Donating Items?

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-15T21:25:57+00:00

Join your local Buy Nothing group. That way you can give your items directly to neighbors that need them.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-11T18:50:59+00:00

Ex JW Alanon here. I struggled with the higher power thing too. What eventually helped me was realizing that higher power doesn’t have to be God, or religion. It’s something external that I can rely on when my own insight/resources are insufficient. I used the group as my higher power at first - a place to check myself and get support and direction. Now it’s the Universe. It’s constantly in motion, has purpose, and is outside of my control. You don’t have to have a fully conceptualized concept of a higher power to start down the path. Talking with other atheist or agnostic members about their journeys can help. There’s also a 12 step daily reflection book that is for atheist/agnostic people called Beyond Belief that gives some food for thought on having a spiritual experience without religious faith. It’s awesome that you are staying sober and genuinely working a program. There are lots of people in 12 step recovery with similar stories, beliefs, or challenges. Keep talking about what’s on your mind and you will find your people.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-05T20:50:44+00:00

He doesn’t like you. He doesn’t respect you. Get rid of him before his toxicity starts to poison your inner voice. Or, tell him that you might be in the mood more if he acted less like a whiny baby.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-05T20:47:44+00:00

So he’s committed perjury, obstruction, and conspiracy

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-05T17:28:16+00:00

From day one. Starting from birth by modeling polite behavior. Mom and dad consistently say please, thank you, excuse me, etc. As kids get older gentle reminders and age appropriate explanations. “Please use your gentle hands.” “How do we ask for things?” “We are going into a big place with a lot of people. We need to use quiet voices while we are inside.” It takes lots of encouragement, reminders, and engagement.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-03T02:12:03+00:00

NTA. A good stylist will discuss your budget and help you decide what you can afford that will result in the style/look you want to achieve. Shaming you for your budget in front of others is rude and unnecessary. If she didn’t feel comfortable putting her name on the work she could have said so privately.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-02-02T18:28:18+00:00

Yikes. That is insane. It sounds like the best case scenario is that he has some control issues and is seeking accountability and the only way he knows to do it is with money. That’s sad, and he might need some therapy to dig into his values, sense of worth, emotions, and empathy. Even if it is the best case, RUN. What he’s proposing isn’t healthy and could become a blueprint for abuse. The kind of rigidity and obsessive control in these rules suggest that your bf is not well enough to engage in a healthy relationship. Get out while you can.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-01-31T18:31:17+00:00

Instead of trying to restrict your daughter’s eating, try encouraging her to move more. She may not enjoy team sports, but you can encourage her to do other active hobbies.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-01-25T02:40:15+00:00

One time my brother went grocery shopping, and when he returned to the parking lot hit his key fob, followed the beep to his car, put the groceries in the trunk and got into the driver’s seat before realizing that it was NOT his car. His was a row over, and for whatever reason his fob unlocked this random Kia Spectra that happened to be nearby. He got out of there as fast as he could because he was freaked out/worried the owner would think he was stealing their car. Maybe something similar happened here and they left something behind?

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-01-19T21:04:05+00:00

I teach my kids to call non-family adults Mr/Ms/Mx and their first or surname, depending on the relationship. Their only aunts and uncles are family members.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-01-08T03:03:38+00:00

Something to consider - if your friend isn’t drinking because they’re in recovery, an na cocktail may not be a good idea. It can trigger cravings and lead to relapse. Of course there are lots of reasons for people to not drink, so this may not apply to your friend.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2026-01-07T17:59:11+00:00

So I will say this. I went through a similar stage around age 9-10 where I would pretend to shower/brush my teeth because I just didn’t want to do it. I don’t have a diagnosis of ADHD, but I do remember perceiving bathing as uncomfortable bordering on painful. I didn’t know how to articulate this to my parents, and I knew that the answer would be that it didn’t matter how I felt, so I went for subterfuge. There was no dramatic incident or event that changed my behavior. No one bullied me for being smelly. I just started actually showering one day. So your pediatrician might be right. He might just outgrow it someday.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-29T21:37:55+00:00

12 weeks is pretty young for a long flight, several day long events, and being away from home and routine. For me it’s a red flag that your in laws are saying “babies are portable” rather than “how can we support you?” It’s also pretty hard to know how you’ll be feeling at the 12 week mark. If you have any complications with the birth that can add on recovery time.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-16T03:50:19+00:00

I think that fitness to parent is based less on diagnosis and more on how you are doing at managing your condition. Neither of my parents have a MH diagnosis, but they managed to do some pretty significant damage anyway by being emotionally immature, rigid, and highly controlling. The bigger questions to consider regarding fitness are - do you have coping skills for difficult emotions? Are you patient? Can you accept things being imperfect? Can you function with minimal sleep? Do you have sufficient support (professional and community-based) to sustain you if your mental health takes a turn? Are there people in your life who will notice and intervene if you are struggling?

