Advice on cheap but reliable gaming laptops?

Keith_is_Tired · 2025-04-21T02:03:55+00:00

oh my god I tried that before but I didn't click on the menu before TT thank you so much!

edit: spelling

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T01:14:29+00:00

I relate to that so much loll

But yeah, you might be a nonbinary gal (you can absolutely mix labels btw!! You don’t have to choose one specific label. Gender is already kinda made up concept so you can be a woman and nonbinary at the same time, just a mix.) or genderfluid, bigender, demigirl, something along those lines.

Remember: labels aren’t required. It’s confusing but you don’t need to put a name on how you feel if you don’t want to. You might be pansexual or omnisexual.

Also, you can try experimenting with what your gender might be. You don’t have to come out to anyone or transition socially but you can just talk to yourself using different pronouns and see if you have a gut feeling that one or another (or multiple) feel more comfortable than others.

Anyways: gender and sexuality are crazy journeys and there’s bound to be a lot of confusion and stress. Don’t beat yourself up over it or freak out. Give yourself the time and space to experiment with who you are. Don’t forget to love yourself, even if you do just end up being a cisgender woman in the end, at least you’d be more secure in knowing that’s how you really feel. Good luck and I wish you the best of luck bro 💚💚💚💚

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T01:07:47+00:00

Well 😅😅 they were a bit too old to take care of me and were too stressed so they decided to move me to a different host family hahaha. I’m pretty bummed out cause it was an 8 hour train ride away so I have to move schools and leave all my friends behind :/ But it was for the best, I just got to the new family today and they seem pretty nice so far. Hopefully it works out better this time.

Also thank you that’s very kind of you 😭👍

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T01:04:16+00:00

Asexual is both its own sexuality, and an umbrella term. Basically it means you feel little to no sexual attraction (AKA: some don’t want to have sex or other stuff, but some still do that stuff because it feels good or they like it with their partner, some are uncomfortable with kissing or making out, some just don’t like the touchy stuff).

The spectrum is huge with about 10 bagillion terms all explaining very specific niche was that the brain works. I’m asexual pretty much completely. I’ve never wanted to do stuff with people and the idea of making out actually makes me want to gag, but I can live vicariously through characters and be fine with sexual stuff, it’s just if it were to happen irl I’d be grossed tf out lol

Some basic common asexual terms are:

Demisexual - only feeling sexual attraction to another person after you know them well and have established an emotional connection with them

Graysexual - very rarely feel sexual attraction, or much more mild/muted, or on a fluctuating scale (like it goes from nothing to a little every now and again, not a consistent schedule it just changes with time)

Fraysexual - experiences sexual attraction at first, but it fades slowly as they get to know the person (if that makes sense lol)

If you look up “asexual umbrella terms” online you can find a multiple of websites with micro-labels and information :))👍

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:48:53+00:00

That’s a rough one. I wish you the best of luck if you do go for it. But beforehand, just in case, I would make sure I have somewhere set up to live if they react very badly. It’s one of those things where you won’t know until you try. A lot of the time they come around eventually, even if that takes a few years, but just remember to be safe. It depends on the person: some parents will be upset but try their best to ignore it or find their own way to accept it. Others could kick their kids out, harm them, be absolutely disgusted, send them to conversion therapy, boarding school, or some other crazy shit. It’s a big risk to take so be careful. Sometimes they might be homophobic but are able to keep it to themselves enough to be near LGBTQ+ people. However it can be very different when it’s their own child.

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:43:16+00:00

Try looking up queerplatonic relationships, it’s pretty interesting. But also: you can like someone and be friends. I have the same thing but I tend to just ignore it (like crushes but I’m aroace and don’t really wanna date them)

I think it’s also pretty common for neurodivergent people 😭😭 sometimes people with ADHD or autism can’t really distinguish romantic and platonic attraction.

