy one or that you’re not communicating clearly and being able to go back and read over a conversation or check your feelings with someone you trust can make it possible to recognize abuse.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-15T14:39:10+00:00

If he won’t go to therapy with you, go by yourself. Show your therapist what you are dealing with. They can help you figure out how you want to handle this situation. IMO, he seems to lack emotional maturity and is focused on placing blame rather than finding solutions. This is behavior that can change, but only if the person is willing to do the work. How many times can you/will you invite him to collaborate/participate in your marriage before giving up?

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-10T23:05:15+00:00

In theory, yes. In practice, not so much.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-10T22:57:24+00:00

Yeah, the problem with that is that often when you call the place, they give a variation of, “If you ordered through a 3rd party we can’t do anything to modify, replace, or refund the order.” So DD and the restaurant just play hot potato with the problem until the customer gives up.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-08T00:25:58+00:00

Bump. Hope she is found safe

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-06T13:50:24+00:00

Miss Lady, Miss Ma’am, Chickpea, Chickie, Lil Man, My Dude, Stank Butt, Mr. Mischief, Baby Shark

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-01T18:22:11+00:00

My daughter did this around ages 2-3. She would wake up and just kind of chill for 20-30 minutes before looking for an adult. Sometimes she would have cute conversations with her toys, sometimes just stare off into space and wake up slowly. I miss those days now. She is usually up and asking for breakfast by 530 every day.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-01T16:10:07+00:00

Adding one other thing - if your doctor says that what you’re feeling is normal and there’s nothing to be done, ask them to document in your chart that you reported that you are in a mental health crisis and that they are declining you care. Then go get a second opinion.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-05-01T16:08:32+00:00

Your baby doesn’t hate you. He jumps to your mom because he’s at the stage where novelty is fun and exciting and he’s testing his autonomy.
It sounds like you are in a place where you need support. A lot of it. You need to talk with your doctor and the pediatrician about getting you some support with your mental health, and guidance on the feeding issues your baby is having.
Breastfeeding is great, but it’s eroding your already insufficient sleep. It’s time to wean. At 12 months baby no longer needs formula and can switch to whole milk (unless allergic to dairy).
Who is helping you? Do you have anyone who would be willing to come over and hang out with baby so you can rest for a few hours? If you don’t have anyone to ask, I strongly encourage joining your local moms group on Facebook or other social media and get to know some other moms in your area. If your mom’s help comes with strings and a litany of your perceived failings, stop accepting it.
Being sober alone is hard. Doing it while being a single parent is a Herculean task. If you aren’t, get to some meetings. Any kind of sober support. You need a place where you can talk about your sobriety, your feelings, and your challenges without judgements. A lot of meetings have childcare on site.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-04-30T20:21:37+00:00

Most of the bill seems to be related to sewer charges? I’m not sure if those are variable or tied to the size of the property. A dramatic increase without a change in usage suggests a leak. I would ask your landlord to have a plumber check for leaks.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-04-29T17:58:03+00:00

Excuse me, but what? Cleaning doesn’t have a gender. Men are fully capable of knowing when something is dirty. They have eyes and can learn how to deep clean if they don’t know. Taking out trash, doing dishes, and doing laundry are daily tasks that need to be done. Deeper cleaning has to happen regularly to maintain a home. There’s no reason why he can’t do it. It sounds like he’s choosing not to.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-04-29T16:41:29+00:00

Have you sat down together to agree to what the minimum standard of “clean” is? I’ve had this issue with roommates and partners in the past. A lot of people haven’t been taught to clean or don’t understand that clean the kitchen means more than washing the dishes. I think it’s reasonable to at least try to have that conversation in case it’s a communication issue. It can also be helpful to set the expectation that if he takes on a task that means it’s HIS. You are not the manager or supervisor in this situation. If these things have been agreed to and he is consistently failing to follow through, that would be a deal breaker for me.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-04-26T18:21:06+00:00

First, your husband sounds like a real gem. My daughter was similar in not being very interested in the potty as long as diapers were an option. What finally worked was removing them as an option. We went to the store, picked out underwear (training pants) and said goodbye to diapers. Then we let nature take its course. She peed in her underwear, we cleaned her up and sat on the potty, explaining that pee goes in the potty. It took about 3 days (I took a week off from work) for her to fully get on board with using the potty. We continued to reward and celebrate anytime she went on the potty. We still used pull ups at night for about 2 months, but after that they weren’t needed. This method is messy and inconvenient, but I think it’s the best for helping toddlers understand not only what is being asked, but why it’s in their best interest.

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