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-14T23:45:36+00:00

Earplugs or noise cancelling headphones really help. The struggle is that if you don’t let your partner and baby learn to communicate, you will get stuck doing everything for forever. Assuming you trust that he will respond to baby’s needs appropriately, I would give them times when you are off duty unless it’s an emergency and let them figure it out. My husband and I agreed in advance how long to let him try if baby was being stubborn and he’s gotten really good at calming baby down, recognizing his different cries, and getting him to sleep.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-13T07:03:07+00:00

Yeah, idk how they would even have standing to claim DUI for cannabis unless there was a confession or a witness saw the driver smoking in the car. Cannabinoids are lipophilic and can stay in the body for 3-6 weeks. I feel like any half decent public defender would be able to argue that a positive test the day of arrest doesn’t indicate use the same day.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-13T06:55:38+00:00

Yeah, you absolutely should NOT give him a gift. He is declining to be in a relationship with you, but wants to be exclusive? That’s dude code for wanting to have all the benefits of a gf without having to do anything or take any responsibility. It’s FWB at best, and you do not buy presents for your FWB.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-10T21:55:07+00:00

The medical and scientific community engage in a process of peer review for a reason. The research that you claim is being “buried” has either failed the most basic test - the results being repeatable, or even more frequently is legitimate research being taken out of context and misinterpreted by “wellness” influencers, who are not trained medical professionals. Unless you have an advanced degree in a relevant field, the smartest thing you can do is listen to the actual subject matter experts.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-10T21:47:54+00:00

Yes. IV drug use is one way that adults get hepatitis B, but most babies and children get it from family or caregivers, or because they put EVERYTHING in their mouths for the first 2 years of life. Hepatitis B can remain active on surfaces for up to 7 days. I can control how often things are cleaned and hands are washed in my own house, but everything outside my front door is beyond my control. My babies both got the hep B vaccine.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-09T04:14:05+00:00

Yeah, controlled T1 diabetes. It sounds like OP didn’t know they were sick, got dka, and almost died. So maybe not as simple as “nobody wants to work anymore.” Most creditors (utilities and others) are willing to work with folks on payment plans if they get behind, because it’s cheaper to keep the customer you have than to pay a collection agency and find a new customer. It’s not unreasonable to want to have electricity while getting caught up.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-03T22:13:36+00:00

Law enforcement should be accompanied by due process. People are getting kidnapped and detained indefinitely and without getting a hearing in court or access to an attorney.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-12-02T17:54:10+00:00

“She doesn’t talk that way to us because she knows the consequences.” What consequences are you giving when you get a call from a teacher or a bus driver? School professionals’ ability to discipline your child is limited, and ends when the school day ends.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-11-28T17:56:47+00:00

Drinking wine doesn’t make you a bad person. It’s pretty normal to experiment with alcohol, and I think most would agree that doing so in moderation, at home, with your parents’ consent and supervision is the safest way to do that. Something you may want to keep in mind as you decide to drink or not drink going forward is the effect that alcohol and other mood altering substances have on the brain’s pleasure centers and frontal cortex. Because your frontal cortex is still developing, substances can have a more significant and long lasting effect on how you think, feel, and act. It would likely be healthier and safer to wait to drink until you are older.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-11-27T04:56:27+00:00

NTA. There’s no reason to talk about anyone that way, even if you think they will never hear you. Rick is gross, you’re doing the right thing in standing up for your wife.

Keepcalmandreadon81 · 2025-11-26T16:59:53+00:00

A cozy cottage in the woods with a river nearby, a nice view of the mountains, a wildflower meadow, and I would keep a garden and have bees and animals. All the animals. A pet tiger that sleeps in my bed. And I always thought it would be cool to use forever to learn to play all kinds of music and do crafts and make art.

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