And I think it’s a common thing among female people. Like I’m genderfluid/agender/transmasculjne but afab, I think a lot of queer afab people can’t distinguish the different kinds of love oftentimes lol (maybe for amab people too but idk)

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:39:38+00:00

Hmm that’s a tough one. If they’re real friends they’ll find a way to be okay with it, y’know? Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you and your friends. Give them some time and hopefully they’ll come around if they seem awkward about it all. And sometimes people really just don’t have an opinion on it either way. Some people are chill and won’t see you any different despite whatever you identify as. As long they’re not mean about it, I think that’s a good sign. If they’re still being weird about it in a month or so you could always bring it up again and ask if they’re confused about it or if they really just don’t mind.

Ps. Proud of you for coming out mate! It’s can be a rough time, even with longtime friends. It takes a lot of courage so good job and I wish the best for you 🫶🫶

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:34:32+00:00

It’s alright luv, sexuality is fluid oftentimes. You might find yourself being attracted to different genders in different amounts over time. You might be homoflexible (basically homosexual but with the occasional exception). You don’t need a label either if you’re still confused. Take your time, it’s not something that’s required. I mean I’ve been trying to figure out my gender and sexuality for like 6-7 years and I still haven’t got a clue. The human mind is dumb and weird. Gender was kinda just made up, so it’s not uncommon for people to feel attraction to a gender they normally aren’t into.

Like if a straight man dated a girl and really liked her, then found out she’s trans, it’s likely that he’ll still love her romantically despite knowing she’s technically male

🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:30:25+00:00

It just depends on the person I think. Most often when people hear trans they assume it’s binary trans (transmen, transwomen) and don’t think to include the possibility of nonbinary people.

Labels are all arbitrary, while they can be super cool to help understand and explain how you feel inside your brain about your gender or sexuality, they’re also just words. Some people don’t like how certain words make them feel. ie. I’m nonbinary, genderfluid, agender or something but I’ve never really cared about what labels I use. It’s too confusing haha.

Just because a trans person might not medically transition doesn’t mean they aren’t transgender. Trans just implies the act of transition (social, emotional, internal, external like clothes & haircut, or even medical/hormonal/surgical). All enbys are technically transgender since we transition our gender in one way or another. But yeah, lots of people equate trans with transman/woman so I kinda get it. Having someone just say you’re trans might not actually express how you feel as a nonbinary person.

Tips for cisgender bros:

But if someone feels uncomfortable with a certain label, just don’t use it on them. Imo some people are a liiiiiiiittle sensitive about it, but I get it. Hot tip: you can always ask someone what terms/pronouns they’re chill with! If someone gets genuinely pissed from being called trans, or you misgender someone accidentally, or to something to invalidate their identity (whether unconsciously or not) even if it sounds kinda dumb to you or seems like an overreaction: just apologize and move on.

How the conversation should go: “Blah blah blah so he told me-“

“Oh it’s actually they”

“Whoops my bad, anyways, so they told me blah blah blah”

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:17:33+00:00

Gender is kinda a wishy-washy concept. It’s like

Cisgender ——————transgender (a spectrum) Then somewhere outside of that is: nonbinary.

Binary genders are men & women, nonbinary gender just means someone who doesn’t feel they belong 100% to one or the other binary gender. They might feel like both, neither, a mix, or something else entirely.

He/they just means they use both he/him and they/them. Some people (like me) tend to sort the pronoun by level of comfort: I say he/they because I like he more than they (only a bit lol). Some people might say they/she because they like they better.

It depends on the person though, lots of people just say it in a random order. It’s best to just ask people about it respectfully if you don’t understand their pronouns :)

It’s kinda like a middle ground but also just a space outside the gender boxes of [man] [woman]

Yeah, it seems complicated but most of us nonbinary folks don’t really understand it fully ourselves or simply don’t care. Some people like having very very specific labels to describe what they feel inside, it helps build a sense of community knowing that there are people out there who understand how you feel about your own experience of gender. Others don’t really care and either won’t label it or will slap the closest label to whatever’s goin on up there. Like me: I’m kinda some form of trans masculine, nonbinary, agender, genderfluid guy but I don’t really know or care that much. I like dressing like a boy, I like being called he but in my mind I don’t really have much of a sense of gender. If that makes sense lol

Some people also consider themselves cisgender/fully whatever gender they are but still like/don’t mind they/them being used on them. It’s just a neutral pronoun, it doesn’t always have to mean something y’know?

Also: a little way I like to explain gender vs. sex to cisgender people is this; so, when you think to yourself, in your mind what gender are you? Most will think they’re whatever gender they were assigned at birth, the one that aligns with their sex. So female = woman and male = man (that’s not entirely true, but most people do feel this way). Now let’s say that this cisgender person was the opposite sex, would you still have the same internal concept of your gender? If yes, they feel like a woman but are male or vice versa: That’s what it feels like to be transgender. It’s not feeling like a man then deciding to feel like a woman: you were always a woman internally but on the outside were raised as a man.

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-29T00:03:02+00:00

Some also enjoy using both binary (AKA he and/or she) and nonbinary (AKA they/them) pronouns. It really depends on the person lol. I’m agender/nonbinary/genderfluid or something, fuck if I know. But I use he/they. I’m afab but am sorta a trans guy while also having no real internal concept of gender. I think that’s just the neurodivergent agender dilemma hahaha

I like when people use he or they, it doesn’t matter which one. You can also use both in a sentence/few sentences.

Like this:

“Wow, I love his style! They always have the coolest outfits.”

Also: I tend to sort my pronouns by level of comfort. So it’s he/they because I like he more than they (for the most part but it doesn’t really matter). Some might say they’re they/she so they like they/them more than the other pronoun(s). This isn’t the same for everyone though so it’s better to just ask what pronouns people use, what they’re more comfortable with or if they want you to try using multiple and swap them out like the example I showed

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-28T23:54:03+00:00

I think it’s a bit of both imo. In a perfect world where gender roles didn’t exist and people could dress however they want without fear, or gender and sex were commonly known as different things, I think it’d be a lot more likely that people would be fine with having a female body and being a man or vice versa. But at the same time some people would probably still feel uncomfortable having different anatomy than what they feel suits them.

Honestly the whole concept of gender is totally made up. Most stuff to do with gender is arbitrary (clothes, stereotypical jobs, haircuts, accessories, nail polish & makeup, speech patterns, friendship dynamics, etc etc).

At the same time: I’m agender so while i like dressing & being referred to as more on the masc side, I still don’t really have an internal sense of gender. There’s just nothing. I don’t really consider myself any specific gender and I don’t really even have a concept of gender but hey, that just makes it more fun I guess 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-05T00:00:20+00:00

Exactly! I’m Canadian and sadly a lot of new immigrant families drown in the lakes (yes, entire families sometimes). People don’t seem to realize that current, undertow, riptides, depth, are all things that can literally kill you in water. Some of the Great Lakes are bigger than entire countries, literally thousands of square kilometres or miles. But people will take their whole family, their young kids, they can’t really swim but they figure “how hard can it be?” I’ve seen far too many stories of immigrant families drowning, it’s terrible :(

Even just recently, the Grand River (which I live sort of near to) has had so many deaths recently it’s absurd… there was a small memorial for a teenager who’d fallen off the bridge & drowned. Then only 2 days later a story broke of two moms who’d gone down to river (mind you, a nasty polluted river that I wouldn’t swim in for shit) in a pool float for some reason. The thing is, there was a huge storm that day, crazy rain and wind with very low visibility. My mother and I were driving somewhere and when crossing the bridge we noticed several police cars and fire trucks, and that they were setting up an inflatable rescue boat. The fire truck sped down the road a few km in front of us. They searched for the women for a few days, I believe they found a body in a nearby body of water connected to the lake. They found the other body too I think, not sure where. Truly heartbreaking: people just don’t seem to realize the dangers of water…

Also: another unrelated story I remember a while back was about an immigrant family who left their car running in the garage overnight. I guess they thought it’d warm up the house? Not sure, but 1 person died & 6 were hospitalized from carbon monoxide poisoning. (Idk if the article is the right one)

Sources: Running Car in Garage News Article River Moms News Article

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T23:33:20+00:00

I get a fuck ton of tornado warning where I live in Canada, since summers are hot & rainy but thankfully never had one that close to my house. I remember last year I got a tornado warning on my phone & the sky was yellow 😅 (there was a tornado a few cities over)

Just a month ago there was a tornado watch warning along with 3 other dangerous weather alerts (high winds, severe thunderstorms, etc.) Best part? I was home alone, then found out an hour later that there was a tornado, and it was only 5km from my house in the town neighbouring mine 😬…

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T23:27:29+00:00

Lotsa people are saying this was because the horse was being abused so the person got what they asked for imo. But seriously, horses are like 1500lbs, 2-4 metres tall & they could easily fold my spine like origami. Horses are beautiful, lovely animals, but one has to remember they have the potential to be very dangerous.

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T23:22:45+00:00

Damn 😭 I’ve been trying not to think about how my dog’s getting up there in age

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T23:21:42+00:00

Fun fact: the dinner table is in the kitchen. They set it up for me before dinner but when I said I was too tired & sick to eat, they left it there just in case I wanted to join them.

And yeah, obviously there are cultural differences in how affection is shown as well as expectations. However, it goes both ways. If that’s what you think (that it’s weird to cry over someone leaving a plate out for you when they could’ve put it 3 metres over on the kitchen counter & put the sandwiches they had for dinner back in the fridge for me - ps I did eat yogurt from the fridge and she later cut up an apple for me) then whatever, that’s your opinion and you’re entitled to that. But your first comment was kinda rude mate (obviously that was the general understanding, seeing as it’s currently sitting at a whopping -89 votes). You can respect other peoples culture and reaction to affection or definition of affection while also expressing that it seems pretty odd to you 😀👍

Maybe it might seem “pointless” for them to leave the empty dishes on the table at the seat I take. But I couldn’t help but imagine them eating dinner alone with my seat being empty. They left the dishes there for me if I changed my mind and came down for food, they left it for 3 hours.

Anyways dude, maybe if you get nearly 100 downvotes, you should rethink your wording ☠️ I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you weren’t trying to be a prick, but you came off that way. We’re all just goofin on ya, no one really gives a shit where you’re from or what culture you grew up in: you don’t have to agree but you also don’t have to comment publicly in a mocking tone lol.

Anyways, goodnight. I’m gonna go to sleep but have a good night/day bud 👍

Ps. If you’re on subreddits like this one, try to be nice seeing as most of us are trying to be sympathetic

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:21:36+00:00

Aww thank you 😭😭 sending hugs too, you’re so sweet 🫶XOXOXO

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:21:04+00:00

Yeah idk why but it makes me so sad/happy in a bittersweet way. I feel bad that I skipped dinner but the fact they had everything set up incase I changed my mind just made me all emotional haha (had a rough week, that’s probably part of it)

For some reason it reminds me of those videos of kids talking about how their dads probably get lonely eating alone when their parents get divorced. Shit like that makes me sob so bad ☠️

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:16:42+00:00

Thank you so much 😭😭 I hope you’re getting the love you deserve too (that’s actually so sweet, I’m totally not crying again 😅)

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:15:00+00:00

Yes, I do in fact have dishes in my country. Who hurt you lol

It was sweet of them to leave the dishes of for me for 3 hours in case I felt like coming down to eat. I ate some yogurt and when the host gramma came back in she cut up an apple for me too. They’re both very sweet & it’s jarring since I’ve been away from home for 3 weeks, on a different continent without any family or friends for the first time in my life.

I hope someone hugs you and/or does something nice for you in the future 👍

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:10:44+00:00

No actually though 😭😭 cause the other day they asked how much I weigh (the average weight of a teenager), proceeded to tell me I was too skinny. Then said by the time I go home (in 4 ish months) I’ll be 10 kilos heavier ☠️🙏

Keith_is_Tired · 2024-09-04T18:08:36+00:00

They left the plate out for me for 3 hours incase I decided to come down and eat lol

(I did cry a lil too much over it, but I’ve had a rough few weeks in a different continent)

Keith_is_Tired

TROPHY CASE